[Bbjhjxfy]

Hey all, is there anyone here who is also afraid to sleep? I'm lucky it's now the summer holidays so there won't be schoolwork affected by my all nighters and not going to sleep til very late/early times, but sooner or later I'm going to need to learn to get a grip on this. Any recommendations on anything that could help me not fear sleep?

[nancywind]

I would ask myself what is the fear of sleeping I have. What makes me fearful of sleeping and dive into those questions further. Could it just be darkness and the unknown or does a past life coincide with going to sleep. Many questions you need to ask yourself first and meditate on them. Write down how you feel each night and protect yourself would be my first defense.

Love and blessings

[career-builder]

From what I've discovered about my fears of sleeping, I know that I fear being unconscious, I fear forgetting things that might or might not have happened ok my mind while I was sleeping, and I have experienced panic attacks this year and some of the thoughts that cause them are worst in the dark. I'm also afraid of the dark. It used to be that I looked forward to sleep so I would stop experiencing my anxiety and sheer terror attacks, but now I can't stand trying to fall asleep at night.

[Hixinfineedom]

My daughter is 10 and she is like that as well. Though she's only afraid because of the chain letters that her little friends have been emailing her....


I give her Melatonin to sleep and she has been a lot better. Can I ask why you think you would forget things when you sleep? Is this something you've read or heard?

I also realize you hold back a lot on here because you don't want to give too much personal information or seem to appear to be silly.

If you have these fears, discussing them with us and having us help you break them down is good. Do you still have the fear of dying as well?

[BloofPailafum]

Someone I know just posted this on another board, it may help you.


Fear Deconstructed
There are 2 kinds of fear. One is reasonable protective fear. This type of fear tells us if we walk in front of a speeding train we will surely die. This is a minuscule portion of our fears. Most of our fears are in the- What If, I Can’t- type of negative self talk.

The first tactic in dealing w/ fear is taking full responsibility for our thoughts & emotions. This is often a difficult step, but it is necessary. It involves removing the excuses we use as reasons for feeling this fear. The results are more than worth it.

When fear arises we can actively stop the fearful thought or feeling, gently reminding self that this has never done us any good & won’t now. Then send it away. We can send these unproductive thoughts back to the Universe for reprocessing through HS. Any variety of creative visualizations can be used for this from assertive to gentle. Use what works for you. Wrapping fear & love & sending it off may work for one person while sending it away launched on a rocket may work for others!

Supplanting negative self talk w/ a positive option can be useful. If the fear is of the- What If- variety moving out of the low frequency panic of fear & passive victim pattern into the empowerment of examining real options can be productive. Avoid overly both living in the future & living in the past. Some retrospection is a useful learning process, but too much keeps us continually reliving the past. Likewise, while some future planning is productive worrying about the future what ifs robs us from the wonderful simple joys of living in the present.

Why does fear really occur? We can sincerely address our fears, but often these fears still persist, puzzling us. Fear results from our doubting that we will be able to deal w/ life’s situations. This doubt stems from not trusting our self. When we TRUST self & KNOW that we will handle whatever arises in our life’s journey we don’t have these doubts & the resulting fears.

We often easily have this TRUST in source/god/prime creator or the Universe. How could we not? This energy is omniscient, omnipotent, & omnipresent. We are often willing to extend this level of TRUST to our energies which are occupying places of higher dimensional consciousness such as our HS or godself/I Am Presence. We are, however, seldom inclined to extend this same TRUST to our own earthly energies, our self, even when we understand we are divinely sourced w/ an extended energy field. As we expand our consciousness we realize that our earthly presence is just as honored & trustworthy as our HS & spiritual team.

As we expand our consciousness we reunite our energies of self & HS+ (extended energy field). The Universal truth & wisdom available through our HS progressively becomes a part of self’s perspective. Suzan Carroll/Lie has written extensively about our reuniting our energies on her site multidimensions.com.

