[weaddercaps]

Assalamualaikum everyone

Alright, so....with regards to marriage, it often starts off as arranged but one thing that isn't explained enough for me is the FEELINGS and attraction and its importance in the matter.

Does Islam say that you should marry somebody who you already fell in love with, or would it be more advisable to marry someone with a good character and then let love blossom later on? It makes sense, but what if that love never blossoms and you never end up falling in love with them? Could that indeed be a possibility?

Please share your thoughts on this, jazakhallah!

[GogaMegaPiska]

Wa Salaam

One should do all that Islam says in finding a good match.

But I also like this quote I came across...I don't know if this person was Muslim or not.

'It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship.Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment,it will not be created for years or even generations."Khalil Gibran

[sttrqiss]

Regarding Marriage, you should always prefer Deen. But this is very easy to say but very hard to do.

Your love should be for Allah (swt) only.

Again, it is very easy to say but very hard to do.

[weaddercaps]

Thank you for your answers, jazakhallah.

[surefireinvest]

But I also like this quote I came across...I don't know if this person was Muslim or not.

Gibran was a Lebanese Christian, not Muslim.

[reawnvam]

Wa Salaam

One should do all that Islam says in finding a good match.

But I also like this quote I came across...I don't know if this person was Muslim or not.

'It is wrong to think that love comes from long companionship and persevering courtship.Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created in a moment,it will not be created for years or even generations."Khalil Gibran

salam alikum sister,
I dont know how this is meant exactly, I would not consider this quote for relevant.
w salam

[M_Marked]

Gibran was a Lebanese Christian, not Muslim.

but Dr sb, his writings shows he was an atheist....?

[russianstallian]

but Dr sb, his writings shows he was an atheist....?

Actually, from what I understand he was more of a perrenialist/universalist.

[GogaMegaPiska]

Shaykh Nuh Ha Meem Keller on love in marriage or the adab of love:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V47ea...eature=related

[DzjwMKo5]

It makes sense, but what if that love never blossoms and you never end up falling in love with them? Could that indeed be a possibility?

Please share your thoughts on this, jazakhallah!

That is, indeed, a possibility. There are few, if any, absolute guarantees for us as individuals in *this* life.

[DP5Ups8o]

Gibran was a Lebanese Christian, not Muslim.

I have done a Dr A-T (or dr.ati) to Kahlil Gibran here.

[nerrttrw]

Assalamualaikum everyone

Alright, so....with regards to marriage, it often starts off as arranged but one thing that isn't explained enough for me is the FEELINGS and attraction and its importance in the matter.

Does Islam say that you should marry somebody who you already fell in love with, or would it be more advisable to marry someone with a good character and then let love blossom later on? It makes sense, but what if that love never blossoms and you never end up falling in love with them? Could that indeed be a possibility?

Please share your thoughts on this, jazakhallah!

If you get married and love doesn't blossom, and this is important for you, ask the man to divorce you, so you can carry on looking for someone to fall in love with. EASY!!

[sttrqiss]

If you get married and love doesn't blossom, and this is important for you, ask the man to divorce you, so you can carry on looking for someone to fall in love with. EASY!!

It seems easy but it could be stupidest thing too because divorce is something which is lawful but hated by Allah (swt) most. So, as an outsider, we should never suggest it to anyone and leave it to person's own will to give/get a divorce.

Another thing that Allah (swt) often compensate the person, suppose if wife did not get a good husband then Allah (swt) could give her very loving and obedient children.

Allah (swt) can enrich anyone anytime, so always seek what makes Allah (swt) happy not what makes you happy.