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[ancexttew]

The first thing you should do is to kindly make it known to them that you would prefer to not listen to music. this would make them automatically be wary of listening to music around you and would be the first step in making them question their laxity in this issue.

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[elalmhicabalp]

Yes, I have tried that, but they laugh in my face. Im ridiculed in my family for going to "extremes" with the deen. My parents know its haram, but they persist in doing it. Once my father even asked me in a taunting fashion "son, is this permissible in Islam" while indicating the song playing on the TV.

Too many Muslims these days are a lot like your family.
My advice try to get your own place or find Muslim[s] who
think like you and see if they need a roommate.

May Allah make it easy on you.

[Yarmark]

Yes, I have tried that, but they laugh in my face. Im ridiculed in my family for going to "extremes" with the deen. My parents know its haram, but they persist in doing it. Once my father even asked me in a taunting fashion "son, is this permissible in Islam" while indicating the song playing on the TV.

The approach of directly telling such people, almost never helps these days [especially in the west]. I don't know what to advise you as I am not the right one to give advise, but what I can tell you, from personal experience, is to use hikmah and your actions should be sound when coming across delicate issues like this one, where your family is involved.

Obviously, this doesn't mean to compromise your deen.
Oh and we all agree, I hope so, that the background noise in these serials are awful!

Wassalam.

[G778G9P0]

Salam

do you get peace t.v. at your house on cable or satellite? it's a much better alternative to TV and 95% of the their content is very excellent. I know Dr. Zakir Naik's style can appeal to many desi people. (presupposing that you are desi here).

also you could try playing mufti Ismail Menk's stories of the prophet's series on youtube to them...maybe they'll get hooked to it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yuwGysRUv-k

in one of the first days he talks about the history of music and it's inception. it was actually something that shaytaan brought to the early humans and has stuck with them since.

[AntonioXYZ]

try make masyura with the jamaat masjid closest to you.
Maybe some sathis from the masjid can visit your family.
or when there's jamaat in khuruj in your locality, can invite your family members to attend to the program.
Also, cry to ALLAH and make alot of du'as for them.

wallaahu a'lam.

[foltdan]

Start taleem at home
Even if only for a few minutes everyday at first

[ferelrossi]

ASWW
Get marrrrriiied! .. and get out!....Period! .. but loooove your parents and make dua for them and be kind to them.

[mitiaycatq]

ASWW
Get marrrrriiied! .. and get out!....Period! .. but loooove your parents and make dua for them and be kind to them.

i second that one.

[johnteriz]

Start taleem at home
Even if only for a few minutes everyday at first

yes, start ta'lim everyday 15 mins.
definitely no peace tv and stuff

[myspauyijbv]

My family has a really big problem with watching drama serials and listening to songs on T.V.
My mother and sister continuously watch Hindi Drama serials (which show uncovered females, and awful background music). My sister also listen to songs on television on B4U Music(A channel specifically for Bollywood songs). My dad also gets caught up in this. The worst part is, its perfectly fine and normal with them, its happens [B]every[B] night and nobody is realizing that what there doing is haram.
This all happens in the living room where we have a huge flat-screen TV. For this reason, I usually stay upstairs to avoid the sinning. But the problem is the my parents call me downstairs to the living room to sit with them, or for dinner (which we eat with the TV blasting in front of us). So If I stay upstairs I will be sinning (disobedience to parents) and I if I go downstairs to help my parents (where the TV and songs are blasting 24/7) I will be sinning.

I want to serve my parents and earn good deeds, but Im reluctant to do that since I will fall into the sin of music and television etc...

Any Advice?

MY advice to you ,don't directly jump to that don't watch T.V it's haram.It is something like you are walking on a road telling a non-muslim you will thrown into hell on the day of judgement.what will be his expression ?either he will laugh at you or get angry on you.
First try to divert their mind from those hindi drama to any other informative channels (science,any cooking channels).Stat playing games with them.let involve them so much they forget their hindi drama timings.Slowly introduce the islamic knowledge,ill effects,punishment for watching such thing.Be patient.It may months but might work.
But if you want shortcut,cut the cable wire without informing them see their anxiety.(This is what one of my friend did ,and their parents cursing the cable operator why he cut the netwrk,we have payed monthly charge.She was very happy that day,but works for few days,her brother identified wire cut by her)

[Nifoziyfar]

Salaam alaikum,

Main thing brother is don't argue with them. If you start arguing they might say something very insulting towards the deen, and this would have a serious effect.
One thing I'd like to know is, and this is more personal you don't have to answer, did you recently become more religious? Before did you watch the shows with them, etc? Does your family pray, go to masjid at all, have respect for the deen?

