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Why does her husband want to hurt the boyfriend? I've seen it over and over, and even read it here. If the woman cheats, it seems the first reaction is to want to hurt the other man? Why? She is the one who took vows with her husband. The other man never promised the husband anything. But the husband usually acts like the other man somehow betrayed him. I have seen husbands be much, much angrier, seemingly, with the boyfriend than with his wife. As a woman, this just does not make sense to me. Can anyone explain?

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Your correct, the majority of the blame does lie on the cheater it doesn't matter if their a man or woman.

However there is that part of you that wants a form of revenge on the person that knowingly slept with your married spouse.

In my case I called the OM's wife at work and outed him. However I did it for two reasons. One what was happening to me at the time was devastating and I didn't think it was fair that there was a fourth person that was part of this mess that were completely unaware of what their husband was doing. Two I wanted to bring him back to Earth and realize what exactly he was doing.

Of course now that I really think long and hard about it I also wanted that bring back to Earth feeling to happen to my W as well.

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"He is the one who broke our vows, he is the one who let her into our family home and our lives, he is the one who exposed me to STD's, he is the one who told me I was imagining things, he is the one who ultimately gave her the gun to kill our family......"

(with eyes big as saucers) do you mean that literally??? A real gun?????

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In my case, I thought about beating the SH** out of the other man, but I'm not the type of guy that lays a hand on a woman, no matter what. So the other man is the focus of my physical anger. However, this guy has ruined enough of my life and I have to focus on my children and our future. If I did anything to the other guy, I would put my children's future in jeopardy. That wasn't an option. My wife doesn't care about their future, but I certainly do!