[moohassinny]

• Shame upon those men who oppress their wives.
• Giving preference to your friends over your wife is oppression.
• Screaming and yelling at your wife is oppression.
• Coming home late each night or coming to bed late each night without a valid excuse is oppression.
• Wasting time on the internet or phone, television or games whilst your wife is waiting for you is oppression.
• Not spending reasonable time with your wife is oppression.
• Not commending her upon her goodness, sacrifice and achievements whilst only harping on her weaknesses is oppression. Be fair!
• Not correcting her in the most loving manner and going around publicizing her errors or wrongdoings is oppression.
• Not providing at least the basic food, clothing and shelter for her is oppression.
• Not appreciating that she is someone's daughter or sister and treating her like a slave is oppression.
• Allowing your mother or family members to disrespect or maltreat your wife is oppression.
• Allowing others to invade her privacy is oppression.
• Not giving her the rest that she deserves post child birth is oppression.
• Swearing and cursing your wife is oppression.
• Making false promises to your wife is oppression.
• These are just some ways that men oppress their wives.
• Shame upon those men who oppress their wives!
• Are you one of them? Well, change your ways, apologize and repent before the Almighty overtakes you with His Wrath.
• Remember the Messenger pbuh says, "The best of you are those best to their wives."

[flowersnewaho]

excellent reminder. Jazakallah khair.

[flowersnewaho]

I request other friends to add to the list of possible oppressions.
I can think of these-
-To not allow her to meet and/or phone her parents and other Mahrams at reasonable intervals is oppression.
- Not to take her to a doctor or bring her medicines with out a valid reason when she is sick is inhuman .
-To always expect her family to give you gifts and parties is oppression.
-To not arrange for her minimally required proper Islamic education and Tarbiyah and Tazkiya is oppresion.
-not to take her out (with purdah/hijab ofcourse) or arrange for halal recreation with out a valid reason is oppression.(My shaikh advised me to take my wife out atleast once a week.)
-To force her to cook or do house-hold work when she is sick or tired is oppression.