[DJElizardo]

I cant drive yet .. If I could i would have drove myself along time ago :P .

How long until you can?

[ireleda]

Well, I think getting a ride on your own to the dojo doesn't hurt any family relationship since he said he doesn't want to practice kendo anymore. I wouldn't give a damn if he's "mad" at you coz he's a numbskull. If his parents mad at you, explain to them the situation coz you know your cousin will tell them a different story. Just tell them his schedule "conflicts" with yours, so you're getting a ride on your own. If I were you I'll start looking for maybe a bus that goes to that area and walk to the dojo for the rest.

[pissmanvd]

my mom and dad work late. If my parents were free, I would gone by myself a long time ago my friend. Sucks too be young doesnt it -.-

er... next solution.. bike to kendo? (no maybe not haha..) How old are you if you dont mind me asking? I think your family should cut off contact with your other mean family members. Whats wrong with them? I mean arent we all suppose to love eachother in a family? AND NOT GET MAD BECAUSE OF A STUPID CAR RIDE THAT GOES OVERBOARD??? Geez! well, I guess you could ask a friend or someone to drive you...maybe another kendo member? Or ask your sensei, your sensei will help you alot.. well their not a sensei for no reason right?

[viiagrag]

The only few ways that you can solve this is to go face to face with your cousin. Talk to him, find out why he is acting like that towards you. If he says that you are a hassle to him, just try to be nice and tell him that you will find another way to practice and not trouble him anymore. Sometimes being nice will make a person feel bad for treating others badly.

Since you did mentioned that making certain decissions might cause problems with the family ties. Have you ever considered that maybe he was forced to give you a ride? I can't be sure, but his attitude does look like so. Because if he have the choice, he would rather not giving you a ride at all.

If everything is not working, talking to your parents and also his parents is a good option.

Good luck and tell us the outcome or if you still need more help.

[shemadagaswer]

Wait how am I gonna bike to kendo? I have my bogu and my shinai as well.... even if i have to walk i'll have to carry the heavy bag and shinai around and hope not to be pulled over by a police officer ... lol... :\

Maybe you can ask your sensei whether can you leave your bogu and shinai behind in the dojo? If that is not possible, maybe you can get help from other kendoka to help you to keep them. I know some of my sempai does that because some doesn't own a car to carry their bogu and shinai. I did that few times for my team mates too.

[chelviweeme]

Blood is thicker than water

and thats what i hear from everyone in my family everyday. confront someone about it. you will know where the border lies. chances are, if you're really concerned, it would be difficult to sour a family bond.

my cousins do that to me all the time because i'm the youngest. how i solve the problem (and at the same time, fuel it) is i do something like that right back to them. not because we're immature, just because we're closer than friends.

well, sorry you had to read that bad advice.

[Edqpdnuu]

Hi there,

Don't let your family worry you ... just organise your own lift and let you cousin turn up at your house (late) expecting you to go with him...

The guy's a twat ... Blood is thicker than water, but your cousin is thicker than most...!

Be independent... all the advice on this thread points that way...

Good luck...

Cheers

[foI3fKWv]

Any chance to hold out for 6 months and get your drivers license and an el cheapo?

I know this is gonna be hard but it's either living with his BnS till you have a ride of your own or talk things out.

I don't agree much with Mad God but I think he might have a point that your cousin is just trying to bully you out of kendo cause he doesn't wanna do kendo anymore. I hope you won't let him.