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01-09-2009, 09:44 PM
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Well I got sucked back and ended up moving back in. He sleeps in the other bedroom. Its fine. He was trying to win me back but yesterday was our 7years of being together anniversary. All he did was write me a note. im not superficial but he shouldve bought something.... to answer the ? did he act fine when i left the answer is no he literally looked like **** and had bags underneath his eyes. I have to say that made me happy to see him grovel like that... I am so good as spying and all that computer crap and if i see do anything else I will make his life a living hell...I already took all of our savings and put it in another account.. I told him he will never see that money again...That made me feel good.. I called one of my ex boyfriends and made sure he saw my phone historyy....it literally killed him.... This guy is his only competition in his view soo ill use it to my advantage.. hopefully hell call when my husband is around... I really thank you all for helping me talk through this..
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01-09-2009, 10:02 PM
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Glad to help and stick around and tell us more. I think you should have let him suffer more. The more they suffer the more willing they are to comply.
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08-26-2009, 09:09 PM
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Im NEW here... I need advice
Ive been married for only 13 months but have been with my husband for 7 years. After we got married things didnt seem right. We went to therapy and all we figured out was that my husband was stressed at work.I installed a free version of a keylogger just because i had a gut feeling. It took two days but my husband was looking at ****, Webcams were his big thing. He would also go into chat rooms on yahoo and meet people. There has been this one girl that hes been talking to for 6 MONTHS!!! I though i would maybe find **** but not all this. After doing some more research I found two email accounts, and a screen name that was made 5 YEARS AGO!!! The email account had emails he had written to prostitutes from craigslist, he subscribed to all these webcams and this girl that hes been talking to . He been having cyber sex with her online. All of this is done when im at work, sleeping or even upstairs taking a shower. He mostly chatted with this girl while he was at work.When confronted he lied and it took him two days to admit it. Meanwhile i left him. I got tested for stds. Meanwhile I find out I was pregnant, then had a miscarriage all in under one week!! The big thing is that hes not really having sex with his wife it is all online. He never even met these people. It seems that we wanted to know that he could get it if he wants to but didnt have enough balls to go through with it. I need advice!!!
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08-26-2009, 11:17 PM
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You need advice? OK, it's really simple...
>>> GET THE HELL OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP |
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08-27-2009, 03:45 AM
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This is how it begins, if it hasn't already gone further. Who contacts prostitutes not to meet them? My husband has always been into internet ****, so much so that he got canned from a job early in our marriage because of his habit. I didn't find out that little nugget of truth till 6 months ago. It is a fantasy world. Then slowly but surely the fantasy world becomes more appealing than the real world. Especially when you add responsibility and the day to day life boredom and stress. Get out now. That or ... Well read my signature and see where this train wreck goes.
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08-28-2009, 06:03 AM
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Thank u for your replies and the hard truth. It's a shame these men can't keep it in their pants. The funny thing is that the woman he was looking at was soo ugly it wasn't even like he was trying to upgrade!! What if this is really some kind of condition? I personally think he's too much of a wuss to actually go through with it but online gives him the fantasy of it.
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08-28-2009, 06:19 AM
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If you think that it all has to do with looks... then you don't know much about men.
So I guess we'll be seeing you back here in 3-6 months. Can't say I'm looking forward to it. - R |
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08-28-2009, 06:42 AM
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Im still going to see an attorney I have all of the money and all of my ducks will stay in a row. I'll go with him to therapy because I care about him but I can't move back in... We can maybe live in seperate bedroms but I'm too much of a sucker and will end up back in a bad mess... There really isn't any way I can stay with him and be happy .. I will always second guess whatever he says.... I'm even in a phase where I wanna seek vengeance.
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08-30-2009, 03:54 AM
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Sweetheart I think you've made the right choice. It's not an easy one... but its the right one.
It's OK for you to help him through therapy, but make sure you don't get further involved. Your divorce attorney will advise you to stay in the marital home. Just make sure you kick him out of it. You don't want to be around the constant reminder of your hurt, pain and betrayal -- I'm telling you this for your own sanity's sake. If you want revenge on him... the best revenge is to go out and get a life. Be happy... and make sure he knows it. It will drive him NUTS for years to come... knowing he was not enough to satisfy you. Do a search on some of my posts... they are harsh... but you will get a few tips on handling the divorce. Some of them are wicked tips... And keep on posting here. I see StillInShock and Old_Shoes haven't popped in yet. They also have good advice and are gentler than I am. Good luck! - R |
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08-31-2009, 11:40 PM
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A good friend of mine, advised me to go get a **** video of some hyped up man that my husband would be jealous of and leave it in the dvd player for him to find, just so he knows what it's like to feel like less of a person.
And I'm in the same boat as you almost. In a way I understand wanting to seek vengance, but in another, I can't fathom hurting him in that way. Maybe that is our problem, we let them walk all over us, and can't to it back. But I believe in karma to the fullest extent! If he was into online prostitutes, he will most likely get the guts to go for it. Let me ask you: when you left, did he act like he was fine with it? |
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09-01-2009, 12:06 AM
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09-01-2009, 12:48 AM
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ALthough her advice is tempting and extremely funny sounding, I know it would end up worse for the relationship altogether. But you win! The gay **** thing lol, I wonder....how would that bug him?
I know i am bothered by his want for me to be with a female, it makes me sick. Is it the same for men, if a woman wanted to see two men together? I couldn't do that either, but sometimes I find it therapudic to make myself laugh a little at those scenarios...... After all you been through, you have a great sense of humor :-) |
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09-01-2009, 01:01 AM
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