[Michmant]

Assalamu `Alaykum

I am engaged to a wonderful and beautiful Muslimah. Alhamdulillah. There is a major problem, however.

We got engaged without the parent's knowledge. So she recently told her parents that she wanted to marry me and she asked them if I could meet them.
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Their response has been to punish her and shut her out from the world. They're not allowing her to leave the house nor to talk to me. They haven't allowed me to meet them or to even ask for their daughter's hand in marriage from them. Instead, they are suspicious of me and my family because I am a convert and my family is a little disfunctional. None of which is my fault.

So I humbly request du'a from you brothers and sisters. Ask Allah to ease this Muslimah's situation. Ask Allah to soften her parents' hearts and to have them stop yelling at her and punishing her. Ask Allah to have it be so that her parents are willing to meet me very soon and discuss my proposal. Also, ask Allah to allow it so that I may seek outside help in this situation (such as from an Imam).

Thank you. JazakAllah

[SeLvesTr]

May Allah Ta'ala ease your difficulties and May He correct your affairs for you.

[mdUzAMbG]

Islamically speaking you can't really get engaged without the permission of the girls parents which is why they maybe suspicious of you, and you shouldn't really have contact with the girl either. If you were unaware of these things it is best to apologise to her parents and explain to them that you are a convert and are not aware of some of the rulings etc and you wish to ask for her hand in the correct manner

may Allah azza wa jal make it easy for you...Aameen

[Michmant]

Islamically speaking you can't really get engaged without the permission of the girls parents which is why they maybe suspicious of you, and you shouldn't really have contact with the girl either. If you were unaware of these things it is best to apologise to her parents and explain to them that you are a convert and are not aware of some of the rulings etc and you wish to ask for her hand in the correct manner

Sister, I think if the parents absolutely refuse to accept a proposal and don't give a man a chance, then one can get engaged without the parents permission.

But our problem wasn't that it was without parental permission. It was that it was without them even knowing. So you're right, and insha'Allah I plan to apologize and propose in the proper manner. Her father has decided to meet with me along with his friend who's an American convert as well alhamdulillah so we'll see how it goes from there.

Thank you for your da`waat. JazakAllah