[JennyStewarta]

My brother has got married recently. I dont get on with her or her family. Recently my own mother had degraded me and so has my brother. I feel lost and alone. I told them i will be leaving and getting married and they were happy, not because i was getting married but because i was leaving. They curse my marriage to come and say how my own future husband will hate me. I dont know what to do and i feel neglected and dishonoured. please help

[Heaneisismich]

Deen is one way traffic. Forget what others do to you. Learn to put up with people. Learn to always show the best character no matter what. Turn people into your slaves through your good character. In the hereafter, you will be rewarded for doing so.

Listen to any lectures on the following website to help you develop good character.

http://www.truesufism.org/

[patuvammnogoo]

My brother has got married recently. I dont get on with her or her family. Recently my own mother had degraded me and so has my brother. I feel lost and alone. I told them i will be leaving and getting married and they were happy, not because i was getting married but because i was leaving. They curse my marriage to come and say how my own future husband will hate me. I dont know what to do and i feel neglected and dishonoured. please help

make duas to find a good husband.live with him alone as per shariah and try to improve ties with family,if they keep on psychologically harming you keep a distance without severing ties.ask an experienced wise mufti regarding this matter.
may allah forgive those who do not honour youre rights

[JennyStewarta]

I ignore everybody here.

[Abarricoss]

I ignore everybody here.

Why?

[JennyStewarta]

Why?

i mean in my house

[Abarricoss]

i mean in my house

ah, I see.

Is everyone in your family Muslim? Are the differences stemming from differences in beliefs or differences in practice (or both or something else entirely)?

[Qnpqbpac]

My brother has got married recently. I dont get on with her or her family. Recently my own mother had degraded me and so has my brother. I feel lost and alone. I told them i will be leaving and getting married and they were happy, not because i was getting married but because i was leaving. They curse my marriage to come and say how my own future husband will hate me. I dont know what to do and i feel neglected and dishonoured. please help

In my own experience, my ties with my family improved once I got my own place.

[JennyStewarta]

ah, I see.

Is everyone in your family Muslim? Are the differences stemming from differences in beliefs or differences in practice (or both or something else entirely)?

yes all muslim. I am the only daughter and my sister in law has taken my parents away from me.

[intisgunkas]

They sound ignorant. People generally do not know what they do not know...this is ignorance. We must be patient and forgiving. People act subconsciously meaning they are asleep or auto-pilot...saying and doing things without thinking, maybe they picked this up from the people around them. They react emotionally their ego feels threatened so they lash out to anyone they think is a enemy. Do not judge them accept them with all their faults they are who they are because they have been created that way. You might be able to educate them..if not just be positive and carefree...say to them you curse me but I hope and pray that you get happiness and good. Say good things to them and if you do leave home, leave on good terms maybe buy them a small gift. Insha Allah they will be won over by your good words and actions.

My brother has got married recently. I dont get on with her or her family. Recently my own mother had degraded me and so has my brother. I feel lost and alone. I told them i will be leaving and getting married and they were happy, not because i was getting married but because i was leaving. They curse my marriage to come and say how my own future husband will hate me. I dont know what to do and i feel neglected and dishonoured. please help

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concentrate on your relationship with Allah swt, everything else will follow suit.

"Fix your relationship with Allah, and He will fix your relationship with others."

(not that i am saying there is anything terribly worng with your relationship, i dnt know you personally - but there is always always room for improvement)

[Abarricoss]

yes all muslim. I am the only daughter and my sister in law has taken my parents away from me.

It sounds like things were different (good) before your brother's marriage.

I have to say, you're getting some really, really great advice here from all of the brothers and sister Hayya... I have nothing to add. Just hang in there and try to follow the advice everyone here has provided and insha'Allah with time and perseverance things will change for the better for your whole family.

[JennyStewarta]

concentrate on your relationship with Allah swt, everything else will follow suit.

"Fix your relationship with Allah, and He will fix your relationship with others."

(not that i am saying there is anything terribly worng with your relationship, i dnt know you personally - but there is always always room for improvement)

I love my relationship with Allah. He always fixes things for me. Inshallah he will make me strong.

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I love my relationship with Allah. He always fixes things for me. Inshallah he will make me strong.

The value of a blessing is only realised after it is taken away.
In other words once you go then your family will realise what a loss they have made. But i would advise you to have patience whilst you are still at home. We don't know the exact situation so an overall advise would be just to try and keep away from general discussions at home and try to utilise this time learning abou t the deen of Allah or any other useful activites. And make sure no matter what you try to give the utmost respect to your parents at the same time as they have a haq over you.
I also remember you posting some time ago about getting married. Did it not happen then?

[JennyStewarta]

The value of a blessing is only realised after it is taken away.
In other words once you go then your family will realise what a loss they have made. But i would advise you to have patience whilst you are still at home. We don't know the exact situation so an overall advise would be just to try and keep away from general discussions at home and try to utilise this time learning abou t the deen of Allah or any other useful activites. And make sure no matter what you try to give the utmost respect to your parents at the same time as they have a haq over you.
I also remember you posting some time ago about getting married. Did it not happen then?

I am ignoring everybody including my parents. I am going to put myself first. I am going to get married in a couple of weeks but no one is happy for me.

[pobrierce]

Here is a specific Dua for unity in Family, br.pluto shared it before:

Suratul Hijr, Ayah no: 47 x11times and blow in the air.


May Allah shower Barakah and unity and Mercy on your Family. Ameen.