Science is discovering that our DNA is much more fluid than we’ve previously thought. As we reach increasing levels of consciousness it is very likely that we internally trigger DNA activation as a self regulating organism. This trigger mechanism in our nonphysical body is similar to how various hormones & body processes start & stop in our physical body w/ stages of growth. Universal truth & wisdom is encoded in our energies, & we activate it by reaching progressive levels of awareness. Our TRUST in ALL of our energies, including self ▲▲▲ PARTICULARLY OUR EARTHLY SELF ▲▲▲ is of the utmost importance to develop.

After we begin actively working w/ mastering our energies, being aware of maintaining our frequency & not slipping into negative thoughts that can lower our frequency we can be baffled when we still have those pesky fears crop up. This can occur for several reasons.

As we explore & select new beliefs we learn about them. Our integrating these into our psyche or core energies is an entirely different step. When we are in the stage of having learned about moving past fear but have not yet merged into the next step of integrating these new beliefs, fears can still arise. Once we have merged what we’ve learned about trusting our energies into our psyche fears rarely have occasion to surface as we no longer have doubt about our ability to handle life’s situations.

Knowing that these are 2 separate steps will prevent doubts from arising once new beliefs are chosen, but not yet fully absorbed. Stay the course & know that this is just part of the process. All of a sudden you will realize one day that drama or issues that previous caused fear don’t affect you in the same way. KNOW that everyone who has moved past fear has gone through this same process. It seldom happens overnight.

As we expand our consciousness we naturally unearth old energetic refuse. This can be unsettling if we don’t know to expect it. We must actively eject/release this old energetic debris. While this isn’t our favorite part of the process, it’s a necessary one where we clear our energy field to be able to safely hold 5D energies. This clearing is part of moving through 4D. Every time we successfully release/eject a level of this emotional debris we become stronger & more capable to deal w/ the next successive level that will be released when we’ve further expanded our awareness.

Sometimes when old energetic refuse arises people can think they have backslid or that the work they have done & teachings are bogus. Knowing there are successive levels of old energetic refuse to release/eject will prepare us for this process. That we’ve gotten to a place where these can be dealt w/ is substantial progress, so give your self abundant credit when this occurs & actively discharge this old energetic refuse. Note what it is, but don’t immerse your self back in the original energies as this can be counterproductive. This is necessary energetic housecleaning for our nonphysical body.

As we make more progress in mastering our energies we encounter a new level of fears that are more uncertainty than fear. When we are in the first stage encountering new beliefs it is much like the flush of being in love. Heady & oooooooh so wonderful. The delight of discovery. Then, like a long term relationship, it settles into moving far beyond the theoretical first stage of learning. We get into the hands on process of actually working w/ our energies. This is real learning just like anything else. These are the uncertainties of- Am I nuts to think I can actually move into the big league of 5D+? Is this just smoke & mirrors nonsense? By this point you will know to take a deep breath, breathe out the uncertainty, get recentered & communicate w/ HS for guidance about this. You’ll do fine.

Have considerable patience, compassion, & respect w/ self about establishing authentic TRUST. We’ve often had many thousands of messages that have told us that we can’t trust self. Organized religion is based on emphasizing the supposed difference between us, the inherently flawed humans, & the grandeur of God, a level that is supposedly impossible for humans to imagine, much less ever have the arrogance to imagine we could be aligned w/. Various trendy movements have falsely urged us to be fearful of our sexuality, will, self, emotions, & intellect, regarding these as things that controlled us. Societal institutions have also been invested in convincing us to be disempowered. All of this was & is flawed information to persuade us to voluntarily abrogate our innate SOVEREIGNTY.

▲▲▲ We aren’t flawed & never were. ▲▲▲ We don’t have to be perfected to honor that we are perfect beings on a learning journey. We will continue perfecting/expanding our energies for eons as we move through the Ds. multidimensions.com has excellent detailed information about the Ds & our journey through them. Our journey naturally progresses as we discard the beliefs that we are innately flawed & begin to truly TRUST our own energies as well as the Universe. Once we genuinely TRUST our energies numerous additional learning opportunities automatically unfold.

