[fabrizioitwloch]

I know she is cheating on me, she denies it, says she wants a separation--yet she won't leave. In the meantime, our six year-old son hears us arguing, and keeps coming downstairs into the room to interrupt us and tell us he loves us. It's the most heartbreaking thing to witness. The depths of her indifference are truly amazing. I try not to argue in front of him, but the wife won't stop. There's plenty of evidence out there that says staying together is better for the kids, but there's also some that disputes that.
In a divorce court, the father gets the shaft if he leaves, but the mother doesn't seem to suffer as much. I'm hoping she's one of these creeps that have the ability to walk away from their kids too in order to pursue their selfish crap, but that would be too lucky.
The general consensus I get from talking to attorneys is that if I leave, it looks better for her as far as our boy goes, and definately for her getting the house. Isn't that neat? I'm the faithful one trying to work through our problems, yet I'm the one with the most to lose.
So...when is a good age to split? Do I wait for another five years, until he's able to see for himslef what kind of person she is? Right now, I don't believe she's capable of change. Or do I file, take a major chance, and hope for the best? Experiences with this anybody?

[Kalobbis]

Do you have proof that she cheated? She is the one that did the adultery!!!
Kick her butt out! tell her to leave and that you are keeping the kids!! It can be done! as long as u have proof she cheated!

Seen it done alot!

Never good for the kids, mine was 21 and 18 when I left my first husband, because he was a drunk, didn't know I was alive! I waited.. and it still hurt my kids. But at that age they understood! Son even ask me why didn't I leave him years ago! wish I had...

[AndyScouchek]

just the cheating will probably not be enough for you to win custody. Judges usually place smaller children with their mother. A bad mother is better than no mother at all I guess. Unless you can prove she is unfit because of the child, incidents such as neglect, putting the child in danger etc. Moral issues usually are not enouh. If the child is 12yoa usually a judge will listen to the child if the child wants to live with the father usually lets them.
Better have proof.

[Pwy9egVW]

Fishdude listen to me very carefully...................FOCUS on your kids, be his/her/their father, friend confidant let them love you, never ever fear you. Let her be mean, let her be bad, I promise you this, when I child says I want to go with daddy, there is not a da** thing she can do. FOcus on your kids and build there. Win your children, and the rest will fall into place. YOu may suffer, it will be hard, it will be ice-skating up hill. YOu didnt ask to be put here, this is not your fault, but is just the way the cards were dealt. Your kids dont ever need to see you enraged or mad or even fighting. Be nice to your wife, even if it is sarcastic.........Your labor will not be fruitless, meanwhile get proof adultery of audio, visual, mails etc. Make a packet, may take a long time, make proof make copies and certify mail it to her freinds and family expose her and destroy her. Remember this, you have to be the vitcim that is the only way for you to get a fair chance. You have 90 percent of odds against you but you can do this. Many have and you will, BE A GREAT FATHER, and TRY to be a good husband. First and foremost win your kids, it will be the greatest gift in the long run. sSecondly prepare ammo against your wife so when the bomb goes off, it does some serious damage. Photos, audio, visual, emails, tex messages get proof make sopies (DO NOT TELL ANY ONE, NOBODY NOTE VEN YOUR CLOSE CONFIDENT KEEP IT INSIDE AND HIDDEN) Also stash some money, dont let her know all you make, play it off like its your fault she cheated and ask for forgiveness (I know but thats what she wants to here to manipulate her) This will buy you some time, to preapre finances, proof of everything Once you have all ducks in a row and your kids are old enough to know. Win them on your side, then unlease divorce Jihad on her. Ruin her name let the whole world especially friends and family that she was an adulteress and did not care for her famiyl or kids and the judge. You will walk with the kids, keep your pay get out of alimony get the hosue for the kids and get osme chikd support from her but do it this way.........Remember Revenge is a dish served cold. But this is going to take some hard work on your part for right now. Dont ever let her know something is up and never ever tell any one. Not even us here on Chatcheaters. She may google if she sees your handle or somethinga nd who knows...........
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Wendie 99

[Vitoethiche]

Amen!

Wow Tomasing.. remind me never to upset you lol

Great post..

Don't we all wish we could be this strong ?

Till x