Intuitional advice required...
 

Hi, haven't wrote on here in a while, just been a lurker ha ha.
Anyway, i need help with something so please honest opinions and advice.
Recently met an amazing guy on an online dating site, to cut a long story short it's like dating myself we're so alike.
The snag is i have this horrible feeling that he hasn't read my profile properly and doesn't know i have kids. The reason is, he hasn't asked about them, nor have i brought them up. How can i bring this up? Should i do it over the phone or to his face? He likes kids and works with them and tells me how much he enjoys it, but i'm scared he will run a mile. Yes i know, if he does, he isn't worth it but i feel so connected with him and he seems really keen too.
So it's either he hasn't read my profile properly, or he just isn't bringing it up because i haven't.
I'd rather it be the second option but need to prepare myself for the worst, so how can i bring it into conversation? Should i do it over the phone? Or to his face? I'd rather do it face to face but he lives an hour away and would feel bad if he came over just to leave again.
Please any advice to stop me stressing....

My instinct is that you're reading too much into this, looking for a dark lining to a silver cloud.

I feel that he understands you have children, and it's not a negative issue for him at all. But it's you he's learning about, and it's you he enjoys talking to. That isn't to say that your kids are unimportant, just that at this stage of the game, his eyes on riveted on you.

Since you're insecure about this topic, I'd suggest taking the bull by the horns, but doing it very gently. Mention something the kids have done at school, or what you did with them last weekend. Make it a casual "piece of my life" comment. It will reinforce that you have kids in your life, without being blunt about it. When he shows interest, or chuckles along with you, it will ease your concerns immensely.

I'd definitely bring the kids into the conversation before you meet him face to face. Though I feel the chance is slim, if your children are a problem for this guy, you'll both be saved much heartache.

Thank you and you are right in everything you say, i am seriously over analyzing everything and i will bring it up when he rings on monday and update you. thanks for giving me the push :0)

He rang.... and Blue Tiger you were right, he knew, thank you for giving me the courage :0)

Lakota Spirit,

It's funny because I was in your same shoes about 2 years ago....i found a guy online (now my husband) and he never brought up my boys although I mentioned them a little.... He is now a WONDERFUL Stepdad and father to our little baby girl!
I think what Blue Tiger said was so true- He is just fixed on you right now so enjoy it!


Leigh

I will junky cat, thankyou :0)

I'm so happy for you! Now just relax and enjoy, and trust that the future will unfold as it should!