[Khcyhshq]

Am I stupid for still crying my eyes out over my "Pet Bull" mix Brandi. She died 6 years ago this past May. I still cry over her every time I hear a certain song, or see a purple tennis ball. Hell anytime I hear sometime say the name Brandi I tear up. Is this normal?!

It's been 6 years since her passing, I thought it would get easier. But it hasn't.......I've been missing her like super bad lately....I'm thinking it's maybe it's her way of saying I should treat Beau better. I haven't been the best owner lately, and I feel like she's reminding me to go be a better owner maybe?

Or am I just stupid for thinking this? Is this normal?!

Sorry for the long ramble, I needed to get that off my chest.......

[gWhya5ct]

Am I stupid for still crying my eyes out over my "Pet Bull" mix Brandi.

No, you're human. I'd be more worried if it didn't effect you. 6 days or 6 years, you still love her.

If you think it is reminding you to spend more time with the one you have now then listen. That's not a bad thing either.

[zzarratusstra]

Yeah,I'd agree. I don't think time has very much effect on things like that.

[Ephejvll]

that ramble wasn't very long. it's normal, but you'll always get doubters who don't understand what it's like to love a dog, and then lose it.

Keep her in your memory, and someday you'll meet her again.

[Annewsded]

There are just some things that no matter when will still occasionally creep up and hit you right in the heart.

I fully understand how you feel. It has been 4 1/2 years since someone stole my girl Gabby from my backyard and I still looke for her when driving down the streets, or stop into the shelter for a walk through. I still cry sometimes wondering if she is still alive or happy with a new family.

Sometimes we just have a harder time letting go of something.

Maybe it's her way or even your own way of telling you to be a better owner to Beau.

[Louthcoombutt]

dogs ... people... hell anything you love ... stay with you.. and you never forget... you just learn how to deal with it....
I have family members who have been dead over 40 years and I still think of them from time to time... sometimes it brings a smile and sometimes a tear.... I still think of Sunny, a dog I lost back in 1978 and that is a bit more than 6 years... I actually remember an old bitch from 1956 so if your 6 years are stupid, then my memory must be plain crazy...

[spaxiaroorbes]

Totally normal.It's been 4 years since my first pit bull died of cancer,i still think about him,miss him and sometimes cry about him. Your fine for feeling as such.Anniverseries of someone dear's loss can be hard,long after they have passed on,be the animal or human.

[drugimpotence]

I don't think it's abnormal. I know that when Bubba passes that will be one of the saddest days of my life... I doubt even 30 year will dull the memory of what a great and loving dog her is. It's ok to take time to remember and smile or have a little cry.

[j2Y6Ysmb]

I'm still missing my gsd that I lost when I was 11. She was my security blanket growing up. So you're not silly or weird. I still miss my Fraul(Short for Frauline) See Now you got me tearing up!

[sleelverrex]

You are NOT weird at all! Crying over a loved and lost pet is normal, and good really, it reminds you of something good you once had. I still cry over Peaches, who was stolen from me almost two years ago. I'm always emailing shelters, and searching craigslist for her. I'm moving back to the area where i lived with her last, and i plan on searching for her more. I don't know what happened to her either, so i'm hoping to find out that she is at least happy. i'm forever crying over her, when i see other people with brindle apbt's or really sometimes, just a dog that is making a face similar to her. I cry all over again.
so don't worry, i think it's more normal than if you didn't care at all. besides, it's good to cry sometimes.

[gDGwm8BC]

Your heart never forgets the ones you love, whether it be human, or canine.

You will always miss her, but listen to what she's telling your heart.... spend more time with the one you have, love with all your might, and do it in memory of her.

[Zaxsdcxs]

I still can't quite look at a family picture including my toy poodle mix (RIP Patches) that sits on my dresser. It took me til spring to throw away his bed and he passed in December. I have a hard time mowing and weedwhacking the area behind the garage where I buried him and get all sad whenever I have to go back there to bring my dogs into the house.

Considering my issues, you are perfectly normal.

