[GlictStiply]

To me..sounds like the dog isnt goin to work in your home. Tell your brother to GTFO and take the dog with him OR tell him ..since she(the ex) wants the dog SO BAD.. she gets to keep the dog for good. OBV. your brother just wants to say he HAS A 'BLUE PIT'. From what you are saying.. he doesnt really do much with her. Walks dont always cut it for some dogs. An hour walk wouldnt work for my girl and i sure in the fk dont want to walk for no damn hour.. esp. in the cold.

Norm. used to take me like 5min to smoke a cigg. I cant imagine your husband doing much besides just letting them in the yard with the other dogs while he is smoking.. which IMO is useless. (no fault of your husband of course.. it is your brothers dog. )

What does she have that she CAN chew on? Nylabone? I buy my girl the one for 20$..last her prob. 2 months, and shes a HEAVY chewer and chews it EVERYDAY. I take my girl skating, to the tennis court, i have a 40ft leash for her for training and playing(FOR OTHER AREAS THEN MY HOME..YOU KNOW..SINCE HOME IS KINDA old*). She needs something to stimulate her mind as well as her body.
Do you have any large KONGS that you can put babyfood/kibble mixture in and freeze? I norm have 3 of them in my freezer for times when my girl gets annoying, normally only need 1 thru the week..and 1 on the weekend. I also have a kong wobble for her. SHE FREAKIN LOVES IT.

Its your home. If YOU dont want it destroyed..then step up. Sometimes you have to be a bitch if you dont want your shit ruined. Thats just how it is. IF you dont want to give him his options OR take her under your arm as YOUR OWN..then you cant complain.

This and this

I would make a visit to the ex's and snatch my sh*t up If the dog wont play physically then make her do stuff mentally, challenge her mind.
No more feeding her from a bowl, get a tug a jug, tricky treat ball, kong wobbler SOMETHING that hold food that she has to try and get it out. My dogs were a huge fan of the tug a jug until my crazy bull terrier foster ruined it.

Do the frozen kongs, make a bunch of veggies into pulp and freeze it in the kong.
You can also do chicken broth and just use a baby carrot to plug the top.

Nina ottoson (sp) has tons of interactive mind games.
Training sessions will also make her use her mind.

You could also get a tread mill and force her to walk.

[diplmixxxx]

About six months ago my brother moved in with me and brought his beautiful blue girl Diamond. He moved in because he and his ex fiance had broken up and he could find a place in his budget that would take pits so i offered him our spare room and I thought it would be nice for Kolby to have his litter mate around to play with since are old fart like to lay in the sun most of the day. So not long after he moves in he tells us his ex will be taking Diamond for the weekend. I thought it was odd but whatever its his dog. At first she'd go of there on the weekends, then they started alternating weeks! Since this dog has been "living" at my house she has NEVER went a day with out pooping or peeing on my floor, chewing on my furniture, or destroying or breaking something. She is crated, in closed room when no one is here so all this destruction goes on while we're home! We'll be having a peaceful dinner and just hear a crash and ripping noise and running into the living room to find our couch across the room in pieces!! At first we punished her, then she started getting fearful of us and I just decided its because she's not here enough to understand our rules. Has anyone seen or delt with anything like before? I've tried talking to my brother and he just says he cant take her away from her "other family" (his ex has 2 other dogs) I've tried threats of evictions, even begging my mom who threating to take the dog back (she bought him the dog for xmas) I'm out of ideas.. I guess this is half rant half looking for any kind of advice!!

[wrardymar]

It sounds like a bored dog with no boundaries. I don't think her being at the other house has much to do with it, honestly - I think being treated like a child does.

[viagradiscounttt]

I don't understand this topic.

You let your brother move in. His dog acts like a brat. You want him to either tell his ex she can't see the dog or he is to move out?

Am I understanding this right?

