[AmfitNom]

My first Thai friend was a cracker! Smashing girl in every way, was with her for 6 months and started to hear rumours about her family life. I was living with her and could see no way for her to have another life outside our relationship, but the rumours persisited, 3 kids, 4 kids, husband, etc. etc.
Finally confronted her, and yes, it was true, not only had three kids, with mine(?) on the way, but the husband turned out to be a very high ranking police officer. Exit left, khunlungphudu!

[ErnestTU]

be careful cos many thai girls in some industry get along with a man to raise up another man.

but if you are sure she is nice & sincere...and really love her..do it.

i don't mean to look down at anyone and i am thai..but you can ask any thai if it is true.

[alegsghed]

You must decide for yourself what to do,other people will offer advice but the only person who knows the answer to your problem is you.Most people will advise to take the easy path and forget her,this is easy to say for others as it does not involve them at all.Ask her what she wants,if it is you then go for it,if she does not want you then move on.This is an everyday relationship situation,it is not unique to Thailand it is the same all over the world whichever country you live in.

[UHlVExs7]

lol @ stacker omg!!!

Ok firstly I would try to put your-self in the other persons shoes. Think how he feels. If that dont alter your perspective then go for what you want with all guns blazing!

If she dont trust you I would deter from feeding her with 'farang riches'. You wont be doing your-self no favours.

[inchaaruutaa]

I suggest some therapy first of all, and why would you engage in enough activity to 'fall in love' with somoene who is not even available?? Leave it alone get some counseling and let the child have his father. It is the same as it is in the UK, if she is going to leave him she will do it. But please continue buying her gold and giving her money. I love the way the farang enrich Thailand.

[Alliopeti]

take the thirty sixth tactic...

get out! for gawds sake run!

[inchaaruutaa]

lol ya it was harsh

Well considering the amount of details given and the nature of this website, the family atmosphere, the young children who frequent these forums, it did not seem too apropos. It just looks like something you would find on Stickman or mangojuice.com. Not really a family type of question, I mean he is basically wanting her to leave the man she is with and the child's father. Seems kinda... well carry on but I stand by my advice.

[Nemerov]

I am in love with a thai lady, the farang father of her child has turned up, he found out she was having an affair with me and hired a couple of thai pros to beat me up, i got away, she has 2 other kids with a thai man who left years ago, i know she wants to be with me, her father says the child is to young to loose its dad, her mother i think sides with me, she has lost 5-6 kilos in 2 months and she was thin before, i know she is going through ####, he is a control freak and wont let her out of his sight...not a nice man, i am extremely worried about her, i would marry her and look after the whole family, i know she is thinking about 10 years down the line, how do i prove to her that i will be there for her? i do love her so much, my only real concern is for her, i will look after her and the children....what do i do....sorry this is a bit heavy for a internet chat, but i am at my wits end and scared for her, could someone suggest something, i have helped with money befor, and brought her some gold, i want to marry her, she refuses to marry the father.........difficult eh? any help would be great.....

[TiepayWrary]

Whoa. Sound a little too dramatic for my comfort and style. If I were you I would find my self another girl. You don't want to piss of a guy with a jelious disposition. Next time you may not be so lucky and they may do more than just rough you up. But the heart does not let go easily and I understand why you might not want to cut your losses and give up. Good Luck.