By all means, if you think this emotional stuff is a reminder to be a better owner then be a better owner. You and your dog will feel happier for it.

[objennasweene]

No, you're not stupid... or you're part of the majority of animal lovers who are stupid...

I still get upset over the three cats I had growing up. I was probably 5-6, but I remember them... Stripey and Smokey (original, eh?). The other one was Rose Posie Tigger Tiger Jr Double.

My parents made the cats stay out. It got so cold in the winter that I would go out and drape a throw rug over the cats lying on the porch chair, and they were so cold they didn't move out from under it until they had to. Stripey got shot on his flank, my parents put gauze on it and peroxide, after a week it started to rot and they dumped him at a shelter, where he was amazingly saved by a rescue. Rosie just disappeared. Killed most likely... Smokey was still a kitten, he probably got hit by a car, but we came home and his hip and leg were broken. The vet said that, since we could not afford surgery, she would either put him to sleep, or do the surgery ONLY if we gave him to her, because she got attached... Of course we went with the second.

That has been many years but it still hurts to think about it, and I don't even like cats as much as dogs.


And I know what you mean about the songs. There are a couple who remind me of my lost dogs. One I used to enjoy, but they had it playing in the room when they euthanized Dutch... The other I associate with my bulldog because I had a page for her, with the song on it. And I can't hear either without having to change it or crying my eyes out. I don't deal with loss well...

You're human, I'm sad to say... It's normal.

[CedssypeEdids]

No you're not. I still get teary when I think about my boxer who died 10 years ago.

[hubua990]

some people cry, some people don't (like me)... we're all f'ed up regardless.

[66paptroump]

Have you ever seen that tan/white pit bull terrier on the Sarah McClaughlin animal shelter commercials? I fell in love with that dog at first sight through a TV screen and my eyes still well up a little when I see that poor dog layin' there shaking like that. I'm a 51 yr. old male who sheds a tear now and then for a dog I don't even know. I don't consider myself stupid because of it and neither should you. If anything it shows you have a good heart.

[Nptxsews]

no. Hell a cry over stuff that hasn't happend yet. Like i'll start to think what will i do when mugs goes to doggy heaven and i think he is so awesome no dog could take his place.then i'll get all sad tear up.

[gWhya5ct]

no. Hell a cry over stuff that hasn't happend yet. Like i'll start to think what will i do when mugs goes to doggy heaven and i think he is so awesome no dog could take his place.then i'll get all sad tear up.

It happens to me as well. Whoever it was that got the notion "real men" don't cry and started spreading that manure was a jackass.

I see it as a reminder to me that I need to spend more time with her while I can.

[MyOwnStyle]

No, you aren't stupid. A little emotional maybe, but that's not a horrible thing.

It's been a year since Cuddles passed away, and when I was telling my Aunt the story of the day she died, I almost started crying, so, death effects us all and we all get effected differently, and it takes us all a different amount of time to deal with it, though, I believe it always sticks with us.

[ThisIsOK]

dogs ... people... hell anything you love ... stay with you.. and you never forget... you just learn how to deal with it....
I have family members who have been dead over 40 years and I still think of them from time to time... sometimes it brings a smile and sometimes a tear.... I still think of Sunny, a dog I lost back in 1978 and that is a bit more than 6 years... I actually remember an old bitch from 1956 so if your 6 years are stupid, then my memory must be plain crazy...

Same here. Every dog I have lost since 1964 if something reminds me of the dog it is like being punched in the stomach. I still miss my Grandpa and he died in the 60s also. I don't think you really ever recover from losing something you love.

---------- Post added at 05:19 PM ---------- Previous post was at 05:18 PM ----------

Have you ever seen that tan/white pit bull terrier on the Sarah McClaughlin animal shelter commercials? I fell in love with that dog at first sight through a TV screen and my eyes still well up a little when I see that poor dog layin' there shaking like that. I'm a 51 yr. old male who sheds a tear now and then for a dog I don't even know. I don't consider myself stupid because of it and neither should you. If anything it shows you have a good heart.

I can't watch those commercials they always make me cry.