[Terinalo]

Asalamu Aleikum

recently my life has become full of problems , problems and only problems

there is only tension left in Life - daily family fights occur - there is only hatred among us siblings left - all of the my siblings are in problems -- those who are married , their married life has become hell , no love between husband and wife -- and one of my sibling has suddenly acting kind of very strange ( like psycho ) that sibling was very intelligent very smart , dont know what has happened to the sibling suddenly --

i think ALLAH is angry at us or with me somehow - i have done astaghfaar , done toba lot of times - but i dont know still daily new problem arises --- i think ALLAH is very very angry with me -- i pray namaz but have started only this year before i was not religious -- i used to pray before but not 5 times , what should i do ?? i am afraid that my ALLAH is angry with me

[Madjostok]

keep making tawbah...recite plenty of durood

try to bring your family towards Islam...try to make everyone in the household steadfast in their prayers...try to take out filth from your homes...such as music...television if people are watching bollywood flith and stuff similar to that

keep making dua and have faith in Allah

[d1Bc25UP]

Don't worry brother, such problems are faced by many of us too. Have trust in Allah Ta'ala. Here is a specific Dua for unity in Family, br.pluto shared it before:

Suratul Hijr, Ayah no: 47 x11times and blow in the air.


May Allah shower Barakah and unity and Mercy on your Family. Ameen.

[OnerePeepsy]

Don't worry brother, such problems are faced by many of us too. Have trust in Allah Ta'ala. Here is a specific Dua for unity in Family, br.pluto shared it before:



May Allah shower Barakah and unity and Mercy on your Family. Ameen.

This should help me too

[Terinalo]

keep making tawbah...recite plenty of durood

try to bring your family towards Islam...try to make everyone in the household steadfast in their prayers...try to take out filth from your homes...such as music...television if people are watching bollywood flith and stuff similar to that

keep making dua and have faith in Allah

yes some of my siblings are not religious - they do not pray at all not even friday prayers -- and since i am smallest in my family - when i try to tell them to pray no one listens -- how do i convince them to become religious give me some tips --- father and mother are very religous though --

[viagraman]

OP is asking for sincere help. Please refrain from going offtopic and making inciting posts.

[Terinalo]

Don't worry brother, such problems are faced by many of us too. Have trust in Allah Ta'ala. Here is a specific Dua for unity in Family, br.pluto shared it before:

Suratul Hijr, Ayah no: 47 x11times and blow in the air.


May Allah shower Barakah and unity and Mercy on your Family. Ameen.

جزاك اللهُ خيراً Brother

[Lolita Palmer]

Kindly make duaa in the last third part of night. It will help a lot inshaaAllah.
Also try to make up the prayers you missed.
As a member suggested, avoid music and TV as music is a caller of shayateen and shayateen set the camps in the houses where music is heard and obviously peace is lifted and there will more fasad and fights. Instead read Quran regularly that will bring in angels and there will be more peace inshaaAllah.
Contact a spiritual guide and seek his guidance.

[abOfU9nJ]

Asalamu Aleikum

recently my life has become full of problems , problems and only problems

there is only tension left in Life - daily family fights occur - there is only hatred among us siblings left - all of the my siblings are in problems -- those who are married , their married life has become hell , no love between husband and wife -- and one of my sibling has suddenly acting kind of very strange ( like psycho ) that sibling was very intelligent very smart , dont know what has happened to the sibling suddenly --

i think ALLAH is angry at us or with me somehow - i have done astaghfaar , done toba lot of times - but i dont know still daily new problem arises --- i think ALLAH is very very angry with me -- i pray namaz but have started only this year before i was not religious -- i used to pray before but not 5 times , what should i do ?? i am afraid that my ALLAH is angry with me

Walaikum Assalam!

Brother problems are in everyone's life. Rise & fall are the part ... the case you are telling is so bad.
No need to worry about anything brother.
As you have mentioned that things happen suddenly. May Allah protect all of us - aameen!

Don't worry, Allah is REHMAN too

I would like to suggest you to contact my Sheikh. He is MashAllah so pious and & don't worry about price things he does for free of cost. He is a Wali Allah.

Anyhow, the link below contains the contact details of him;

http://www.bani-hafiz.com/?page_id=10 Just make him call, if possible or do a mail. InshAllah! there would be some way out & Good Luck!

