[Qahtwugc]

hi this is yet another kendoka who has fell in love with another in the dojo T^T
It's been a year since the crush and now I don't know if i should simply move on or continue~ Since school started again, I haven't been able to attend practice regularly. Should I use this as an excuse to leave it behind?

[tmobmobfil]

I think , If you're into someone just go for him/her xD!!!!!

[UJRonald]

Does this other dojo return your affections? How does your current dojo feel about you, will it break the dojo's heart?

[icedrakona]

Does this other dojo return your affections? How does your current dojo feel about you, will it break the dojo's heart?

He / she did say another IN THE dojo

[actrisski]

Oh! I thought said fell in love with another dojo

[dgdhgjjgj]

apparently 90% of the ppl knows that i like her (including 'her') but it seems that she pretends to be completely oblivious T^T

[id2008]

Dojo love is forbidden
but

in life,
You'll always kicked youself in the ass asking what could have been
Might be nice to you got to know her outside of the dojo, obviously
then see where you go from there.

go for it man
gl

[Senasivar]

I wish I had a chance to get in on the last thread. I actually went along with this and went after a girl I met in kendo.

Frankly put, while I don't think that it's personally any different than meeting anyone anywhere else, there's a lot of complexity to the issue. Her parents were kendoka, with her dad a very serious yudansha at my old dojo (this was a few years ago, when I was still in high school). He received me pretty well for the father of a teenage girl, but in keiko he always seemed to be testing me. I felt a serious need to always go above and beyond in keiko to show him I was effectively "good enough" for his daughter. He appreciated it, but in terms of kendo, I think the motivation wasn't the right kind.

The worst was when we had to keiko together. We were about the same rank (yon-kyu) at the time, so we had a lot of jigeiko with each other. Frankly, it's really awkward: you look at this girl you're with, and can't bring yourself to attack or do anything. It really comes down to a tsuba-zeriai nothing-fest where both of you just kind of rest until you start fighting others.

In the end, like so many youthful indulgences of that period, it kind of fell on its face. Kendo wasn't really a huge detrimental factor, but it certainly got weird when we had to compete against each other.

Be careful with what you get into on this one.

[Controller]

well, i guess the idea is to leave all other things in your life at the entrance of the dojo
when you're there, you're there for kendo

[Creelaleps]

apparently 90% of the ppl knows that i like her (including 'her') but it seems that she pretends to be completely oblivious T^T

im guessing youre quite young but if you dont ask her youll never know will you ?

Its like shiai - you might be nervous about the outcome but you wont find out unless you step up to the mark

just ask her out for beer/burger/movie whatever is appropriate

if she says no then youre done - then its time to move on

if she says yes then when youre in kekio just remember then with bogu on shes just another person to practise with

good luck !

[doksSirmAdods]

There's someone that can give you pointers which might help in discovering what your target is really thinking, the KW member i'm talking about has this signature smiley: , last known location is the smut thread. This post will be erased after you read it..........or not

[JeffStewart]

apparently 90% of the ppl knows that i like her (including 'her') but it seems that she pretends to be completely oblivious T^T

Ah, the old wooing kata, ipponme.

You are shidachi

[mashabox]

Dojo love is forbidden

Dojo love is forbidden. Attachment is forbidden. Possession is forbidden. Compassion, which I would define as unconditional love, is central to a Kendoka's life. So, you might say that we are encouraged to love!

[ancexiaepidge]

Let her know how you feel by talking to her.. if she isn't interested walk away from it.

[QwOpHGyZ]

Dojo love is forbidden. Attachment is forbidden. Possession is forbidden. Compassion, which I would define as unconditional love, is central to a Kendoka's life. So, you might say that we are encouraged to love!

Dervish that movie is taboo...


Offer to take her to Wendy's for a 2 1/2 piece nugget.

[retTreftowhexm]

Dojo love is forbidden. Attachment is forbidden. Possession is forbidden. Compassion, which I would define as unconditional love, is central to a Kendoka's life. So, you might say that we are encouraged to love!

the dark side is strong with you....


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anyway, on topic: I think most of the times is better to regret for the things that you have done instead of regret the things that you "should have done but have not done" (as muhammed ibn fahalad would say). if you have a thing on anyone you should play the game before someone else does. the longer you wait the higher are the posibilities to get it wrong, or even worse, get "friended". if you have ben waiting for about a year... well, you do the math.

you are lucky anyway. personally I wish that suddenly appear someone to fell in to, dojos are not good places to find "someone" and stuff like that... maybe I should travel somewhere else (australia hahahahaha)

MAKE YOUR MOVE THIS WEEK KID!!!!!

ps: you signed up in the forum for this????!!

[zabiqapara]

i dunno what the big deal is... ask her out if you like her. maybe she's oblivious because you're not doing anything.

[NikkitaZ]

There are plenty of fish in the sea. Look elsewhere. With so few kendo dojo in America, it would be a shame if your crush caused enough awkwardness to force either you or her out of kendo. Dojo as meat market is a concept unsavory to me. Don't fish off the company pier and all that.

That said, I'm married and the sight of a woman in my dojo is quite rare, so I don't have these problems.

[AbraroLib]

the dark side is strong with you....

You mean the light side.....

if you have ben waiting for about a year... well, you do the math.

Wow i missed that part, hey Zetsubou-kun are you trying to get through to her by thelpathy or something, come on man.

ps: you signed up in the forum for this????!!

KW asside from its harsh McDojo rehablitation center is also known for its Dojo love counseling.

[CorpoRasion]

... are you trying to get through to her by thelpathy or something, come on man...

Hey, its worked fine for me. Keep it up, man!