[panholio]

Oh sweetie don't wait, then you give him power. You never know how long your life is and you don't want to waist it waiting on him. I was with my guy for almost 13 years when I found out. He moved in with her, had a kid with her, and then when they broke up he came back, after 2 years of being away. I took him back and he has just left again for her. Don't waste away years like I did. I know its hard to leave or even think about being apart from him after being with him so long, but you can and have to do it! You have to take the next step and quit him like cold turkey. It will be hard for awhile and it will hurt, but in time you will have your own life back. Stay strong, and leave. The blame game is just the start.....Big Hugs!

[ArrichMer]

Galey, read my early posts...I discovered things after 28 years of marriage...

It was hard for me too.. What I did was just separate at first and I did not make any major decisions.

But before you take any steps--start preparing to separate-- get your financial documents in place first. Things have a way of dissappearing when divorce is discussed. Make copies or move the originals.

Start saving some money on the side-- buy your face creams, your clothes, things for the house-- in other words, take care of yourself.

Have you had your sTD check? This will help wake you up, I'm afraid.

Get a good counselor--just for you--to help you cope through this nightmare.

Invest in a good taperecorder.. What are your plans going to be? Will you go to work?

In other words, take one step at a time...you will get there and it won't seem overwhelming.

SIS

[cheesypeetyz]

I don't know where to begin.it's just sinking in.and my husband still denies it.He is the best liar I have ever seen.he tells me am the best wife a husband could ever ask for just not a good companion.when ever I bring the subject up he says am badgering him and that i need to stop aggravating him or he will leave. Any similar stories. I am all broken up inside.

[Prererularl]

They always say that sh!t. They are wrong and they know it. They have no recourse or a leg to stand on. So, just as they satisfied their selfish needs, they don't want to clean up their messes. They are emotional terrorist. Has he blamed it on you yet?The only way to deal with it is get some courage and tell him if he doesn't talk to you about it, YOUR LEAVING.DO NOT SHOW HIM YOUR FEAR. At first he will say fine. If you hold your guns it will scare the sh!t out of him and he'll spill his guts!! Let me know how it goes. Good luck!!! Hug

[cheesypeetyz]

Ya he blames everything on me.and says this person is only a friend.she is half his age.he went to therapy once and says his marriage is fine as long as I don't question his late nights and weird behavior. I have retainer papers for a lawyer but am scared to take that step. I have been pondering over it for days.

[Aw1HhC0m]

So you're what? Going to keep ignoring it? He's a serial cheater. Divorce him.