[Arratherimi]

in regards to getting married, is it better to marry as young as possible than to delay getting married due to financial reasons?

to be a little more clearer, i shall be turning 23 on the 31st of may, which is 4/5 days time.. i have always set myself a target of getting married before the age of 24! however, i have heard that one of the reasons as to why we don't get what we want in life is due to the fact that we tend to delay getting married until we are financially secure instead of thinking of the great amounts of reward up for grabs by getting married (completing half your deen etc).

is it upon the Qur'an and Sunnah to marry as young as possible? i no longer consider myself young, therefore i have a worry that already im not upon the Qur'an and sunnah by not already having gotten married.. this is a big personal concern for me, therefore any advice will be helpful!

Jazaak Allah Khair

[Ijkavylo]

Assalamu 'alaykum,

If you are mentally, physically, and financially capable at 23 then seek your path out.
What I mean is:
- Intention for marriage.
- Whom to choose.
- Qualities to look for.
- Seeking perfection is destruction.

And there are many other points but the above are crucial.

Your age is not really young...Plus, even if you're 24 and are not married despite trying sincerely then consider it as a blessing as Allah may have saved you from marrying a horrible spouse!

[errolespopume]

There is one hadith which nearly means that Allah opens rizq of the couple who are married. Hence, if you are married, there are more chances of settling early in life than normal.

I married at the age of 23, fighting all of my friends and families. Today I am in a state which no one might have ever dreamt of me

[Arratherimi]

Wa alaykum salaam.. thank you for your reply! An issue i have is that currently i am not working, but i have jus completed my first year at university!

if i was to tell the family that i want to get married i feel that they may say that i should complete my studies first but i still have 3 years to complete my studies.

i feel that i do not want to wait that long because i have found the woman i want to marry, she knows i want to marry her and she has told me that she wants to marry me too.

i don't want to fall into the trap of sinning, even though i know i already have by even talking to her regularly. therefore i want to marry as soon as possible.

but im not sure of how to go about telling my parents that i seriously want to get married. my parents are generally easy to talk to about almost anything, especially my mother. so maybe it wont be too difficult to tell her that i seriously want to marry!

i would appreciate any advice!

Jazaak Allah Khair!

[CuittisIL]

http://spa.qibla.com/issue_view.asp?...=3122&CATE=202

Tell your family your studies won't help you on the Day of Judgement but the fact that you got married at a younger age might