[Muhabsssa]

"Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it" Ephesians 5:25.

Even though this does not relate directly to pornography this may be of some help. The pornography makes you feel uncomfortable and you feel as if he is cheating on you. If he is loving you as Christ loved the church he will pray to our heavenly father to find a way to stop it.

There are many verses relating to "sexual immorality", but nothing that uses the word pornography in it. It is something that your husband is going to need to look inside himself a truly ask - "Is this what God would want me to do?" It is something that it seems almost every Christian male in the world struggles with, so do not worry you are not alone.

Dragnog

[NKUDirectory]

Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with pornography if it is done in moderation, with less being better. I think curiosity about the sexual act is normal in both males and females. Whether it is wise to be a voyeur I can't say, but I doubt the wisdom of it.

On the other hand, I do understand why women are so upset by their husband's addiction to porn. I think it shows that he doesn't value her as the human being that she is in the flesh and blood. And no woman on earth wants to be compared with any other woman in her husband's head, let alone an air-brushed fantasy that she can never live up to. Imagine it the other way around, guys, and see how you would like it if your wife had a pornographic male fantasy in her head. Could you ever live up to that fantasy? And how would that make you feel as a cherished partner? And while he's busy with porn he is obviously neglecting the relationship even more than many men just normally do, and relationship is of utmost important to females. Without that loving relationship and the feeling of being cherished, she is even less willing to be sexually open, which in turns makes him more interested in porn----and so the destructive circle continues.

So you guys out there, if you indulge in some porn, keep it moderate, realize that the "real thing" can be better than any porn if you spent as much time developing it as your fantasy, and for heaven's sake indulge it in private unless you have a woman at hand who is willing to join you in that indulgence.

As for biblical help in that department, I can't think of any except for the promise a husband makes in the marriage ceremony to "cherish" his wife. Ogling other women, in the flesh or on paper, is not cherishing the unique gift that she is to him, especially if he does it constantly and in her presence.

Sorry guys, but that's just a fact of life for most females.

[ReginaPerss]

I just made a post in "Christianity-> Is Christianity about morals?" that tells about a book "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. Check it out! I think it will help.

Frist of all, I can't think of anything in the Bible, off hand, that tells about pornography (prostitution? sure, but that's not the same thing)... What I can do for you though is try to explain to you about your husband. Now, I am only a 19 year old College Guy, but when it comes to pornography, THIS IS THE AGE! If one of my friends can't get a girl, he's still looking at them! To have a woman revealed in the ways pornography shows... it really makes a guy feel more manly (it sounds kind of strange, but I really think it does). I find that I, myself, am most likely to look at pornography when I'm feeling depressed I tell you, I don't even need to masterbate (I am ashamed of it, but I need to be honest), simply looking can be enough to lift my spirits and I really do mean spirits! My whole day improves. But then later it drops down even lower because I feel ashamed of my weakness as a guy and wish I could control myself. I haven't looked at pornography for about one and a half months now and I feel like I have almost broken the addiction (That's what it becomes, an addiction), but I know I will never fully break it. Women are just too beautiful, not even a gay man would deny that.

I think you can help your husband by talking to him about it (whatever you do, don't make him feel like your telling him what to do). Show him you love him, remind him that he loves you. turn to God and ask Him to show you what to do in your relationship. Try praying together about it. I know that pornography feels like a weakness, so it will probably be a tender topic for your husband to talk about (most likely if he doesn't think you already know, then he will try to deny it)... I think I may be giving too much advice for who I am... it's probably not my place. I appologise if I went to far here.

[prowsnobswend]

Matthew 5:28: But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Here is the classic NT anti-pornography verse ...