[risyGreeple]

How much of a workout does this dog get? Are you solely relying on the other dogs to keep him busy or do you actually take him out and wear him out

[kenowinnumberss]

It sounds like a bored dog with no boundaries. I don't think her being at the other house has much to do with it, honestly - I think being treated like a child does.

This.

If you (or your brother) cannot directly supervise the dog, she should either be tethered to someone or crated, doesn't matter if you're having dinner, or taking a shit, crate the dog or take her with you. And add in to that more exercise and obedience work to tire her out, and give her set food and water times so you both can time when she needs to go out to potty.

[bug_user]

I agree with Teal and Robyn.

How much exercise is the dog getting? How many walks does she get in a day? How long are the walks?

Are you (or your brother) working on training with her? You can't expect a dog to "follow the rules" if she doesn't know what the rules are. Dogs aren't children. They need to be taught consistently how to behave. He Everyone in your household needs to take the time to let Diamond know what's expected of her (through training). I say everyone because though she is your brother's dog, if training isn't consistent with everyone, the training won't work.

[diplmixxxx]

Thank you everyone for the responses. When my brother moved in he knew we have a route with of boys and he agreed to follow it to keep everyone tired and happy.
Every morning (around 8-10) the boys go out back while I get dressed, once I'm dressed, bathed whatever we go on our morning walk/run. We're usually out for about an hour sometimes more, during the winter they usually bring me home before I'm ready to go. Every morning before I go I wake up my brother and ask him to go with me, sometimes he does, but most of the time he insists he'll just walk her later. If he isn't home, an d I dont have anything else to do I will take diamond out when I get home. But usually when I get home its time for me to hope in the shower get ready for class and work. Throughout the day the boys are in there own rooms with toys, there own blanket, bed, and usually a bone. Diamond gets a crate-no bed, no toys, no blanket or anything here. My brother doesn't buy her anything and if I buy her something he sends it with her to his ex's and it never comes back. I'll come home between class and work and let them in the yard for playtime for about 30-45 minutes. (1:30) and then if my husband & brother are working they go back to their rooms till 10pm. When I get home its dinner time for everyone, then a little while later another hour + walk.
Thats pretty much our day. When we play outside she just lays there, she doesn't play tug, fetch, she doesn't like the flirt pole, not even simple chase. She just finds a toy or stick and lays there and chews but once we come in she goes mad, running around like crazy. She will wrestle with Kolby but thats about it outside or in. Per my brother he does the walks but I'm not sure he does.
She's over a year old and she barely knows sit let alone any other tricks/training. I work with her everyday like I do with my boys, but when she comes back from his ex's she seems to have forgotten EVERYTHING so even shake/paw hasn't taken. Even "out" she forgets where she needs to go she'll run to the front door when we ONLY take them out through the back door unless we're taking them to the car.

[GDRussiayear]

(1:30) and then if my husband & brother are working they go back to their rooms till 10pm.
I'd probably act a fool if I had to be locked in crate with nothing to do for 9 1/2 hours.

[diplmixxxx]

I guess I should have been clearer on that. If I work till 10 my husband is usually home between 4-7. When he just get home he takes them into the yard to play frequently through out the evening because hes a smoker and takes them out with him. So they will go out for 20-30 minutes several times throughout the evening. They are hardly ever crated for more then 4 hours.

[dubballey]

To me..sounds like the dog isnt goin to work in your home. Tell your brother to GTFO and take the dog with him OR tell him ..since she(the ex) wants the dog SO BAD.. she gets to keep the dog for good. OBV. your brother just wants to say he HAS A 'BLUE PIT'. From what you are saying.. he doesnt really do much with her. Walks dont always cut it for some dogs. An hour walk wouldnt work for my girl and i sure in the fk dont want to walk for no damn hour.. esp. in the cold.

