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03-01-2009, 06:10 PM
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 How much would you "beg" after a girl broke up with you
Well then, its my first gf story here on the boards, but I thought like "what the heck, cant hurt".
 My gf broke up with me just after new year's eve, because I didnt spend the night with her but partied somewhere else. Pretty stupid move, I know, but as it usually is, the stupid actions only occur as stupid when its already to late. So she broke up with me and said I have been acting like an ass over the last weeks and so on... which is unfortunately kinda true since I didnt spend much time with her, when we I did, I was kinda cold. I dont know why, so dont ask. I wish I had been more loving. So, its kinda against my nature to drive over to anybody's house and "plead". I dont have a problem to give an honest excuse (cause she deserves it), but even though I want nothing more than getting her back I dont wanna go over there and say things like "please... give us another chance... I love you blabla"... I think thats pretty embaressing. I dont even know if I run into her next lover, if she already has one. So, where's the perfect middle? Should I just go over to her place and say "I'm really sorry, just wanted to you to know that."  I'm 29 but I feel like a stupid teenager right now. |
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03-01-2009, 07:26 PM
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Yes, tell her your story and regrets and than give it some time. I'm sure she expects to hear from you. You don't have to feel embaressed about it. She means alot to you, than show her you do.
But do not beg or anything, just show her your sincere regrets. Begging is wrong! . |
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03-01-2009, 07:30 PM
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You know her better than we do. What would work best with her?
Do that![thumbup] |
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03-01-2009, 07:50 PM
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Well, I doubt anything will "work", because she sounded so hurt. Right now I doubt I have even a 1% chance of getting her back. Another problem is, that she workes in the same company as I do, and I'm in a higher position than her. So we'll run into each other necessarily every now and then.
Thats why I'm pretty sure I shouldnt ask her if she'd take me back or anything. I have the feeling no matter what I say it will basically sound like rubbish to her. And no matter how much it will hurt in my stomach (and it does more than I thought), I should keep at least some of that... hmmm... male pride, whatever that is. If I had one free wish right now, I wouldnt wish to get her back, but rather to get rid of that feeling in my stomach. Maybe I'm a total ******** just for thinkin that, but that has always been one of my character problems, lol. |
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03-01-2009, 07:52 PM
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[QUOTE=Streifenkarl;1046550]
So, where's the perfect middle? Should I just go over to her place and say "I'm really sorry, just wanted to you to know that." QUOTE] You got the right idea...say your peace, but don't beg. She threw the ice bucket on you to get your attention. Apparently it worked. Now you just need to show her you learn from your mistakes... |
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03-01-2009, 08:10 PM
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Yup, tell her you're sorry and leave it at that. Sometimes we can care a lot for someone but it just doesn't work as a relationship - can turn out to be a great friendship, though, if respect is shown both ways.
That you work for the same company is a huge incentive to make sure she doesn't feel you've wronged her as many companies have all sorts of harassment clauses and other BS. TBH, I suspect you're just not cut out for something serious and still have some maturing to do. |
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03-01-2009, 08:17 PM
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Why did you not spend New Year Eve with her? Terrible mistake.
Umm, apart from that I have no advice, every women is different and I'm yet to meet one I don't make some major mistake with. The last girl I dated, I made the mistake of meeting her 
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03-01-2009, 08:19 PM
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Why did you not spend New Year Eve with her? Terrible mistake. |
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03-01-2009, 08:24 PM
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Why did you not spend New Year Eve with her? Terrible mistake. But its not only that, I really was an asshat during the whole holiday season, we didnt see each other often as I was with my familiy and she was with hers, and she always called me, while I just called her once. I hate those reflections, as they only make it more hurt, since it was me who messed it up. Gawd, I dont want to go to work on monday, I know if I run into her it'll strike me on the head like a 20kg hammer! |
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03-01-2009, 08:26 PM
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TBH, I suspect you're just not cut out for something serious and still have some maturing to do. |
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03-01-2009, 08:27 PM
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You could apologize, she possibly could take you back but over enough time you would revert back to this previous behavior.
it just doesn't work as a relationship - can turn out to be a great friendship, though, if respect is shown both ways. |
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03-01-2009, 08:32 PM
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Don't beg thats just sad and I am sure she wouldn't like that either. Just act like a grown up and admit you made a mistake and ask for forgiveness. Think a little about what you are going to say so you don't trip over your words and crash into idiot mountain.
And yeah women seem to have an unnatural bond with the orbital rotational period thing, who knows. [surrender]
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03-01-2009, 09:14 PM
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male pride pffftt.. go and beg. in fact the more embarrassing the better, public humiliation shows you really care
 she will either say okay or bugger ye off, and life can continue. begging works well with lavish gifts and acts! |
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03-01-2009, 09:33 PM
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LoL, sometimes that thought jumps into my mind, but I need to keep my face up since we also work together. Otherwise I'd probably be already lying in the mud infront of her feet. [rofl]
 You could apologize, she possibly could take you back but over enough time you would revert back to this previous behavior. Every single time I have known someone that has tried to remain "friends" with one of their exs one of them had wanted to get back with the other. It almost always causes pain for one party. That is true. I never came across a girl I could have been friends with after we broke up with one not wanting the other back. Never works. |
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03-01-2009, 09:52 PM
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IMHO, if the bitch is gonna get pissy over so something so simple, she's not worth your time. [thumbdown]
Let the bat-**** insane bitch toy with someone else. You're 29; according to normal standards, you have 40 more years to get yourself tied down to someone much less looped that won't get pissed because you go do your own thing without her. Just count your loses and walk away. |
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03-01-2009, 10:05 PM
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Well she definately isnt a bitch, actually if the word nice had a picture right next to it in the dictionary it would be her photo. So even if I wanted, I couldnt handle it like that.
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03-01-2009, 10:11 PM
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what i think you should do is: '' go to her, open up, tell what you have to say'' i was wrong. i should have paid more attention''
it worked for me and others. communication is the key to salvation |
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03-01-2009, 10:21 PM
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IMHO, if the bitch is gonna get pissy over so something so simple, she's not worth your time. [thumbdown] 
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03-02-2009, 12:41 AM
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I gave her a call, she didnt want to see me, so I apologized to her on the phone for being a total asshat, but that I was always sure about my feelings for her.
She said she hadnt even expected my call because she thought I was the one that wanted to get out of the relationship without saying anything and that hurt her so much. WTF??? Gee, either I am a total jerk that I didnt notice that she thought I wanted out or she's making that up to shut me up. I guess thats that. |
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03-02-2009, 12:53 AM
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So what are you going to do now? Just leave it like this.. or?
If you two loved each other, you'll be forgiven but you sure will get punished. Like she does now. It'll pass.. |
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