[GotActichwicy]

yes some of my siblings are not religious - they do not pray at all not even friday prayers -- and since i am smallest in my family - when i try to tell them to pray no one listens -- how do i convince them to become religious give me some tips --- father and mother are very religous though --

Salam brother,

My family can get like yours not with arguing and the like, but not being very religious. The only thing you can do brother is you carry on acting like a Muslim with whatever you do, act like a Muslim. As Habib Umar and many others have said, if we act like Muslims ourselves people will just follow. So don't worry about "preaching" to them or persuading them... You be a good Muslim and pray to Allah to guide them... eventually i speak from personal experience, your family will follow brother. They will do what you do and if you continue, they will continue being pious... and you will get many reward, InshAllah

Set an example

Be strong in faith

NEVER criticise or insult or shout at your family - this will not help.

Have mercy, speak gently about the Prophet and Allah in conversation. Talk to your family members about random things, make jokes, do not become depressed, angry and stern at your family.

Do not give up hope, keep doing what you do and be kind.

And lastly make Dua, Only Allah guides, Ask him to Guide your family.

Eventually i assure you your family will come around brother. This happened with my family, speak with love and advice NOT anger and command.

May Allah guide your family, bless your family, accept your family and have Mercy upon your family.

Salam.

[realfan87]

Salaam

this could be due to black magic,

please visit http://www.ruqyashariyah.org/forum/ and follow the directions from there, and put the Quran recording in your house from this site, It will help inshallah

[darieBarexish]

Subhanallah

[darieBarexish]

Salam brother,

My family can get like yours not with arguing and the like, but not being very religious. The only thing you can do brother is you carry on acting like a Muslim with whatever you do, act like a Muslim. As Habib Umar and many others have said, if we act like Muslims ourselves people will just follow. So don't worry about "preaching" to them or persuading them... You be a good Muslim and pray to Allah to guide them... eventually i speak from personal experience, your family will follow brother. They will do what you do and if you continue, they will continue being pious... and you will get many reward, InshAllah

Set an example

Be strong in faith

NEVER criticise or insult or shout at your family - this will not help.

Have mercy, speak gently about the Prophet and Allah in conversation. Talk to your family members about random things, make jokes, do not become depressed, angry and stern at your family.

Do not give up hope, keep doing what you do and be kind.

And lastly make Dua, Only Allah guides, Ask him to Guide your family.

Eventually i assure you your family will come around brother. This happened with my family, speak with love and advice NOT anger and command.

May Allah guide your family, bless your family, accept your family and have Mercy upon your family.

Salam.

Brother

This no doubt very good advice and perhaps when our brother makes dua he may wish to recite the duas of the prophets when they were experiencing difficulties such as the following
1. Allahumma inni a’oodhu bika mina al-hamm wa’l-hazn wa’l-ajz wa’l-kasal wa’l-bukhl wa’l-jubn wa dala wa’l-dayn wa ghalbat al-rijal
Trans: O Allah ! I seek refuge in You from distress, grief, incapacity, laziness, miserliness, cowardice, the burden of debt and from being overpowered by Men.

Anas said that when the Prophet, peace be upon him, was faced with a serious difficulty, he would always supplicate, “Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu (O the Living, O the Eternal, I seek help in Your grace)."
Source: Tirmidhi

But remember ALLAH(swt) is Al-Wakeel (the disposer of our affairs so only ALLAH (SWT) can truly help in all matters. “When Allah wants to be good to someone, He tries him with some hardship.” (Abu Hurairah)

[Toninvell]

Brother, some great advice has been given to you by brother Kuffs and others.

It is true though, that although your family may be going through a rough patch, you are not alone in this feeling. Many of us have experienced this and I'm sorry to hear it's happening to you right now, as family are very important and it's good that you are concerned for them.

You can't force people to do something they don't want to do, we all make mistakes, and sometimes we have to realise our mistake on our own because sometimes its the only way. But we learn, we move forward, and seek forgiveness.

Concentrate on your path, and hold your family close. Things may seem a bit hard now, but Inshallah this will turn around for you all.

I'm sure you do already, but thank Allah for your family, as many people around the world are alone sadly.

