[Idorsearogele]

Asalam wr wb

There is no dispute that kindness etc. Is due to our parents, but does anyone know of any authentic text making it obligatory to "love" our parents? What if one hates his father because of his foul conduct(arrogance,bad language, adopting the ways and actions of the kuffar) and odd/lazy look on Islamic issues which the persons mother and family can unanimously agree that he has, but he shows none of the hate
Would this extreme dislike be permissible?

[kertUtire]

Asalam wr wb

There is no dispute that kindness etc. Is due to our parents, but does anyone know of any authentic text making it obligatory to "love" our parents? What if one hates his father because of his foul conduct(arrogance,bad language, adopting the ways and actions of the kuffar) and odd/lazy look on Islamic issues which the persons mother and family can unanimously agree that he has, but he shows none of the hate
Would this extreme dislike be permissible?

“Hadhrat Ibn Abbaas (radhiallahu anhu) narrates that Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, ‘That person who awakes (in the morning) in the condition that he is obedient to Allaah with regard to his parents, (i.e. he treats them well in accordance to the Shariah), then he has made the morning in such a condition that the doors of Jannat(Paradise) are opened for him. If one of his parents are alive and he reaches the morning in such a condition that he is obedient to Allaah regarding his parent, then he has reached the morning in such a condition that one door of Jannat is opened for him.
As for the person who reaches the morning in such a condition that he is disobedient to Allaah Ta`ala regarding his parents (i.e. he is disobedient to his parents) then he has reached the morning in the condition that the doors of Jahannum (Hell)are opened for him. If one of his parents are alive and he reaches the morning in such a condition that he is disobedient to Allaah regarding his parent, then he has reached the morning in such a condition that one door of Jahannum is opened for him.’One person asked, ‘Even if his parents have oppressed him? (That is, will this ruling still apply in that case?)’
Nabi (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) replied by repeating thrice, ‘Even if his parents had oppressed him, even if his parents had oppressed him, even if his parents had oppressed him.’”
[Baihaqi / Mishkaat Shareef, page 421]

[illetrygrargo]

Brother azhar123, lets twist this the other side for a minute. What if the parents are cruel to member of your famly for example Wife, or mother in law? Obviously you will always love them and they will to you too, but what is the ruling

[praboobolbode]

Asalam wr wb

There is no dispute that kindness etc. Is due to our parents, but does anyone know of any authentic text making it obligatory to "love" our parents? What if one hates his father because of his foul conduct(arrogance,bad language, adopting the ways and actions of the kuffar) and odd/lazy look on Islamic issues which the persons mother and family can unanimously agree that he has, but he shows none of the hate
Would this extreme dislike be permissible?

Salaamu alaiykum
I'm going to put a thought in this thread (not established fatwa or something which is haqq, just a thought or consideration - maybe someone can build or modify it). Why can't we hate the action and not the person? Why can't we see this thing as a disease and illness the father has? When someone has contagious illness, why do we stay away from that person. Not because of the person but the illness right? We don't want the illness to come to us. Have respect and concern for them the very least. I don't know where hate comes into it, but if that violates your respect and concern for him, then why should it be okay. When we were kids, we were like little shayateen, always trying to make mischief and ruin happy moments and sometimes distract and keep them away from their religious obligations. They didn't hate us did they? They realised that you are doing this because you are either influenced by friends and hence helpless in your behaviour due to your weak state. It's the same with them. As you get older, you become as weak as a child. I don't want to make this too long so I'll stop...

[diegogo]

The way I see it, you can't always control your feelings, but you can control your actions.