Is something like this forgivable? - DiscussWorldIssues - Socio-Economic Religion and Political Uncensored Debate

**HelenTay** · 02-11-2009, 07:30 AM

You did the right thing in leaving her. Life's too short to spend any amount of time allowing someone to think they can walk all over you (and screw some other person, and get pregnant for god's sake!) and they can still come home in time for corn flakes and all will be hunkey dorey.

It's all about respect... and when your partner does not respect you, its up to you to respect yourself!

**NodePark** · 02-11-2009, 07:38 AM

Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it.

Good luck!

**HelenTay** · 02-11-2009, 07:47 AM

Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it.

Good luck!

Then why do it in the first place?... obviously she did not think this way when she cheated so he might as well go and find someone who does realise what a relationship should be built on. Also, the OP said it was a repeat offesne which was forgiven once, but this is too far in my opinion. Besides, and the OP is right... it is one thing to forgive, but how easy is it to get over when you have yo bring up a child that is a remind of your partner's unfaithfulness?

**Smabeabumjess** · 02-11-2009, 07:00 PM

Even if you can forgive her for cheating, endangering your health by having unprotected sex, and getting knocked up you can't forgive the fact that she told you by email.

**gennickhif** · 02-11-2009, 07:48 PM

Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it.

Good luck!

This is her second time though man, second. Glad viper improved his life by getting rid of her. Hang in there viper plenty out there.

**r5YOPDyk** · 02-11-2009, 08:58 PM

no she actually isnt trying to defend herself at all, in fact she said she doesnt expect me to forgive her. I know ill be able to move on but it just sucks when you didnt want to, and now have to.

You do realize, that she told you only because she got pregnant and she wouldn't be able to hide it. If she didn't get pregnant, she wouldn't have told you.

**Alina20100** · 02-11-2009, 09:01 PM

You do realize, that she told you only because she got pregnant and she wouldn't be able to hide it. If she didn't get pregnant, she wouldn't have told you.

no she could have hid it, she is the type that would have just up and moved if she really wanted to hide it from me

**#[SoftAzerZx]** · 02-11-2009, 10:23 PM

Then why do it in the first place?... obviously she did not think this way when she cheated so he might as well go and find someone who does realise what a relationship should be built on. Also, the OP said it was a repeat offesne which was forgiven once, but this is too far in my opinion. Besides, and the OP is right... it is one thing to forgive, but how easy is it to get over when you have yo bring up a child that is a remind of your partner's unfaithfulness?

He didn't say that he should stay with her and raise the child. He said he should move on but forgive her as in not hold a grudge.

**UvgpXK0J** · 02-11-2009, 11:52 PM

If my Wife cheated on me, Me forgiving her would depend on several reasons.

1, Did she use protection?
2, Did it happen once or more than once on several occasions?
3, Being Drunk is NOT an excuse, if your so drunk your comotose, then its considered Rape because consent cannot be given by someone whose unconscious.
4, Did she have the "balls" to tell me to my face, or is too chicken and uses email/text/phone/post etc.

The fact that your GF is pregnant, changes things completely.

She went out with the "mindset" of being unfaithfull, The time between getting drunk, getting chatted up, deciding to f*ck her new friend and then going somewhere to do the deed was not just a few seconds or minutes, so its not like she didn't have time to change her mind.

A woman who is happily in a relationship, does not just decide on the spur of the moment to have sex with some random guy she meets whilst socialising.

It hardly matters now, but she was obviously lacking something in the relationship, whether that was Good sex etc, but she still cheated, got pregnant and now you have to walk away and leave the b*tch too it.

If you Love her its not going to be easy to leave her, But for your own dignity and self worth, respect etc, you have to put her out of your mind and get her out of her life.

She's too immature to carry on with a committed relationship and will CHEAT again at the drop of a hat. (or the drop of a few beers).

**Kamepherype** · 02-12-2009, 01:14 AM

its as simple as this buddy

GTFO

**Apparpsmose** · 02-12-2009, 03:12 AM

Viper, all I can say is that you're lucky and you pulled out in time.
you don't really wanna be in this such a deep of a crap, with someone who doesn't give a damn about your feelings.

sorry, but she's stupid enough to get pregnant, not to wear protection AND risk herself and you, and lose a faithful partner who really cared about her. some people here say you may dump her but still forgive her (no grudge etc...), I say BS, she isn't like anyone I would trust.

I don't think this is forgivable, and goddamn jolly well you should forget her for good.
twice goddamnit.[cursing]

**WapSaibiar** · 02-12-2009, 03:20 AM

If my Wife cheated on me, Me forgiving her would depend on several reasons.

1, Did she use protection?
2, Did it happen once or more than once on several occasions?
3, Being Drunk is NOT an excuse, if your so drunk your comotose, then its considered Rape because consent cannot be given by someone whose unconscious.
4, Did she have the "balls" to tell me to my face, or is too chicken and uses email/text/phone/post etc.

The fact that your GF is pregnant, changes things completely.

She went out with the "mindset" of being unfaithfull, The time between getting drunk, getting chatted up, deciding to f*ck her new friend and then going somewhere to do the deed was not just a few seconds or minutes, so its not like she didn't have time to change her mind.