Norm. used to take me like 5min to smoke a cigg. I cant imagine your husband doing much besides just letting them in the yard with the other dogs while he is smoking.. which IMO is useless. (no fault of your husband of course.. it is your brothers dog. )

What does she have that she CAN chew on? Nylabone? I buy my girl the one for 20$..last her prob. 2 months, and shes a HEAVY chewer and chews it EVERYDAY. I take my girl skating, to the tennis court, i have a 40ft leash for her for training and playing(FOR OTHER AREAS THEN MY HOME..YOU KNOW..SINCE HOME IS KINDA old*). She needs something to stimulate her mind as well as her body.
Do you have any large KONGS that you can put babyfood/kibble mixture in and freeze? I norm have 3 of them in my freezer for times when my girl gets annoying, normally only need 1 thru the week..and 1 on the weekend. I also have a kong wobble for her. SHE FREAKIN LOVES IT.

Its your home. If YOU dont want it destroyed..then step up. Sometimes you have to be a bitch if you dont want your shit ruined. Thats just how it is. IF you dont want to give him his options OR take her under your arm as YOUR OWN..then you cant complain.

[diplmixxxx]

I have bought her kongs, nylabones, tires, antlers, tons of stuff. he sents the stuff to his exs when she goes to stay over there and they never come back so I just stoped wasting my money on them. I think your right about the fact he just wants bragging rights about owning a blue pit. and i would love to take her permently but long ago my husband and i desided two is our limit because that all i can handle alone on a walk so we dont think its fair to get more. plus financially we want to be able to take care of them and we only feel secure enough with that with two.
my husband is a slow smoker- slower if hes distracted, but 20 minutes is the usually.

[GDRussiayear]

I agree with Kammikaze. It's seems like the dog just is not going to work in your home. Maybe your bro should send her to the ex until he gets his own place. Then he can let the dog destroy his own shit. I cannot wrap my head around people tolerating animals using the bathroom in their homes. You don't have to put up with that,and no one should expect you to. It is simply unacceptable.

[Xzmwskxn]

I feel for ya, I really do. I had my brother come stay with me and he has 2 APBT. They were well behaved, but if he "forgot" to feed them or let them out I would end up having to do it.

See this from the dogs point of view. No toys to chew when the urge to chew hits, no training to stimulate mind, not enough exercise and attention, punished for doing things you're allowed to do over at the other house and really have no idea are "bad" things, no real routine with structure and rules... Of COURSE this dog is a misbehaving mess.

Tell your brother this isn't working. Tell him the dog needs to be trained, training needs to be consistent if it is going to work and that means the dog doesn't go to the ex's house anymore (since she isn't training her) or the dog goes there permanently and the ex can deal with piss, shit, and her stuff being destroyed.

If he decides to keep the dog, she stays at your house, he has to exercise and train her, keep her tethered to him when he's there and crated when he is gone, on a feed and water schedule to get her on a potty schedule and he has to get her some toys so she can chew without destroying your things. If he fails to do any of these things daily, you will consider it him being an irresponsible owner and the dog will have to go.

For the good of the dog and for him, put your foot down! If he doesn't like it, he's free to leave.

[DoroKickcrofe]

I agree with everyone, also...you buy the toys, they are not your brother's to give to the ex, so, make it clear that they STAY THERE. Also if you can move her outside on a chain spot she would probably be happy because at least she would get to move around and not be cooped up with absolutely nothing, not a solution but at least it would keep your house from being eaten

[Payodcapy542fro]

I would make a visit to the ex's and snatch my sh*t up. The dog needs something to do or make your brother replace it for your house. The reason he doesn't do anything outside is because he doesn't know how to play. I would drag your brother's butt out and teach him how to interact with the dog and teach him the right way. The dog would be tethered to your brother. The dog gets fed, the dog and brother go outside. When mine were pups that is what we did. Fed/outside/walk/play/training/inside. Bedtime/outside/walk/bed. We never used crates. Two to one the ex crates the dog for hours too but at least he has your toys to chew on. They learn by consistency.
Your brother is taking advantage of you and your household. Step up and put your foot down. Sorry to be tough with you but there is no way I would allow my brother to take advantage of me and my house.