[Crazykz]

Hello,

For those who haven't read my introduction, I am new to Buddhism.

So I was wondering, where do I start?

And how does a Buddhist deal with Jealousy? Jealousy is something I am dealing with on a monthly basis at the moment. Myself and my fiance have been trying for a baby for 7 months now with no success, but it feels like everyone else is getting pregnant with no problems at all! In the last month alone I know of 3 people to have fallen pregnant!

I hate feeling jealous. Please, someone help.

[Fruriourl]

So I was wondering, where do I start?

Welcome Skelosia !

There are 2 threads with resources in them near the beginning of the topics this Beginners forum.

This one "What is Buddhism" has a short MP3 listen to, with accompanying text.

http://www.buddhismwithoutboundaries...at-is-Buddhism

The other is called 'On the Four Noble Truths'

with kind wishes,

Aloka

[KojlinMakolvin]

Welcome Skelosia.

I'm sorry to hear of your problem. My partner and I have suffered miscarriage, I know how disheartening it can be trying for a baby. But the more into buddhism you get, the more it can ease your mind. I found the easiest way to get into buddhism is with the meditating. The path you eventually take on your spiritual journey will open up and be your own. Only you will make the decision thats most comfortable with yourself. There's plenty of ways to meditate, lots are on here in various forums. Thats the best way to open the door, after that whatever feels right to you will be your best aid.

Don't feel that you have to rush into a solution. Slowing down and calming the mind is very important. Good luck in your journey, there's plenty of help here! (Defo better than my advice anyway!)

Chai yen

[aaaaaaaabbbby]

And how does a Buddhist deal with Jealousy?

Hello again Skelosia,

We all want happiness and to be free from mental and physical dissatisfaction and stress of one kind or another. Wishing for the well-being of others helps to counteract jealousy.

I recommend that you try Metta (loving kindness ) practice. This 5 min video instruction explains it.






with kind wishes,

Aloka

[ringtonesmannq]

Hello,

For those who haven't read my introduction, I am new to Buddhism.

So I was wondering, where do I start?

Hi Skelosia,

Additionally to what Aloka has suggested at # 2, at Study-Links section we also have Meditation resources and some reliable web pages about Buddhism and the teachings of Buddha.

Have a look!

[LianneForbess]

Hi Skelosia,

Start small, pick something you can manage and grow a little every day...

I'm sorry to here that you haven't had success trying for a baby. Isn't it horrible when everyone around you seems to be getting pregnant? I hope that it will happen for you soon...


Fee

[P9CCd35R]

Hello Skelosia, I can totally relate to how you must be feeling at the moment. I can remember feeling exactly the same when trying to conceive (I am unfortunately, not blessed with abundant fertility, so the journey to having my 2 beautiful children was very fraught and wobbly round the edges!)

Aloka has offered the metta (loving kindness) practice, and I can wholeheartedly recommend this too.

Keeping the practice simple, as Fee suggested, by choosing something small you can begin with. I would also suggest just sitting and being with the breath and allowing thoughts to simply pass through.

Extreme emotions can also be a negative towards conceiving, so try (if possible) to smile each time you see somebody who is pregnant and say to yourself, "that will be me soon" and turn the jealous feelings into a positive affirmation.

There's more I could write, but feel it could probably best be offered through private messaging. I think you need to wait and make a few more posts before that facility is available to you. So if you would like to get in touch at another point, I can also offer some other resources you may find helpful.

[gnusnich]

And how does a Buddhist deal with Jealousy?

welcome Skelosia

the Buddha taught the antidote for jealousy is appeciate joy (mudita), namely, generating happiness for the happiness of others

as commonly taught: "May you not be parted from your good fortune" is a meditation on mudita (appreciative/sympathetic joy)

kind regards

element


Budda said:

Develop the meditation of good will (metta). For when you are developing the meditation of good will, ill-will will be abandoned.

Develop the meditation of compassion (karuna). For when you are developing the meditation of compassion, cruelty will be abandoned.

Develop the meditation of appreciation (mudita). For when you are developing the meditation of appreciation, envy will be abandoned.

Develop the meditation of equanimity (upeka). For when you are developing the meditation of equanimity, irritation will be abandoned.

Maha-Rahulovada Sutta: The Greater Exhortation to Rahula

[we0MA4MI]

I think another thing that's important is to accept things as they are. You should become comfortable with the fact that you are not pregnant yet and that others are. This doesn't mean you give up trying to get pregnant. You may be pregnant soon.