A woman who is happily in a relationship, does not just decide on the spur of the moment to have sex with some random guy she meets whilst socialising.

It hardly matters now, but she was obviously lacking something in the relationship, whether that was Good sex etc, but she still cheated, got pregnant and now you have to walk away and leave the b*tch too it.

If you Love her its not going to be easy to leave her, But for your own dignity and self worth, respect etc, you have to put her out of your mind and get her out of her life.

She's too immature to carry on with a committed relationship and will CHEAT again at the drop of a hat. (or the drop of a few beers).

there's an old saying I coined once.

your wife can only be stolen if she wants to be.

**Lt_Apple** · 02-12-2009, 06:46 AM

Viper, all I can say is that you're lucky and you pulled out in time.

Too have the other guy didn't! [rofl]

**WapSaibiar** · 02-12-2009, 06:54 AM

you know what Just the thought of some bloke blowing his load in my missus and the fact she was enjoying it enough to let him come in her and that she probably gave him head as well as many other things to rude to mention on here just fills me with pure rage...

**ReggieRed** · 03-11-2009, 07:08 AM

you know what Just the thought of some bloke blowing his load in my missus and the fact she was enjoying it enough to let him come in her and that she probably gave him head as well as many other things to rude to mention on here just fills me with pure rage...

Yesss...yess...let the hate consume you...!

**Apparpsmose** · 03-11-2009, 07:22 AM

Yesss...yess...let the hate consume you...!

what hate?
stupid woman![yawn]

**VoriEremiagem** · 03-11-2009, 07:26 AM

Absolutely not.

**Alina20100** · 10-30-2009, 08:34 PM

So basically i just found out via email... that my girlfriend of 2yrs cheated on me and got pregnant with some random dude she met at the bar. She claims it was because she was trashed, which i dont doubt cause i know how she gets when she drinks. But ive been going back and forth over this and despite how i felt for her i cant see myself forgiving her for this. I mean even if i did the kid would be a constant reminder of what happened and i wouldnt want the kid to be stuck in the middle of that.

**SHpuntik** · 10-30-2009, 08:35 PM

Um. no.

