[AblemTee]

I don't know if you were directing that to my response or not...

Personally, I would pursue a divorce, and I know Roulette is working on the legality of his situation...

[j2Y6Ysmb]

Roulette,

You asked the question of us and I am interested in what "your" beliefs are. Some say it is OK. Others feel it is wrong. All of these opinions are based on each individual's value system and also how much they understand and have researched the laws of God.
Since God instituted marriage in the beginning, of course He has the right concept of what marriage should be. Between one man and one woman and forsaking all others etc etc.
Just as in the same way he has allowed his human children, free will and to rule themselves and try every form of government imaginable, he also allowed polygamy. It was not something he condoned. No, the ancient patriarchs were warned against practicing what the people of the nations practiced...harems, idol worship, child sacrifice etc. He even told King Soloman that his multiple wives would cause his downfall. They did and his kingdom was split asunder by God. Polygamy was not something he condoned. When Jesus came to earth he made sure that people understood how his Father viewed marriage. One man and one woman.
Marriage is a contract to be honored. I think more than likely in your situation that God thinks of your marriage as over and done with. Because of the adultery that went on.
Because He is an orderly God and doesn't like disorder and His son mentioned being in subjection to the governmental authorities on certain things, like taxes, and marriage contracts, property ownership and those kinds of things, then I would think that in God's eyes it would be more honorable for you to end this marriage, even though it is on paper only, before you begin a new relationship. It is just good business and orderly to do so.
Now those are my thoughts on the matter for what they're worth to you. But we could be doing all kinds of talk about what we think is right and why but if you don't believe any of it then it doesn't matter.
You sound like you are wanting to do the right thing. All of the moral laws in our society, whether some like it or not are based on the Holy Bible. That is why so many of us go to it for reference. Take care and hope we have helped some.

[YmolafBp]

Hi folks, it looks like we have a minor Sh!tstorm brewing here... I didn't want this to turn into a religious argument, but I guess it has.

I've been asked for some feedback so... (Isn't it funny how it's so much easier to spend up to an hour responding to someone else's situation than to respond on your own?) Anyhow... here goes...

Questions asked:
Q1) Will you eventually be getting that piece of paper taken care of?
A1) Yes, I'm in the process of pursuing this avenue.

Q2) Are the huge obstacles going to prevent that? (Divorce)
A2) Yes, they are in the way and I'm trying to overcome them.

Opinions Offered & My Responses:
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[JaK_MarkoV_Pi]

so are you officially out of hiding?

Gods law, mans law... ?

I really believe it comes down to expectations. I had an expectation that my husband would be faithful to me. He wasn't. That is cheating. Now that we are seperated and not in contact I could care less if he dates. it isn't cheating on me anymore. I don't expect him to wait till the papers are signed. Damned if I am not trying but I can't afford to divorce him. I can't scratch together the legal fees.
Anyway..... Your wife doesn't expect you to be with her and her alone anymore. You don't expect her to be faithful to you. Its not cheating. People date while seperated all the time. You also left her a note telling her it is over.


Have fun, move on, and be safe.

[j2Y6Ysmb]

About the government controlling marriage, no I don't think they're very much interested in that. I guess I didn't really make myself clear on the subjection issue.
The government has certain moral laws that are biblically oriented. One reason for marriage is to protect the two people in it and any children that may arise from that union. The vows and license for marriage legitimize the union. That is our custom anyways in the west.
In the ancient Israelite's time, they said vows also and the union was documented.
I agree with you that the legal system is unjust. The world is unjust because the whole world is lying in the power of Satan. But that's another subject.

I really hope you get a chance to resolve things Roulette. With all you've been through you deserve a little piece of happiness.

I do believe this though...and this is just my thought, Almightly God has laws that He expects to be followed by his people. I believe that if we do our utmost to do the right thing in his eyes that He will not forget it. He is a God of loving kindness. He is the final judge and He is the only one to know the secret person of the heart.

[YmolafBp]

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