[Slonopotam845]

The op remains me my friends life story.but why always blame girls ? guys are not dumm,ayyo pavam cases. they know very well what will happen if they choose the right person ,so the story screen play ,direction ,inital producer they take up.(guys) what i meant is women /girls even though strong in mental power ,they are emotinal bundle, when being tapped they get trapped .let me narrate it, she was in her final year finishing stage ,mudillar ,got engaged to IAS in delhi ,inivations being distbuted process, they were( muslim boy, girl) were known for few years,a muslim guy having a small fancy shop, like cinema got register their marriage ,and when girls parent went to their home town for kulla deviam ,relatives ,they eloped.now she is the ATM machine for the family ,that muslim guy is / was too smart .he does not go for proper work ,she bears all expenses.her parents were shocked, even for her delivery her father did not turned up ,her mom was allowed later, she (my friend) was instructed not to talk ,meet ther parents, yes by the way she got converted a day before her marriage.now she lives as maadil male poonai life ,she brakes into tears any time regard less of any issues.even her inlaws are not too good.girls / women has to be openly frank to discuss the views in her home.parents has explain the ill effects of it .

[Slonopotam845]

@ Dr. C Narayani
Maam boys too are equally on the wrong side but the question arises b'coz there is an overwhelming number of girls suffering esp. from here. So my question is how to create awareness, how to deal with issues when girls have eloped ( why are parents washing their hands off) , how to integrate them back....

[softy54534]

Maam boys too are equally on the wrong side but the question arises b'coz there is an overwhelming number of girls suffering esp. from here. So my question is how to create awareness, how to deal with issues when girls have eloped ( why are parents washing their hands off) , how to integrate them back....

[PhillipHer]

There are many reasons for brahmin girls eloping / getting married without the knowledge of their parents!

1. The parents always blaming inter-caste marriages and threaten their children NOT to do so.

2. The girl is NOT able to tell about her love for a NB guy.

3. Too much of madi and AchAram in the house and the girl wants to escape.

4. Prolonged search for a matching horoscope for the girl.

5. Support from the guy's family because he has chosen his partner form a HIGHER caste.
(The guy will elope, if his choice is from a lower caste, which does not happen often!)

6. Financial support needed by parents from the girl.

7. The girl believes all the praising words uttered by the guy.

8. She thinks that once a child is born, her parents will forget everything and accept her.

This list goes on and on.........

It is very sad that the expectations of the girl's parents are very very high, now a days. Look at a few matrimony sites!!
They keep on searching for the BEST and never ever care to ask their daughter, if she has chosen anyone already!

PS: If the title of thread had the word 'brahmin' added to it, someone would have given five stars!!

[Lt_Apple]

Hi Renuka,

When you are done getting a 6 pack ribbed rectus abdominis please kindly upload your pic in forum. Poor Raghy working out on the grooves of his abs. Girls can indeed drive men to madness, no end!! LOL.

Cheers.

[LottiFurmann]

Hi Renuka,

You see we LOVE something that's why we take the trouble to watch it an enjoy it even if it's porn. What you have put down is worth a heated discussion in a pattimanram with the topic "Love off porn" and "love of porn". One is exploring and enjoying the physical self while the other is depravity. You said it!

BTW many a times I see married people thinking marriage is without lust.
I was just wondering what do these people do at home?
I am sure no one is doing Pooja,Abhishek and Sahasranamam to their respective partners. I refer you to a book written by Khushwant Singh. While I have forgotten the name of the book I remember what he said. I would love to reproduce it here but I am afraid I may touch a hornets nest by that inviting red letter intervention. If you can get that book please read it. True Sardarji style he had been too blunt with his observation about what sex is for most of Indians.

Cheers.

[doctorzlo]

Ma'am it is high time that some reformation happens... we can't afford to let things dictate

[Raj_Copi_Jin]

Ma'am it is high time that some reformation happens... we can't afford to let things dictate

How can you expect any change? Because,

1. Girls who are highly educated would like to dominate.

2. They do not wish either to listen to their parents or their elders.

3. They want to marry a person with salary in the 'high bracket'
( a new word in the marriage market!)

4. They do not care to have their partner from their own caste.

5. A divorce is not a stigma anymore!

[Beerinkol]

I wrote about girls from the high income group.

Now about the girls from the lower income group.

1. They doubt whether their parents would find them a partner at all!

2. Dowry has NOT vanished from the society and parents struggle.

3. They are ready to convert to other religions since grass is greener on the other side!

4. They have to grin and bear the consequences of elopement, because they don't dare to divorce.

5. They expect their parents to accept them at least a few years later / when they face some trouble.

[Beerinkol]

I have a doubt. What is the definition of 'elope'?

