[ArrichMer]

Assalaamu 'alaykum ww
Why this is made into such a big deal i do not understand!

Tasawwuf, Tabligh, Ta'leem etc. are not the maqsad (objective/goal) of life, Ridhaa i Ilaahi is the maqsad i.e. His Ma'rifat, Muhabbat etc (for both men and women). Shaykh Zakariyya ra used to say that even salaat, sawm, hajj and zakat are not the maqsad, the maqsad is Ridhaa i Ilaahi. There are many paths to attain just this, so choose whichever the heart inclines towards, simple!

edit: by the way i heard this from my Shaykh (i added the "men & women" bit) : )