A few things for me recently went wrong, and I was very upset and i was crying a lot. But I told myself "NO. It is Allah's will. Things happen for a REASON" and in the future I will see, that the things that went wrong in my life...were for a reason.

You are not alone.

[Terinalo]

جزاك اللهُ خيراً and Thanks everyone for Advices

[GrileVege]

جزاك اللهُ خيراً and Thanks everyone for Advices

Okay akhi. You will have to make some effort on your part and some sacrifices. There could be a number of reasons why this is happening and why duas are not being accepted. The first and most important one is correct belief of Allah. If you call upon Allah any other way than that prescribed by Allah, then what would you expect? Allah says to call upon him Alone and not to make partners with him SWT. Also, do not invent lies against Allah and his messenger, for people who do that are the most evil. So can you tell me that you're calling upon Allah alone and not making partners with him (I'm being serious akhi. And I would think you will be too by the looks of your original post)
Are you sure your 'aqeedah is correct? Are you sure you are not indulged in bid'ah? Have you found out more about those who you associate yourself with? This should be your primary concern here... And that goes for everyone else who experiences this.

[ConoMadura]

Asalamu Aleikum
...
i think ALLAH is angry at us or with me somehow - i have done astaghfaar , done toba lot of times - but i dont know still daily new problem arises --- i think ALLAH is very very angry with me -- i pray namaz but have started only this year before i was not religious -- i used to pray before but not 5 times , what should i do ?? i am afraid that my ALLAH is angry with me

Brother white-falcon, it could be that Allah SWT is pushing you harder by giving you these trials, one after another, only to make you stronger.

Insha Allah ta'aala you are in our prayers and you will succeed fantastically. May Allah SWT never let you give up. Amin everyone.

Barak Allah ta'aala.

[Terinalo]

Okay akhi. You will have to make some effort on your part and some sacrifices. There could be a number of reasons why this is happening and why duas are not being accepted. The first and most important one is correct belief of Allah. If you call upon Allah any other way than that prescribed by Allah, then what would you expect? Allah says to call upon him Alone and not to make partners with him SWT. Also, do not invent lies against Allah and his messenger, for people who do that are the most evil. So can you tell me that you're calling upon Allah alone and not making partners with him (I'm being serious akhi. And I would think you will be too by the looks of your original post)
Are you sure your 'aqeedah is correct? Are you sure you are not indulged in bid'ah? Have you found out more about those who you associate yourself with? This should be your primary concern here... And that goes for everyone else who experiences this.

asalamu aleikum - no brother my aqeedah is correct i follow hanafi madhab so my aqeedah is according to fiqh al akbar -- with regard to whom i associate myself with - i get knowledge from wherever i can get - i get knowledge from barelwis - deobandis - tahir qadri - salafis thus i get knowledge from all sources -- dont worry my aqeedah is correct

and yes i am calling upon ALLAH alone not associating any partners with Him .

[Terinalo]

Brother white-falcon, it could be that Allah SWT is pushing you harder by giving you these trials, one after another, only to make you stronger.

Insha Allah ta'aala you are in our prayers and you will succeed fantastically. May Allah SWT never let you give up. Amin everyone.

Barak Allah ta'aala.

sister i hope that this is trial - if its trial i will be happy to know that its trial from ALLAH - what makes me afraid is that what if its wrath or punishment from ALLAH ?

btw can anyone suggest me some Quranic Surah's which help in solving one's problems ?

[GrileVege]

asalamu aleikum - no brother my aqeedah is correct i follow hanafi madhab so my aqeedah is according to fiqh al akbar -- with regard to whom i associate myself with - i get knowledge from wherever i can get - i get knowledge from barelwis - deobandis - tahir qadri - salafis thus i get knowledge from all sources -- dont worry my aqeedah is correct

Akhi, the people who you get knowledge from have completely different 'aqeedah so how would you be able to accept all? Many people are completely against the 'aqeeda of Tahir Qadri and Barelwis especially saudi scholars so you should be careful there. I say this because you seem to show an exceptional love towards Abdul Qadir Jilani who I don't doubt his relationship with Allah but most people use his character for shirk (e.g. calling upon him - they do call him Gauz Azam right?) and the Qadiriyya 'aqeedah is completely opposed by many scholars including in Saudi arabia. That's why I'm worried about your 'aqeedah akhi.