[Uojeyak]

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[FloareTraurne]

needmoreproof..Roulette has it right and pretty well said it all. Since it is late and I'm very worn out from all the cheaters including my STBX, I'll just summarize my thoughts:

STD test
Polygraph test.
See a therapist
Don't believe a word he says.
Quit blaming yourself
He has character flaws--it's not your fault
Men cheat on drop-dead gorgeous women--it's not you
Quit asking why--he has character flaws
Secure your finances
Make him move out (in that order)
Take your time

SIS

[YmolafBp]

Yeah, please listen to SiS...

She's a smart woman who knows what she's talking about.

Whereas, I'm just a guy...

[Uojeyak]

Thank you for the ideas Roulete and SIS :-)

Did the std thing-so far so good
Believing a word he says-Zero
Therapy-Doing it
When I want to end it- he gets all suicidal

This Polygraph thing.......... How, where, who, Costs?

[YmolafBp]

For polygraph advice... look up bchgrls posts.

Most P.I.'s in your area will be able to do it or will know where you can get it done.

- R

[Uojeyak]

I have this feeling inside me constantly. I think somethin is up with my husband. He is workin late a little bit lately. But always makes sure to call from office before he leaves after a late shift.
Might be innocent.
This whole yr, we have had issues with intimacy.
He was hiding from me that he was on **** sites n stuff. And I'm sure he was chattn on webcams, but he won't admit it. He just says they are pop ups.
BUT......this yr he has been shaving more(down there) and extremely concerned with taking weight loss suppliments.
He listens to new music now and I don't know anymore.
We did decide to work on it, and I want so badly to trust him, but I think I am damaging my body with these feelings of torture I have inside!
SOme days I just want to walk out, and not return and leave him wondering.
But then again I don't know for sure.
I know he has a big secret he did not want me knowing about. I have proof that there is a secret....just no proof of what.
All I know is, he was ready to leave me when I was looking at his computer for it and he ripped it away from me and left with it.
he got rid of it.
But he swears there is nothing more.
I can't handle this feeling. I can't sleep at night, and I wake up wearly in the morning thinking about this.
My relationship is tainted with secrets and lies.
He is acting normal now as if nothing happened with lies n such, and I want it to feel the same. I just can't.
Is intuition a good thing to follow, or does it help in situations like this?
SOrry for the long post...I am just so lost, not myself inside anymore. I'm feeling so hurt and lied to

[AblemTee]

It does seem like something is going on there. I'm not sure I can tell you what, but it's something.

The best thing I can suggest you do is sit down and try to talk to him. But I can't even promise that will work.

Unfortunately leaving may be the only thing left to do, or leave for a little while, stay with family and friends and see what happens.

[JaK_MarkoV_Pi]

Sounds bad. Sorry. Follow you gut, the clues will be there. If you want the truth you will find it.

[KasaBalak]

Now is the time where you are going to have to be like a little detective. Start checking his phone records, and maybe take some time to follow him during the day. Taking the weight loss supplements, shaving, and the lack of intimacy with you are pretty suspicious signs that there is possibly someone else. I am so sorry. Keep us posted.

[YmolafBp]

NeedMoreProof,

Your reply in my thread had me looking up your posts and I couldn't find a central point / your story thread. It helps to have the entire story to be able to offer decent advice.

Here's some facts of what I have gathered so far:

1. Your husband is watching p*rn in secret
2. He's chatting with chatting & webcamming with women online... leads to sex talk and emotional affairs.
3. He is keeping secrets from you.
4. Your gut instinct suspects another woman.
5. You have seen many red flags but are trying to convince yourself otherwise.
6. He is making you sick and has forced you to seek therapy.
7. He is hurting you with his behavior and from the looks of it isn't doing anything to help you.

Red Flags you've mentioned:

a. Working late
b. P*rn sites
c. Personal chats with other women online
d. Grooming himself. (Shaving downstairs, trying to lose weight)
e. Keeping secrets from you.

And now for some quotes you have put up all over the show:

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