**XangadsX** · 10-30-2009, 08:37 PM

nope sorry

02-11-2009, 07:30 AM	#1
HelenTay Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 402 Senior Member	You did the right thing in leaving her. Life's too short to spend any amount of time allowing someone to think they can walk all over you (and screw some other person, and get pregnant for god's sake!) and they can still come home in time for corn flakes and all will be hunkey dorey. It's all about respect... and when your partner does not respect you, its up to you to respect yourself! Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 07:38 AM	#2
NodePark Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 500 Senior Member	Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it. Good luck! Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 07:47 AM	#3
HelenTay Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 402 Senior Member	Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it. Good luck! Then why do it in the first place?... obviously she did not think this way when she cheated so he might as well go and find someone who does realise what a relationship should be built on. Also, the OP said it was a repeat offesne which was forgiven once, but this is too far in my opinion. Besides, and the OP is right... it is one thing to forgive, but how easy is it to get over when you have yo bring up a child that is a remind of your partner's unfaithfulness? Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 07:00 PM	#4
Smabeabumjess Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 547 Senior Member	Even if you can forgive her for cheating, endangering your health by having unprotected sex, and getting knocked up you can't forgive the fact that she told you by email. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 07:48 PM	#5
gennickhif Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 729 Senior Member	Personally, I'd forgive her. Life is hard and people make mistakes. She will have to live with this one and holding it against here is no good for you or her. However, it would still be time to move on. You can not build a relationship based on this kind of deception and lack of respect. Nowhere does it say you can not forgive her and still move on. It's going to be a life lesson for both of you and hopefully you'll both come away better people for it. Good luck! This is her second time though man, second. Glad viper improved his life by getting rid of her. Hang in there viper plenty out there. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 08:58 PM	#6
r5YOPDyk Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 442 Senior Member	no she actually isnt trying to defend herself at all, in fact she said she doesnt expect me to forgive her. I know ill be able to move on but it just sucks when you didnt want to, and now have to. You do realize, that she told you only because she got pregnant and she wouldn't be able to hide it. If she didn't get pregnant, she wouldn't have told you. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 09:01 PM	#7
Alina20100 Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 568 Senior Member	You do realize, that she told you only because she got pregnant and she wouldn't be able to hide it. If she didn't get pregnant, she wouldn't have told you. no she could have hid it, she is the type that would have just up and moved if she really wanted to hide it from me Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 10:23 PM	#8
#[SoftAzerZx] Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 586 Senior Member	Then why do it in the first place?... obviously she did not think this way when she cheated so he might as well go and find someone who does realise what a relationship should be built on. Also, the OP said it was a repeat offesne which was forgiven once, but this is too far in my opinion. Besides, and the OP is right... it is one thing to forgive, but how easy is it to get over when you have yo bring up a child that is a remind of your partner's unfaithfulness? He didn't say that he should stay with her and raise the child. He said he should move on but forgive her as in not hold a grudge. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-11-2009, 11:52 PM	#9
UvgpXK0J Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 503 Senior Member	If my Wife cheated on me, Me forgiving her would depend on several reasons. 1, Did she use protection? 2, Did it happen once or more than once on several occasions? 3, Being Drunk is NOT an excuse, if your so drunk your comotose, then its considered Rape because consent cannot be given by someone whose unconscious. 4, Did she have the "balls" to tell me to my face, or is too chicken and uses email/text/phone/post etc. The fact that your GF is pregnant, changes things completely. She went out with the "mindset" of being unfaithfull, The time between getting drunk, getting chatted up, deciding to fck her new friend and then going somewhere to do the deed was not just a few seconds or minutes, so its not like she didn't have time to change her mind. A woman who is happily in a relationship, does not just decide on the spur of the moment to have sex with some random guy she meets whilst socialising. It hardly matters now, but she was obviously lacking something in the relationship, whether that was Good sex etc, but she still cheated, got pregnant and now you have to walk away and leave the btch too it. If you Love her its not going to be easy to leave her, But for your own dignity and self worth, respect etc, you have to put her out of your mind and get her out of her life. She's too immature to carry on with a committed relationship and will CHEAT again at the drop of a hat. (or the drop of a few beers). Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-12-2009, 01:14 AM	#10
Kamepherype Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 461 Senior Member	its as simple as this buddy GTFO Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-12-2009, 03:12 AM	#11
Apparpsmose Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 524 Senior Member	Viper, all I can say is that you're lucky and you pulled out in time. you don't really wanna be in this such a deep of a crap, with someone who doesn't give a damn about your feelings. sorry, but she's stupid enough to get pregnant, not to wear protection AND risk herself and you, and lose a faithful partner who really cared about her. some people here say you may dump her but still forgive her (no grudge etc...), I say BS, she isn't like anyone I would trust. I don't think this is forgivable, and goddamn jolly well you should forget her for good. twice goddamnit.[cursing] Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-12-2009, 03:20 AM	#12
WapSaibiar Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 370 Senior Member	If my Wife cheated on me, Me forgiving her would depend on several reasons. 1, Did she use protection? 2, Did it happen once or more than once on several occasions? 3, Being Drunk is NOT an excuse, if your so drunk your comotose, then its considered Rape because consent cannot be given by someone whose unconscious. 4, Did she have the "balls" to tell me to my face, or is too chicken and uses email/text/phone/post etc. The fact that your GF is pregnant, changes things completely. She went out with the "mindset" of being unfaithfull, The time between getting drunk, getting chatted up, deciding to fck her new friend and then going somewhere to do the deed was not just a few seconds or minutes, so its not like she didn't have time to change her mind. A woman who is happily in a relationship, does not just decide on the spur of the moment to have sex with some random guy she meets whilst socialising. It hardly matters now, but she was obviously lacking something in the relationship, whether that was Good sex etc, but she still cheated, got pregnant and now you have to walk away and leave the btch too it. If you Love her its not going to be easy to leave her, But for your own dignity and self worth, respect etc, you have to put her out of your mind and get her out of her life. She's too immature to carry on with a committed relationship and will CHEAT again at the drop of a hat. (or the drop of a few beers). there's an old saying I coined once. your wife can only be stolen if she wants to be. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-12-2009, 06:46 AM	#13
Lt_Apple Join Date Dec 2008 Posts 4,489 Senior Member	Viper, all I can say is that you're lucky and you pulled out in time. Too have the other guy didn't! [rofl] Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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02-12-2009, 06:54 AM	#14
WapSaibiar Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 370 Senior Member	you know what Just the thought of some bloke blowing his load in my missus and the fact she was enjoying it enough to let him come in her and that she probably gave him head as well as many other things to rude to mention on here just fills me with pure rage... Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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03-11-2009, 07:08 AM	#15
ReggieRed Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 491 Senior Member	you know what Just the thought of some bloke blowing his load in my missus and the fact she was enjoying it enough to let him come in her and that she probably gave him head as well as many other things to rude to mention on here just fills me with pure rage... Yesss...yess...let the hate consume you...! Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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03-11-2009, 07:22 AM	#16
Apparpsmose Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 524 Senior Member	Yesss...yess...let the hate consume you...! what hate? stupid woman![yawn] Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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03-11-2009, 07:26 AM	#17
VoriEremiagem Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 555 Senior Member	Absolutely not. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-30-2009, 08:34 PM	#18
Alina20100 Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 568 Senior Member	Is something like this forgivable? So basically i just found out via email... that my girlfriend of 2yrs cheated on me and got pregnant with some random dude she met at the bar. She claims it was because she was trashed, which i dont doubt cause i know how she gets when she drinks. But ive been going back and forth over this and despite how i felt for her i cant see myself forgiving her for this. I mean even if i did the kid would be a constant reminder of what happened and i wouldnt want the kid to be stuck in the middle of that. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-30-2009, 08:35 PM	#19
SHpuntik Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 608 Senior Member	Um. no. Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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10-30-2009, 08:37 PM	#20
XangadsX Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 452 Senior Member	nope sorry Share Share this post on Digg Del.icio.us Technorati Twitter
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