We expand from BEing to KNOWing to establishing our I AM Presence. We expand from seeking balance to finding it to fully merging w/ our extended energies. As we move into 5D awareness we merge these energies back into oneness. After establishing our I AM Presence, we have the freedom & confidence to fearlessly explore our vast potentiality. We naturally moves into a creative “Suppose I were ...” or “I Imagine ...”. We increasingly move into expansive exploration. Our awareness occupies increasingly larger perspectives from individual to planetary to galactic to universal. Being → Knowing → Creating.

We progressively move into BEing a creator energy as we dismantle our previous limitations. This includes our ideas about what we expect to occur w/ ascension. Fear or anxiety about ascension is just as disabling as fear about anything. When we have preconceived ideas this blocks our being able to access options that we may not have imagined. No need to limit self. We can miss out on allot this way. Boundaries that were once a comforting framework spiritually/energetically become outdated rigid confining limitations that we move confidently past, just as we now eagerly push our awareness beyond the constraints of our fears & doubts. Just be open to all possibilities & TRUST you will do fine in the journey.

Enjoy the journey for it is a journey of joy.

[priordine]

You mention fear of the dark, fear of being unconscious, fear of forgetting. Fear of the dark is a relatively common fear, but the other two are much less common. These sound to me like they have their root in a fear of losing control of yourself and your mind.

Whenever I have panic attacks, they the result of being in an extremely stressful situation and not being able to 'run away' from it. Usually it's in regards to work, where neither 'fight' nor 'flight' are practical options.

So I have to wonder - Are you experiencing severe stress at school, perhaps? Worrying about grades or tests or social situations revolving around the classroom? In that context, worrying about forgetting what you've learned and the answers to test questions makes sense - and when you're asleep (unconscious) those anxieties are unleashed (losing control) causing troubling dreams and unfocused fears to bang around inside your head.

If that's not the case, then you need to look deeper. Have you experienced some sort of traumatic incident while asleep? If not in this life, perhaps in a previous one? Normally we fear what has made us feel endangered, either in personal experience (a snarling dog dashing up to you) or a sensory experience (graphic horror movies). If you can put a name to the cause of this fear, you can begin to deal with it.

Have you tried meditating on this question? It is quite possible that your spirit guide or other spirit can shed light on this for you.

Whatever the cause, overcoming it will be a spiritually educational experience and will make life more enjoyable, so I strongly suggest tackling it head-on and conquering it.

Good luck!

[plalleste]

Hey PM, sorry to hear it happens to your daughter as well, my counsellor has also mentioned Melatnonin before. When I am about to fall asleep, sometimes I'll be thinking of something, and the next moment it's like my thoughts trickle like water through my fingers - I forget what I was thinking of, but I know I WAS thinking. That doesn't consciously scare me yet, but it feels a bit like what I imagine amnesia might be. I don't like not knowing when I fall asleep, and because I don't usually remember the dreams I dream, it's like I know last night there must've been stuff going on, but when I wake up I don't remember...

Thanks for remembering about some of the things that still play an integral role in my life :P It's true I don't always fully explain things, but I tend to worry that no one really wants to hear my problems over and over and over again... But yeah, I'm still afraid of death, I found that meditating helps somehow, but I never make my meditating a routine, I always give up and take it up again a while later, but only for a short while. When I'm waiting to fall asleep, the thoughts about death happen more often, they're harder to block out, the panic attacks I get are more intense, in some ways.

Thanks for the article, I'll look at the rest of it in a bit

Blue Tiger, I think you've got it right, that I might subconsciously be afraid to lose my mind. During the worst of my panic attacks that I've ever had, it felt like I was losing control of my sanity. Whether this is something related to a past life I have no idea. I haven't been able to meet my spirit guides, and if you read the mini rant I just wrote I don't particularly work very hard towards trying to get to know them...

