[dolaBeetCeage]

This is an unusual post but i'm really desperate, i need forgiveness from Allah, but i cant find the words i'm full of regret but this is just too many times and im too ashamed now, i cant bring myself to make a sincere dua'a for forgiveness, if you guys can please take out two minutes and make a sincere dua for me, may Allah forgive me and that he grants me good ikhlaaq please, i'm really messed up, i cant think straight and i dont have the nerve to ask anyone from my family anyway Jazak Allah Khairan n

[chadnezzrr]

This is an unusual post but i'm really desperate, i need forgiveness from Allah, but i cant find the words i'm full of regret but this is just too many times and im too ashamed now, i cant bring myself to make a sincere dua'a for forgiveness, if you guys can please take out two minutes and make a sincere dua for me, may Allah forgive me and that he grants me good ikhlaaq please, i'm really messed up, i cant think straight and i dont have the nerve to ask anyone from my family anyway Jazak Allah Khairan n

May Allah forgive you for all your sins whether done intentionally or unintentionally. May Allah grant you the best of Ikhlaaq and make you a better person. Ameen ya Rabb al aalameen!

I hope this makes you feel good.

P.S I know how it feels. Sometimes you do something wrong and repent but the sin just doesn't go away from your life and the next time you do it you find yourself too shameful to face Allah and repent. I have experienced this many times.

[itaspCatCriny]

This is an unusual post but i'm really desperate, i need forgiveness from Allah, but i cant find the words i'm full of regret but this is just too many times and im too ashamed now, i cant bring myself to make a sincere dua'a for forgiveness, if you guys can please take out two minutes and make a sincere dua for me, may Allah forgive me and that he grants me good ikhlaaq please, i'm really messed up, i cant think straight and i dont have the nerve to ask anyone from my family anyway Jazak Allah Khairan n

sister, you're not alone in feeling this way. May Allah (SWT) accept yours, mine and all of our tawba's and grant us good ahlak.

Sister, try to do this:

• recite sayyidul-istighfar after fajr and maghrib (fardh) every day (I try to recite it 3x after each). It only takes a small amount of time to do this. Try to ponder on the meaning as you recite it (I try to read the translation as I recite the Arabic).
• do dhikr with tasbih saying 'astaghfirullah' 100x per day - from your heart, with feeling, with fear. It does not take very long to do. As you say 'astaghfirullah' think back on your life and those moments you are sincerely remorseful about, all those moments/things you are making tawba for and asking Allah (SWT) for forgiveness.
• This is just a little something extra: astaghfirullah

[Lapsinuibense]

This is an unusual post but i'm really desperate, i need forgiveness from Allah, but i cant find the words i'm full of regret but this is just too many times and im too ashamed now, i cant bring myself to make a sincere dua'a for forgiveness, if you guys can please take out two minutes and make a sincere dua for me, may Allah forgive me and that he grants me good ikhlaaq please, i'm really messed up, i cant think straight and i dont have the nerve to ask anyone from my family anyway Jazak Allah Khairan n

Remember that Allah's mercy is greater than anyone's sin. Instead wasting your energy in feeling shameful, use that energy to praise Allah's mercy and belittle yourself. Tell Allah how bad you know you are and how great is Allah's mercy. Those kind of things are pleasing to Allah SWT. Don't treat Allah like the creation in which you feel ashamed. This is your CREATOR! How can you feel ashamed to meet Him SWT? He already knows everything about you inside and out - what's there left to hide and feel ashamed for? Go to him because you have no other choice - and who can forgive except Allah. May Allah forgive you and I hope you make dua personally, because it is only you who will have the true sincerity (none of us know the severity of the sin and thus the sincerity required).

[mGUuZRyA]

sister,

May Allah forgive you and all of us, and may He grant us all the best in this world and in the hereafter. Ameen.

Sister, you don't need a particular type of words to make sincere taubah and to ask Allah swt for forgiveness. I posted this recently in another thread, I am quoting it again below. Try to read, understand, and ponder it and Insha'Allah it will be beneficial.

A scholar at our Masjid recently, whose sheikh was Maulana Yunus Patel (ra), said that he once asked Maulana Yunus Patel (ra) something to the effect of what kind of words one should use when making taubah (repenting) to Allah . He said the maulana gave him the following example as an answer (paraphrased):

Let's say a father has 2 young sons, both of whom have done something to greatly upset the father:

A. The first son, who is not really that sorry about his actions and considers himself to be really clever, comes up with an elaborate plan to apologize and make up with his father. He writes a whole speech about how he is so sorry, even uses some props and what not to really spice things up and look legitimate... he then goes and delivers this planned act to his father. The father can sense that maybe this son is not really being sincere in his apology and rather this is all a big elaborate act to get him to forgive him. Hence, the father has to think twice before deciding whether his son is being sincere and if he should forgive him or not.

B. The second son, who is truly sorry for his actions which caused his father to become so upset, doesn't know what to do or say to apologize and make up with his father. He goes to his father not knowing what his plan of apology is. As soon as he sees his father, he falls to his feet and bursts out in tears. No words come out of his mouth because he's crying so hard and also he just doesn't know what to say. The father sees the condition of this son & senses his sincerity on the spot, without a doubt.

Which of the above two sons do we think the father is going to forgive without hesitation?

Maulana then said taubah is the same thing. It is the name of a kaifiat (feeling), and it doesn't necessarily need to have any special words or acts. Feeling truly sorry, feeling extreme resentment for the sin(s) one has committed, crying in front of Allah about it and sincerely promising never to do it again, then following through with that promise... that is taubah.

May Allah forgive my mistakes in narrating this story and Allah knows best.

[itaspCatCriny]

Also, remember that our beloved Muhammad used to make istighfaar many, many times per day even though he was free from sin.

Here's another thread you might want to visit.

[itaspCatCriny]

We also need to remember to ask for forgiveness from anyone whose rights we may have transgressed or fulfill any rights we may have neglected.

I learned this in class recently:
* True taubah - is taubah that the person makes with sincerity - fulfilling certain conditions like: having remorse, making istighfaar, having firm intention not to commit the sin again and fulfilling any rights towards others or asking forgiveness from those whose rights we may have violated.
* If we make such a taubah, we should have firm hope that Allah (SWT) will accept it.
* If we fall into the same sin again, it will not nullify our previous taubah but we will have to make a new taubah for this new sin (remembering to have remorse, make istighfaar, and have firm intention not to commit the sin again... and have firm hope that Allah (SWT) will accept our taubah).