[uwJzsM8t]

I have been married 14 years and we both have cheated throughout our marraige we forgave eachother numerous of time. 1 year ago after dealing with past issues I had since a child and finally forgiving my dad for things that happen, I changed and truly wanted my marraige to work. I thought we were getting along our marraige finally felt like one, sex was great and I truly forgave and fell in love with him again. He left town a lot because he fixes houses well one night after he came back from his travels he was sleeping and his phone rang they left a message and was able to retrieve. It was a women telling him she missed him.I also read text messages from her. My world fell apart, I confronted him he yelled at me for looking through his phone. We have 2 kids together and he tried throwing me out but I refused and stayed. It was hell living there we were like roommates. One day he just said I'm sorry that he loved me and he left her.we tried but I couldn't forget and now we are going through a divorce. I am now having an affair with a married man and I am getting very attached to him. What the hell I'm I doing? I know its wrrong but can't seem to walk away. I'm so confused and hurt, I still love my husband so much but I know its over.my kids are suffering especially my 13 year old son. I'm a mess depressed angry and the only time I forget and feel a little better is when I'm with this married man.I want my husband back but I can't trust him anymore even though he says I'm sorry and wants me back. Its been 14 years if we didn't make it right than what's makes me think anything is different now?

[cbUDaNFRu]

No word on how this might be affecting your married man's wife, just how it's all affecting you?

[Farson]

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[uwJzsM8t]

For one I'm not looking for sympathy I was looking for exactly what you gave me. I can take it becuz your right. As far as my kids they been getting help since we divorced. Thanks for ur words it just makes me stronger to do the right thing.

[boiffrona]

Since you're looking for honest opinions... here is mine.

People like yourself, your husband and your lover are the SCUM OF THE EARTH.

If you want to do the right thing get rid of the married man and go tell his wife what an a$$hole she's married to.

Roulette vomits and leaves...

[uwJzsM8t]

Your right we r all scums I can't change what I have done but I can make sure I don't do it again. Thanks for the honesty!

[Rx-Ultram]

I agree with Roulette..Dump the married man. Tell his wife.

Go to church and pray for forgiveness of your sins and then get yourself into therapy to figure out why you keep hurting other people and why you are on this self-destruct mission. If you are already in therapy, then get another therapist and quit turning to some married man to make you feel better.

This isn't the forum for you. Good luck.
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[drycleden]

All you have to do is talk to your hubby to make things work...........You are not doing yourself any good by dating the married man, he is just taking advantage of you....

[uwJzsM8t]

I wanna thank u guys for putting my stupid ass in place this may have been the wrong forum to put out there what I did but I'm glad I did. I left the married man today after realizing that my actions were due to a lot of hurt I have inside. What I did was wrong, fu** up especially since I know exactly how it feels when ur cheated on. U guys were harsh but that's exactly what cheaters are. I for me believe it was a blessing I wrote here because I needed to hear how messed up I was for what I was doing. So now its on to a lot of therapy to help me with my past so I can change my ways and maybe someday find the right single man. But right now I'm focusing on myself to better myself and be there for my kids. A lot of fixing has to be done but I know my kids and i are going to be ok. Again thanks!

[bjacogaerllyo]

Thanks for what??? I personally think you are just f---g with us, and in my opinion, you are just one more homewrecker. After knowing how hard it was to be cheated on yourself, you made NO mention of this married man's wife. I love how the innocent victims in this are totally forgotten. I was a married man's wife who was being sh!t on. Both by my husband and the wh0re/friend that I trusted. I am so irritated with people like you who not only cheat, but instead of just destroying your own marriage and your own children, you decide to run another innocent family through the gutter. If you really mean what you say, then good luck to you. If you are just another pain in the a$$, homewrecking piece of sh!t, then heaven help you. Karma is a b!tch and she plays dirty with the pigs.......Nice parenting by the way. Way to set a good example.

[uwJzsM8t]

F***g with you??? I'm not f***G anyone about what I wrote what the hell do I have to gain by that? I never mentioned his wife becuz I chose to leave her out their married no kids and are seperated becuz she cheated. They still live in the same home going through a ugly divorce and neither are going to leave their home till everything is settled. But that still doesn't make it right that we were together he still married. This is a big f***g soap opera and I changed the channel becuz I know its wrong. I can only ask for forgiveness for my sins and if you read the bible God forgives those who trespass.

[Rx-Ultram]

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That very same bible says don't commit adultery. We can't pick and chose which ones to live by. It's all or nothing. But yes, God does forgive.

[cbUDaNFRu]

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[P3bWjm1j]

I couldn't get out of my head today.

I wonder what my husband said about me? He has now rewritten history to be that I was a negative person who was a free loader. If I would have just gotten a ****ing job 10 years ago, none of this would have ever happened. What a jerk. Like I didn't take care of him, or his kids , or run the house that whole time. What did he tell her? I was a *****? A wh0re? Frigid? Lazy? Frumpy? Ugly? Mean?

Her poor husband. I know what she told my husband, from bits and pieces of what he has said to me. He is abusive, beats her all the time, they are miserable and she wants out. Hmmmmmmmm. Amazing to me since he defended her when I told him, and said they were happily married. I guess he got off the phone with me, so he could beat her ass. Please. I never told him his wife tells everyone he is a wife beater. Poor guy. Wait till the truth comes.

Why is it always the same? Same old lies to us and each other. Worst part is they believe each other. How? They are both liars.

I have been so sad and angry today. This poster just makes me sick. Screwing a married man and justifying it. How dare she assume what his wife is like, or going through. I would love to hear how the wh0re that my husband is with makes what she is doing ok.

And the bible, o please. You break a commandment, over and over. A commandment. I don't think the bible has been a real influence on your judgement. But judgement will come.

[Styparty]

Exactly Beachgrl....

This poster said a mouthful when she said that she realized she was in the wrong place...she was looking for justification from us and when it was not forthcoming, she gave the "I got what I deserved" to try to scurry away like a rat.

It sounds almost like one of the 90 day wonders I run across at AA meetings..."You told me what I needed to hear, ....yada, yada, yada.

Then right after the meeting they run to the local liquor store and shotgun a 6 pack of Schiltz, laughing the whole time.

She isn't sorry one bit, I think she tried this same script over at Dear Cupid, where she was welcomed with open arms and a copy of a Harelquin Romance novel.

[bjacogaerllyo]

LOL Doofus!!!