[weaddercaps]

Salam

do you get peace t.v. at your house on cable or satellite? it's a much better alternative to TV and 95% of the their content is very excellent. I know Dr. Zakir Naik's style can appeal to many desi people. (presupposing that you are desi here).

also you could try playing mufti Ismail Menk's stories of the prophet's series on youtube to them...maybe they'll get hooked to it. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yuwGysRUv-k

in one of the first days he talks about the history of music and it's inception. it was actually something that shaytaan brought to the early humans and has stuck with them since.

Are you kidding? My Family is not into that stuff. In fact, they have bought the special Hindi Package (like 10 channels all playing Hindi serials and songs), and they have cut off all other channels (Peace TV, CNN, even cartoons!)

[weaddercaps]

or when there's jamaat in khuruj in your locality, can invite your family members to attend to the program.

thats another thing my family doesn't do, attend Islamic gatherings. We've never attended any ceremony, gathering, ICNA convention etc...
They'd rather go to brown people weddings.

[weaddercaps]

ASWW
Get marrrrriiied! .. and get out!....Period! .. but loooove your parents and make dua for them and be kind to them.

Lol. I'd love to do that, but im too young to get married.

[weaddercaps]

Salaam alaikum,

Main thing brother is don't argue with them. If you start arguing they might say something very insulting towards the deen, and this would have a serious effect.
One thing I'd like to know is, and this is more personal you don't have to answer, did you recently become more religious? Before did you watch the shows with them, etc? Does your family pray, go to masjid at all, have respect for the deen?

Yes, I' have only recently become practicing (been a little more than a year I'd say).
My family only goes to the Masjid on Jum'uah, and that too reluctantly and right at the end when the khutbahs almost over.

I remember last Ramadhan I literally begged my dad to drive me to the Mosque (we live far from the mosque) so we can pray taraweeh. They took me like 3 times, and we didn't even pray the whole taraweeh, dad made us leave after 8 rakahs. Meanwhile, our neighbors (they're Muslim, may Allah bless them) went every night and prayed the whole 20 Rakah.
So I had to pray almost all of my Taraweeh salah's at home.

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[Nifoziyfar]

Yes, I' have only recently become practicing (been a little more than a year I'd say).
My family only goes to the Masjid on Jum'uah, and that too reluctantly and right at the end when the khutbahs almost over.

I remember last Ramadhan I literally begged my dad to drive me to the Mosque (we live far from the mosque) so we can pray taraweeh. They took me like 3 times, and we didn't even pray the whole taraweeh, dad made us leave after 8 rakahs. Meanwhile, our neighbors (they're Muslim, may Allah bless them) went every night and prayed the whole 20 Rakah.
So I had to pray almost all of my Taraweeh salah's at home.

Salaam,

Brother may I ask how old you are?
Does your family pray at home, even off and on?
It is very good that your family goes to the masjid for juma'ah, I assume that they went before you started to become religious correct?
So if you live far from the masjid, that is fine, you don't need to go to taraweeh if it is not possible. Pray at home, OR if your neighbours go, go with them. It is good that your family took the time and went and even prayed tarawih. Many Muslims live close by the masjid and don't even go. May Allah bless your parents and guide them and us to full deen.

Again my main advice is do not argue, don't even say anything to them about anything. You are too close to them and they will not take you seriously because you are their child. NEVER EVER point out their faults brother, NEVER, because this will back fire and may cause them to go further away. All you can do is keep good relations with them, always smile, have fun with them, don't make it now that you have become more religious that everything is haraam, gloom and doom. No one will respond positively to that, and there was a time when you wouldn't have either. So be patient, learn as much as you can, practice as much as you can, but don't do things like, if they all sit down to eat food together and they eat with forks, don't you start eating with your hands in front of them, or start saying we need to eat sitting on the floor. Stuff like that will start fights and you may become the means of their insulting the Sunnah, may Allah save us. You must use wisdom and make du'a every night with crying. This will do something, talking directly won't.

[Nifoziyfar]

But if you want shortcut,cut the cable wire without informing them see their anxiety.(This is what one of my friend did ,and their parents cursing the cable operator why he cut the netwrk,we have payed monthly charge.She was very happy that day,but works for few days,her brother identified wire cut by her)

Do not do this. This would only make things worse.