Funny thing is, I partly feel that I finally fell asleep last night because I kind of begged an outer power, my guides perhaps, to stop me from thinking those thoughts. I'm not sure if it's just wishful thinking, but it seems to have worked, and works everytime I do it....

[Feloascarlelt]

Hi Greysfan I sense very strongly your fears are all down to your lack of trust. It is difficult to trust sometimes and is easier said than done. Take baby steps and allow it build up naturally. This forum is an ideal place for you to start, no-one judges, no-one will put you down you will receive only help, guidance and encouragement. Listen to Laura and Blue Tiger they know what they are talking about. Try not to analyze everything too much, we cause a lot of own problems by doing this too much and get wrapped up in it all. Remember to ground and protect each day and from that trust that nothing can harm you.
Hope this helps a little.

Blessings

Heather

[Ccddfergt]

Begging for the protection of an outer power, and asking that outer power to keep you from thinking the fearful thoughts is perfect! Whether you have knowingly contacted your spirit guide or not, that guide is clearly with you. Guides don't need to be seen to be present. You needn't know your guide's name in order to be helped.

Since this simple action on your part gives you relief from the fear, I recommend you make asking for protection an important part of your bedtime routine. Not only do you gain sleep and relief from the fear, you ALSO gain a feeling of control. When you recognize a problem (fear) and take action against it (admit you need help and ask for protection) you are taking control of the situation. Since your underlying problem is a fear of losing control, taking back control counteracts the whole issue. You win!

[Sipewrio]

Hey PM, sorry to hear it happens to your daughter as well, my counsellor has also mentioned Melatnonin before. When I am about to fall asleep, sometimes I'll be thinking of something, and the next moment it's like my thoughts trickle like water through my fingers - I forget what I was thinking of, but I know I WAS thinking. That doesn't consciously scare me yet, but it feels a bit like what I imagine amnesia might be. I don't like not knowing when I fall asleep, and because I don't usually remember the dreams I dream, it's like I know last night there must've been stuff going on, but when I wake up I don't remember...

Thanks for remembering about some of the things that still play an integral role in my life :P It's true I don't always fully explain things, but I tend to worry that no one really wants to hear my problems over and over and over again... But yeah, I'm still afraid of death, I found that meditating helps somehow, but I never make my meditating a routine, I always give up and take it up again a while later, but only for a short while. When I'm waiting to fall asleep, the thoughts about death happen more often, they're harder to block out, the panic attacks I get are more intense, in some ways.

Thanks for the article, I'll look at the rest of it in a bit

Blue Tiger, I think you've got it right, that I might subconsciously be afraid to lose my mind. During the worst of my panic attacks that I've ever had, it felt like I was losing control of my sanity. Whether this is something related to a past life I have no idea. I haven't been able to meet my spirit guides, and if you read the mini rant I just wrote I don't particularly work very hard towards trying to get to know them...

Funny thing is, I partly feel that I finally fell asleep last night because I kind of begged an outer power, my guides perhaps, to stop me from thinking those thoughts. I'm not sure if it's just wishful thinking, but it seems to have worked, and works everytime I do it....

You can also ask to remember your dreams. It is not unusual to forget what you were thinking as your brain gets tired. I am caring for my mother with dementia/Alzheimers and she is worse with her memory when she's stressed out or tired. It's a natural thing and you're not going crazy.

If it works to ask for help (I did this too when I was seeing faces at your age) then keep doing it. As Blue says, it helps you gain control and personal power against what you are fearing.

You'll do it I have faith in you.

[Heessduernbub]

Thanks for the advice pisces, you are definitely right, I have trusting issues that extend into my exploration of my spiritual beliefs. Whenever I open up and talk about things that make me feel awfully vulnerable, you have all been open and non-judgmental and have said and done things that have really helped, and I thank you guys for that.

Blue Tiger, I think I will do that whenever I feel that I need to sleep. I always feel guilty though, because I believe that you actually have to work for something to get it, and I haven't been doing that much this year. I sort of want to just attain my goals without working towards it, and so when I beg for relief from an outer power or a guide, I feel ashamed.

