[Dertrioz]

Masha Allah, may Allah ta'ala accept it and make you happy.

Off the top of my head:

Make sure nothing against Shariah and Sunnah happens during the marriage.
Always make Mashura with someone senior when issues pop up
Do not expect much from your Wife. If you have high expectations, you will get hurt when expectations are not fulfilled.
Learn all the Masnoon duas you will need
Treat her parents like your parents
Maintain such a relationship with your Wife that she is able to tell you all her problems. If the husband is someone who jumps at her face everytime she makes a mistake or wants to talk, then she will start taking problems outside the house, which will lead to problems
Make a habit of doing Ta'leem at home
If your Wife needs any masail, learn it yourself from proper Ulama and teach her

Forgive her mistakes, 70 times a day, even if she repeats the same mistake over and over again.

[robstamps]

Masha Allah, may Allah ta'ala accept it and make you happy.

Off the top of my head:

Make sure nothing against Shariah and Sunnah happens during the marriage.
Always make Mashura with someone senior when issues pop up
Do not expect much from your Wife. If you have high expectations, you will get hurt when expectations are not fulfilled.
Learn all the Masnoon duas you will need
Treat her parents like your parents
Maintain such a relationship with your Wife that she is able to tell you all her problems. If the husband is someone who jumps at her face everytime she makes a mistake or wants to talk, then she will start taking problems outside the house, which will lead to problems
Make a habit of doing Ta'leem at home
If your Wife needs any masail, learn it yourself from proper Ulama and teach her

Forgive her mistakes, 70 times a day, even if she repeats the same mistake over and over again.

Jazakallah for your input.
Regarding masnoon duas what duas would you say in specific?

[fedelwet]

Jazakallah for your input.
Regarding masnoon duas what duas would you say in specific?

I will try to post the duas later insha Allah
Mainly the dua when greeting your Wife first, duas for intimate relations

[h4z1XBI7]

I am trying to find the thread in which Mufti Taqi Usmani's Db book recommendations are. Does anyone know where it is?

[Zenunlild]

Bismihee Ta'aala

Asalamualaikum

Best book every-one must read about marriage, before and after:

http://www.islamicbookstore.com/b8273.html


Some hikmah an aalim once told me (but in my own words):

"Women like men, not whimps. They like it when a guy takes control. Now a real man is a person who says where they will live, how much they will spend, etc. However, when it comes to what color the blinds should be, the bed sheets, etc., leave it to the women. Let them have what they like."

Also

"When it comes to love, show it through your actions. Actions speak louder than words. But don't be shy to express your love once in a while by saying the words."

[ZwHRoTTn]

Good Q&A BY Shaykh Hasan Ali for those planning to get married. Please click here

[NaMbessemab]

try to go for 4 months in the path of Allah

[WeissVine]

Some pdf books that look useful.

[WumibBesowe]

Brother Amr123 hope you don't mind me copying those links you gave on the other thread?
Happy marriage:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bBnlmm64q28
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybuddqNg-Y0

[Wahwlsnt]

useful i like

[lalpphilalk]

I will try to post the duas later insha Allah
Mainly the dua when greeting your Wife first, duas for intimate relations

brother can you please post those duas when you get the time?

[nintenda]

I found these two inspiring books on another thread:
Rights of women
Rights of men

[giturbewan]

I made a seperate thread regarding waleemah, i thought i should leave a link here just in case anyone needs it.
Please click here.

[glazgoR@]

What do you guys think of the concept of the wedding dress.

[pharmacologist30]

I have a couple of books in the Turkish language. They are:

İslam'a Göre Cinsel Hayat by Ali Rıza Demircan (Eymen Yayınları)
İslam'da Evlilik ve Cinsel Mutluluk by Mahmud Mehdi İstanbuli (Çağrı Yayınları)

[b7RKli4l]

I have a couple of books in the Turkish language. They are:

İslam'a Göre Cinsel Hayat by Ali Rıza Demircan (Eymen Yayınları)
İslam'da Evlilik ve Cinsel Mutluluk by Mahmud Mehdi İstanbuli (Çağrı Yayınları)

If you have them in pdf maybe you can upload them for the benefit of Turkish people. Inshallah

[shiciapsisy]

so what do you guys think?

[violetgorman]

If you have them in pdf maybe you can upload them for the benefit of Turkish people. Inshallah

No, sorry. They're actual books and quite lengthy (not booklets/pamphlets). I thought I'd list them in case there are any Turkish people looking out there and they come across your thread.

[EDIT: the 2 Turkish books I listed deal primarily with "fiqhi issues pertaining to marriage"]

[topbonuscasino]

Book on Marraige

[tofRobbroolve]

Assalam alikum wa rahmat Allah,

my brotherly advice is as follow,

from begining both of you focus on your duties and relationship with Allah SWT. for example help each other to not miss any tahajud. both do ishrag, dhuha and nafl, sunnah prayers.etc Make that the most important thing between you two and not the petty matter such as worrying about job, money, entairtainment, etc.

find a dawah work that both can be envolved or some service for Allah, muslims masjid

do lots of nature trips together, such as kayaking, boat, fishing, gardening, walking in woods etc,

Make sure from begining your wife always obey you in all matters.You set the rules according to shriah, get her used to her. be a kind but good shepard.

kitchen and house is her area try to keep out and only be helpful.

discuss verses of quran together , and make a habit of sharing your spritual finding with each other.(this is very important) especially finding treasures in quran.

always put down dunya. be keen in finding the thought process that praises dunya. be merciless that is the key for tranqulity

Make dua for each other in each prayer and ask each other for dua

read Imam Gazali's recomendations I have posted some in SF

May Allah SWt bless both of you and fill your hearts with love and compassion toward each other.