[oyymoss]

I just found out who the other woman was today from one of my husbands co-workers . I went to where she worked and pretended to be lost in a office building and ask her for directions. Needless to say she was attractive.
My husband says he has broke it off with her but I am not sure. I mean I seen her why would he. He seems to really be putting forth an effort in or marriage but like I said she is pretty and I am affraid he will not last very long.
That is until he can't get her out of his mind and will go back. He says he wants to work things out and he loves me but we all know how cheaters are.
They are powered by selfishness. What do you do in this situation? Has anyone else ever been faced with this?

[lmHVYs8e]

My husband and I are working things out after his emotional affair.

The other woman was prettier than me in my case, but my husband has seen her for who she truly was; a very ugly person on the inside. A manipulator and user of people to satisfy whatever need she may have at the time.

Point is; my husband saw her for who she was, saw me for who I was. I was slightly overweight. But, together, my husband and I are both working on our health and our figures. Our esteem and confidence as well.

It doesn't matter what the other woman looks like, what matters is what you and your husband are doing right now. Are you working things out? Are things better or worse? Are you slowly coming to terms with what has happened? Are you in counseling together, for yourself?

[j2Y6Ysmb]

Sweetie, it doesn't matter what she looks like...remember Prince Charles screwed around on Princess Diana with a horse!

[RooxiaNof]

Looks aren't everything. Hell, Tommy Lee got tried of Pamela Anderson. What matters is love.

It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues. Try and make yourself feel better....maybe join a gym, or yoga class, start jogging, etc. Something that boosts your metabolism can really improve your self-esteem. Don't worry about the other woman, deal with your marriage. If you guys are trying to work it out, concentrate on that. Maybe counselling, or doing stuff together. Doing activities together, even walking and talking, can help put the spark back in your marriage.

Good luck on the road ahead.

[hapasaparaz]

As Queen Ti said, Princess Diana was cheated on. Add to the list Halle Berry, Christie Brinkley, Ivana Trump, Elizabeth Hurley, Shania Twain. Looks have absolutely nothing to do with it. As the former deacon told me many times...a p*ss* has no face.

[Zdfjpbth]

jenn,
in my case I feel my xWife traded down....in looks, body, with her it was a matter of it wouldn't have mattered if I was Brad Pitt....the fact that I'm the same guy she has been with for too long, she just wanted new faces to f##k.

hell, her new man has even hit her. but he is a bad boy and has her wrapped around her little finger. sucks to be her.

but if you feel the OW is better looking, that could be just your perception. I wouldn't let it get to you. And if she is very attractive, you think she would want to stay faithful to your husband if she wound up with him and a few years have passed?

People who are highly attractive don't have a real good track record of being faithful....they tend to think they should share themselves with as many people as they can and do them a favor (i.e. conceit and narcissism)
although I think I am attractive, but have never cheated and certainly don't hold that view for myself.

So maybe your H is just digging his own hole.