[opdirorg]

Society has conditioned us, as women, to feel insecure about our weight, our bodies, etc., and as women we unwittingly sort of get assigned to roles in our friendships (much like that in a family dynamic). There's the hot one, the fat one, the funny one, the slutty one, the prude, the responsible one, the flake, etc. I've lost a lot of weight over the past two years and my doing so has significantly upset the delicate balance in my friendship relationships, as well as my family dynamic. We still haven't figured out where I fit into things yet and there are still awkward moments.

My guess is that your friends aren't intentionally trying to be mean. If anything, your weight loss is so LOUD in their own heads that they aren't even thinking about you at all - they are, instead, thinking of their own insecurities, failures, etc. Their interrupting you and being rude is probably on a subconscious level. If they have been good friends, it may just take some time for you all to sort out where you fit into the social order of your group. Because, believe me, it's not just your new body they are noticing. It's also your new confidence that is a natural byproduct of losing weight and feeling great about it. Give them some time to get used to the new you. If they are true friends, it will sort itself out.

You are right. I was the fat one...and the blunt one. What you said rings very true to me....there is a lot of wisdom there.

I am holding out hope that this will sort itself out.

[jurhoonee]

This is a great subject, thanks for starting this thread!

My experience has been that in spite of how long Dr. Simeon's protocol has been around, precious few people are knowledgeable about it. ALL they hear is that you are taking worthless shots/drops & starving yourself. It is what I thought before studying HCG.

I have also observed over the years that there is nothing more threatening to other women than the new confidence & optimism we inevitably gain when we lose weight. For men, it is something like the sudden financial success of another man. Changes like what you have accomplished are intimidating to some women.

These are all their problems, & I hope they work through them! I have a certain little group of friends who are counting the days until I gain every ounce back. It is just one of the things that keeps me motivated.

Keep up the good work! I love reading your posts.

[ImmitsRom]

I have a certain little group of friends who are counting the days until I gain every ounce back. It is just one of the things that keeps me motivated.

Isn't that the truth! I have that group here also

[milfovoxapl]

Isn't that the truth! I have that group here also

Me too. I have to say, it makes me even more determined!

[Pelefaifs]

Congratulations on your weight loss, thats awesome. I think thats really petty on their part. Isn't it redicules that it was OK to be your friend when you were the largest one, but they can't deal with you losing? So ignorant. Good Luck in future loses.

[texbrease]

So, some of my complaint has resolved itself in the past couple weeks. One of my girlfriends asked me for information about how to start the HCG Protocol herself. This was late last week...I had lost 30ish pounds since she last saw me. Another friend who was there that evening ate lunch with me Monday of this week. She is still stalled in her weight loss. And, she has given up eating the strict 1000 calories she was living on to loose weight. She is not on the HCG bandwagon, but she listened Monday. She was shocked when she saw me. Secretly, I am gloating on the inside because I now wear a smaller size than her. ...She was the one who looked me up and down and said, "So what size are you in?..." the night I was loading and wearing my fat size 16s. The final friend is trying to convince me to stop loosing weight. I just try to assure her that I am not too thin....not by any stretch of the mind.

I still see jealously in all of them from time to time. But, I feel assured that our friendship will last through this. It is a changing dynamic between all of us.

[AgindyMinnife]

Congrats on your weight loss - you're doing GREAT! I agree that insecurity is soooo strong with us ladies. Hey, it starts as toddlers!!!

Keep on your journey with YOUR goals in mind. Be patient with your friends - I have had to tell a friend of mine that I didn't ask her for permission to do the HCG plan because I DON'T need her permission!!! We all make our own choices - you've made yours as have your friends. Patience will prevail & you and those friends will be fine!

Good luck Katerina!

Sherli

[HartOvara]

I've lost friends. Not nessesarliy because of hcg, but because I changed my life. I don't go out and drink too much and eat til I explode. And because of this, my "friends" stopped inviting me out, started looking at me up and down, and passing judgement. All I can say is, true friends wouldn't do that. These people obviously aren't real friends.

On a possitive note... CONGRATULATIONS!! You're doing amazingly. Don't let mean people get you down! Stay focused!