Awhile ago I went through a short period where most nights I could remember the dreams I had, and those, probably uncoincidentally, had been when I "prayed" to remember them. Thanks for reminding me Laura, and assuring me that it works, because if I thought I was the only one it happened to, I would be skeptical and worried that I'm just trying to believe in something to reassure my fears.

[fissasste]

You need to realize that acknowledging a greater power, and asking for help, is an act of faith and trust. As such, you are not getting something just for the asking, you are getting something as a result of placing your trust in a greater power. This is an important step in spiritual growth. Whether you realized it or not, you have learned a great spiritual lesson, and DESERVE the help and protection you begged for.

[Knqzjbmf]

I truly hope I deserve it, and believe it to be so. I feel guilty because I don't believe in so many spiritual things, I want to believe in them, but I have many doubts. I don't want to blindly follow a faith just to soothe my fears, so when I beg for relief, with a bunch of doubts and clamoring thoughts flooding my conscious, it gets, well confusing.

[kKFB1BxX]

You're to be commended for having doubts. I dare say we ALL have doubts.

As much as I believe in things spiritual, I don't blindly trust everything that I encounter or am told. I only trust what feels right and trustworthy, what makes sense, what does NOT make me feel creeped-out or suspicious.

For example, I believe that there are people who can act as mediums, who can allow spirits to act and speak through them. I don't believe that every person who claims to be a medium, actually IS one. There are many fakes and charlatans out there.

So don't feel bad about not blindly accepting spiritual teachings. Searching for belief and faith and truth is a long and fascinating journey, one that spans many years and often makes many side-trips.

Learn, question, seek, and you'll find your truth. You have earned the help you have received. Please believe and accept that, and build from there.

[jisee]

Well said, Blue Tiger!

[AromeWahmaron]

Thanks Blue Tiger for the pep talk, I got a bit teary-eyed reading that, to tell the truth. It feels nice to be reassured of something I can't fully believe in myself but want to.

[paydayus]

Trust and belief is the hardest thing in "spiritual" awakening. Having the trust that there IS a Higher Power and that this consciousness loves us and cares about us no matter who we are is very hard to believe. (mostly because Earth is far from that).

It is not selfish to ask for help. If you saw an elderly woman who was carrying too many bags and she asked you for help, would you think her selfish?


We are here learning and struggling most of the time. Our Creator consciousness is there for us ALL the time. He even sent us guides to be at the ready all the time because that consciousness that some call "God" knew that life was ROUGH!

Just as we have teachers, our guides are the same. They help us. They don't do the work for us. They will never force or push us. That is all our free will to choose.

I tell a lot of my clients... if something helps you, why wouldn't you use it? It seems a bit odd to me not to! Don't get dependent on it (a crutch to walk or a teacher who is willing to tutor), ultimately once we get moving on our own, we can let go of the assistance until it's needed again.

[spounnypneups]

I AM worried that I'll depend too much on them! :P I feel that if I ever meet them (and I've said this to "them") that I might rely on them... and sometimes I wonder if that's why I haven't met them yet, that they don't want me to use them for everything.

Until I myself fully believe in them, I feel like I'm using them whenever I ask for help. I don't do anything in return, I don't work to deserve it. I haven't meditated for a while, I don't read anything spiritual, and its gets really loud in my mind when I think of this. But at the end of the day I still ask for help, letting them know that I feel bad doing this, but I'm not gonna change for the better, I'm just using them so I don't stay up all night in fear of having panic attacks.

[chppjdf]

I don't know if it makes you feel any better, but I've only read a total of 3 spiritual books in my life. Contrary to most people on this journey, I feel like knowledge will come you to you when you already for it and in the manner that will be best received by you. Good luck!

[myhackingtosh_ws]

Thanks, and I guess I'll be slower to jump to "stereotypes" that spiritual people necessarily always read spirituality-related books :P