Boy or girl fall in love, find a mate outside their community, religion, state and status (social and financial) inform their parents of their intent to wed, but not approved by their parents. They walk out and marry. This, in my opinion, cannot be called eloping.

Boy and girl in love, do not inform the parents (out of fear or rejection) and run away without warning, to marry or live-in; this is 'elope'.

I have come across many cases of the first type; but the second type only from media.

[Raj_Copi_Jin]

dear Mr. TJ!

A naughty poem written by me says it all in a funny way!


131. THE SNUG BUG.

They knew he was a thug,

She was under love’s drug;

Each ear stuffed with a plug,

All the warnings met a shrug.

She thought he was her jug;

He thought she was his mug!

He was in fact a mere bed-bug,

Wishing the comfort of a rug,

He felt complacent and smug,

He loved his shelter real snug!

No amount of parental tug,

No amount of brotherly lug,

Could free her from his hug.

He was the meanest slug,

And a first class humbug,

The tussle ended with a…

Kooo chug chug chug chug

chug chug chug chug chug!

Source :Naughty Poems long and short



This is one of my two gifts for your enthusiasm.

The other one...??? Well find it out by yourself!

[PhillipHer]

You are right Sir! Unless the parents are blind, deaf, dumb and indifferent,

they CANNOT miss the signals given out by their wards.

No point in blaming them after blocking all the other options except running away!

I have a doubt. What is the definition of 'elope'?

Boy or girl fall in love, find a mate outside their community, religion, state and status (social and financial) inform their parents of their intent to wed, but not approved by their parents. They walk out and marry. This, in my opinion, cannot be called eloping.

Boy and girl in love, do not inform the parents (out of fear or rejection) and run away without warning, to marry or live-in; this is 'elope'.

I have come across many cases of the first type; but the second type only from media.

[9mm_fan]

Just use the icon

discussion deviating... :-(

[Drugmachine]

These KIDS know the story of Dasaratha...who could ride in his chariot in all the ten directions(the usual eight directions + up+ down)

Previously they used to commit suicide and go UP together as martyrs of love.

Now they go DOWN and hide underground keeping their whereabouts completely in the dark!!!

[radikal]

YOU Don't need to be addicted to heroin!

Being addicted to your heroine is enough.

Am I correct sir???
Heroine??? Heroin???

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You don't need to be a heroin addict or a performance poet to experience extremity. You just have to be in love.--Hornby, a Novelist.[/COLOR]

[doctorzlo]

I know people who MUST end their meals with thayir chadam.
Otherwise they don't feel as if they have eaten properly.

Ha Ha Ha..same person? then where is the "Kickku"?

You can't be having Thayir Sadam(curd rice) for all meals everyday for the rest of your life isn't it?
Variety is the spice of life and we Indians DO NOT lack any spice!!LOL


Disclaimer: This post is meant to be a light hearted post.It is not meant as an advise to be followed.The poster will not be responsible if anyone is tempted to taste the forbidden fruit after reading this.!!LOL

[Big A]

I was wondering where everyone was!

Was this the usual week end lull??

But I see everyone is here!

Who could keep away from such a meaty topic???

It may emerge with a thousand different headings

but presto it attracts everyone like a ripe jack-fruit attracting

you know what !!!

just one question to TJ!

Is anyone close to you an affected party in an elopement?

YOU need not answer, if you don't feel like it.

[Paul Bunyan]

Visalakshi ma'am I mentioned it in the first post itself ( 2 from my 'in-laws' family)... But however ma'am I would like to know wether this phenomenon is widespread and has reached alarming propotions... because in every wedding ceremony I find atleast one mother who has allowed her daughter to elope( esp christians)... more impo I am also hearing that it is a part of 'conversions' and stuff... this intensely pains me.... for more than 5000 years we have lived in this country, but will we be able to survive this onslaught... I am sorry to say but my frustration is so high that--- Is 'Ranganathar' a stone?... I try my best to create awareness but still I am saddened by non senses ....

[9mm_fan]

Sowbagyavathy DrR.C.Narayani, Greetings.

I refer to your message in post #20. If she 'converted' the day before marriage, she was asking for trouble. If she did not value herself, if she was prepared to devalue herself to go through 'conversion', it is a small wonder she did not value her parents. She didn't have to wait that long to 'elope'. By not valuing her parents, she lost her respect with her in-laws too. Really sad.

[S.T.D.]

I am sorry to say but my frustration is so high that--- Is 'Ranganathar' a stone?......

Dear Thejasji,

However frustrated you feel never ever blame God.
God is everything from a stone to the cosmos.

Remember this line:

Karun kallanalum Thanigai malaiyil Kallavein,
If am I to become a stone, I would be glad as a stone in Thanigaimalai;