[arindiruppya]

Question ? Men if your wife is a bit out of shape, how much dose that affect
your decision to have an affair ? Be honest . I would like to hear some real men
tell what they really think . I know of one case where the guy says it's not her weight but her attitude about her self that turns him off . Is this true or is he just saying that ? Or could it be both ? This woman I think is pretty but
she had 2 kids that were over 10lbs and she was very small when she got pregnat with the 1st one and had the 2nd a year later . Well needless to say she is not that big but her tummy is way out of shape from having the large kids . She can't afford to have a timmy tuck just yet . How would you men handle that ? Just curious what men think.

[PVaQlNaP]

My wife is very attractive and in shape but a cheater and doesn't care about me one bit. I'd trade that for a nice, honest woman that cares about me any day of the week.

Anyone who would say that is just incredibly shallow.

[RooxiaNof]

All men are different, but me, I'm 33, decent looking, and I don't care about a woman being slightly overweight. Who cares! If she is a good person, and she loves you, treats you good, a little overweight is nothing.

If we are talking substantially overweight, that is another story. I would have a hard time if my girl got very "fat", simply because I am not generally attracted to very large women, and I practice eating right and exercise. I would be concerned that she is depressed or something in that case. I would try to work with her to get her self esteem back up to where it should be, and often an increase in metabolism (from proper diet and exercise) takes care of that.

[Zdfjpbth]

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[Xfxhbcxp]

My wife was overweight when we met, but I wouldn't want a drastic change in her appearance. Getting older can't be helped but gaining 100lbs can.

[arindiruppya]

Thank you to all the replies so far. It hepls to know that there are men that can be truly honest . Thanks again guys .

[Mark_NyB]

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[Wdlglivi]

It's not the out of shape part that leads to an affair or cheating of some sort. If she is really really fat - different story. Mostly, its what the girl does emotionally. Fat woman get down on themselves. All of sudden, they lose that sexy attitude, don't want to be naked around men, etc. Men are visual. Show it off and make use of what you have. A man that is pleased in the bedroom is not very likely to stray.

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[dfuzioniag]

I have to agree that blaming an affair on a change in appearance in one's spouse is nothing but a convenient excuse. It comes down to a morals. If I had lost attraction to my wife, I would have attempted to (delicately) talk to her about it. If things got really bad, to the point that she grossed me out or something, then I would end the relationship.

I'm of the mind that staying together when one or both partners are suffering is really just not a good idea. That only leads to a toxic environment, with tensions, arguments, etc. Particularly if there are children involved, I believe that both parents need to be happy. Hopefully that could be worked out, but if not then splitting is probably best.

I don't believe there are any circumstances which justify cheating, or where cheating to "save" a marriage is good for the parties involved.

[BashBeissedat]

I haven't cheated on my wife, I'm not that kind of guy. So I have a hard time saying if weight would make me cheat or attitude, because I just don't see me doing that. My sense of right and wrong kicks in and I make the right choice.

That being said, my wife put on 40 pounds since we were married. I still find her very attractive and I think she is a damn sexy woman. She has always had low self-esteem, and with the extra weight she has been down on herself. Her attitude is rather annoying. I know a ton of women that would kill to look like her. When ever says something about loosing weight, she says how fat she is and they give her a look like she's crazy and in some cases go off on her.

Her attitude about it is what drives me crazy. She wants to loose weight, but won't do anything to do it. She just likes to complain about "being fat".

I'd never cheat. I'll leave first. If someone says that is why they cheated, it's because they are immoral and unethical. They don't truly love their partner and they are just using it as an excuse.