[joe-salton]

This is slightly long so please hang with me, or skip to cliffs at the bottom.

Well i was talking to a friend tonight about this girl i was going to go out with this weekend, and he mentions to me that his g/f said she would hook me up with a friend of hers. I think ok, why not? I'm not commited to anyone i can go out on a date with this other chick also, not like i'll be cheating on anyone if i do. So me and his g/f get to talk about her friend, i get a lil bit of info but the time comes and i have to get dressed and head to work.

So i get to work, i txt my friend and ask for some more info about this friend of his g/f's. And his reponse says to me he's pissed or extremely annoyed about something. I ask him whats up with him and he responds "well do you want a g/f or not?". Kinda throws me for a loop as i've never planned to jump into being "b/f and g/f" with any girl tell after i've gone out with them a few times. Either way though i respond "yea, i'd like to be in a relationship", why lie about something as trivial as that you know? Well then he responds with something to the effect of him not liking how i've dated in the past, now here's where my question comes into play.

In the past i've met girls (online and off) and gone out on a date with them, and thats been it nothing more, no more contact with them. Some i've driven a lil bit late at night and they offer to let me stay at their place so i dont' have to drive home drunk or be extremely tired driving home in the dark. Well evidently my friend seems to have a problem with the fact that i've gone out on a date with a chick, and after that i dont' talk to them again.

Now correct me if i'm wrong, but isn't the point of dating to find out about the person, to have a fun time? There is only so much you can learn about a person by messaging/txting/talking on the phone. You can get a good idea bout them but can't really tell for sure if you'll really like them tell you spend some time with them. Considering that with most women i've gone out on a date wtih i can tell if there's something there or not, and can decide then and there if i want to even try for anything more.

Now dont' get me wrong, i've also gone out multiple times with other women i've dated and one or 2 have turned into short but fun relationships. I've also had others that it's come out that we would rather just be friends as we seem to get along well but just don't have that... spark between us. This is where i'm really confused at. Does my friend have any reasonable reason to be annoyed at me for not talking to some women after just a single date? Am i some jerk when it comes to dating and dealing with women?

For the record also i'm not just going out on a date with them to get laid like some people. More often then not i'm usually a good guy and don't plan on anything like that, and my friend knows this. Guess this is just kinda driving me nuts trying to figure out exactly what my friend has a problem with sense he wouldn't elaborate exactly what it was that he had a prob with. Any and all options regarding this are apreciated.

Cliffs:
Friends g/f offers to set me up with her friend
Ask for info on this girl from friend
Friend gets attitude about dating habits for unknown reason
Dating habits to me don't seem to be anything bad or out of the norm
Perplexed at friend's attitude.
Am i a bad guy for how i date or is friend just whipped by his current g/f into acting like he is?

[FBtquXT8]

Dude, don't worry at all about your dating habits, there is nothing wrong with it.

Your friend is currently under the thumb and whipped like a little bitch. That or he's jealous of your style.

Tell him to suck it up and deal with how you see women and stop being such a cry baby

[gydrorway]

I guess you could give it a bit longer than day. I've never made solid friends with someone after one day. What makes you give up on these girls after one date?

[WUlcN1Rz]

your friend has the hots for his gf's friend.


yes, i said 'the hots'.

[xjNo4zvD]

I think the girl they try to set you up with might be interested in something more than casual dating, and from what you said, your dating attitude is just that. Something casual and fun, but nothing really committed.

I understand that sometimes things just don't click, but how well can you really know a person after just one (possibly drunken) date? You are obviously not looking for something too serious.

It is possible that your friend is under pressure from his gf to find out what you are thinking, in order to protect her friend from possibly getting hurt. And really, when a date don't talk to you or call you back after an OK date, it could be a little hurtful.

[joe-salton]

Well to answer a few questions and clear the air of some misconceptions, i actually am looking for something serious. Most of these dates don't even involve going out and getting drunk. Not all of them have been just 1 date, but most have. While i agree it takes more then one date, i've also been talking to these girls a fair amount before we go out, so i have gotten to know them a bit before i even go out on the date with them. My friend knows i'm not a jackass or anything who'll just use once and throw away any girl, so thats why this is making me wonder whats going on with him. As for what makes me give up on them, there is usually something that makes me give up on them. The last 2 girls or so have turned out to be way to immature for my tastes. They say they are mature, and even seem it while talking to them, but when i eventually go out with them they turn out to be the type of immature that thinks they are mature, even tries to be but is far from it. They seem it but then they often say and do lil things that are just way to childish for me. I'm not talking about the whole having fun childish things, i'm talking the whole "stop and stare" type of things. Granted i'm only 23, but i feel that i deserve someone who's atleast as mature as i am and has their head on straight.

[exeftWabreava]

lol... askin strangers for dating advice over the internet is not good....
figure it out on ur own..tends to work out best IMO

[joe-salton]

lol... askin strangers for dating advice over the internet is not good....
figure it out on ur own..tends to work out best IMO

I'm not really askig for advice, if you actually bothered to read the cliffs or what i actually bothered to type out. As i see it there is nothing wrong what so ever with how i date. I was just asking for an opinion on if how i was doing i was seen as ok, or as bad in the opinion of others. If i was going to ask for dating adivce, i'd google up some website about dating and look up stuff that way.