[Lymnempomma]

i am getting married but i don't actually know her well how can i tell she is pious...she does not even wear hijab so and advise

[Lymnempomma]

i am getting married but i don't actually know her well how can i tell she is pious...she does not even wear hijab so and advise

[Cd9JfGHR]

Being without Hijab is in itself the sign of not being pious. Moreover you can ask her relatives, neighbours, or people who know her. Dont forget to make istikhara.

[LsrSRVxR]

girls who wear hijab before marriage remove it after the marriage. if no hijab, then its very difficult.

discuss with elders, start making isthikara

[GetsTan]

girls who wear hijab before marriage remove it after the marriage...

^?

Don't you mean, "Sometimes girls who wear hijab..."?

[Yyaqyped]

Watch this brother:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jjcSn...e_gdata_player

[elalmhicabalp]

ASWW
I hope brother for her sake you are also pious. It is not a one way game brother. Read the verses of the H Quran and the descriptions of partners to be!!

[Karensmith]

ASWW
I hope brother for her sake you are also pious. It is not a one way game brother. Read the verses of the H Quran and the descriptions of partners to be!!

Like this aayah of the qur'aan...

“Impure women are for impure men and impure men are for impure women. Pure women are for pure men and pure men are for pure women.” (Quran, 24:26)

[LsrSRVxR]

^?

Don't you mean, "Sometimes girls who wear hijab..."?

yes sister

[merloermfgj]

Being without Hijab is in itself the sign of not being pious. Moreover you can ask her relatives, neighbours, or people who know her. Dont forget to make istikhara.

I would rather have a girl who has good character and doesn't wear hijab, then a girl who wore hijab and has bad character.

I would rather have a girl who could control her angry and doesn't wear hijab, then a girl who wore hijab and couldn't control your angry.

Having good character and controlling one's angry is related to piety and so is wearing hijab....

No one is perfect, so pick and choose wisely where you prefer that piety to manifest.

It takes years to perfect character and controlling one's angry... Putting on hijab takes only a second...

Plus she only has to wear hijab when outside and in front of certain people... so you will only have to deal with the imperfection part of time, but if she is a person with bad character and gets angry quickly, you will always have to deal with the that imperfection no matter where you are with her...

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

We were designed to sin.... We all sin... So the real question which sins are more tolerable for you as a person, not what other may think of you, but what you can deal with as a person cause you have to live with her.

Ain't no body perfect..... NOT even you.... Believe that....

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

People want their spouse to be so pious as if they are so pious... We all sin to some degree.... And we all have piety to some degree....

[Karensmith]

Don't be fooled by what you think. The hijaab is the divine command of the Most High.

How will a woman who disobeys her lord, obey her husband???

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

Sure, character is a very important aspect for all, but so is the hijaab.
The prophet never said that hijaab is not incumbant on those who lack good character. It may only take a second to wear the hijaab but it can be that second that takes you to jannah.

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

Yes, we all do sin, but thats not a ticket to sin further, neither is it a ticket to sin openly & nor is it a ticket to justify our sins.

A woman who obey's ALLAH by wearing the hijaab, is more likely to obey ALLAH by having a good character and controlling her anger.... Don't you think so?

And no body's perfect but we all have to try....

The hijaab is the identity of a muslim woman. It denotes the modesty of a female. It proclaims her obedience to her lord. It shows the world that as a muslima, her priorities are first and foremost to her lord. And anyway, hijaab and character cannot be compared, just as salaah and zakaah cannot be compared. They're both the commands of the creator - something to be obeyed! You can't justify the omittance of one by claiming that ''the other is not fulfilled.''

A woman who doesn't find it important to please her creator and please HIM will not find it important to obey HIS creation and please them.... And if she does, then its worse than having a bad character and getting angry, much - because the creation CANNOT have preference over the CREATOR.

So pick and choose wisely.... Yes! Pick and choose wisely.

[preptarra]

Don't be fooled by what you think. The hijaab is the divine command of the Most High.

How will a woman who disobeys her lord, obey her husband???

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

Sure, character is a very important aspect for all, but so is the hijaab.
The prophet never said that hijaab is not incumbant on those who lack good character. It may only take a second to wear the hijaab but it can be that second that takes you to jannah.

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

Yes, we all do sin, but thats not a ticket to sin further, neither is it a ticket to sin openly & nor is it a ticket to justify our sins.

A woman who obey's ALLAH by wearing the hijaab, is more likely to obey ALLAH by having a good character and controlling her anger.... Don't you think so?

And no body's perfect but we all have to try....

The hijaab is the identity of a muslim woman. It denotes the modesty of a female. It proclaims her obedience to her lord. It shows the world that as a muslima, her priorities are first and foremost to her lord. And anyway, hijaab and character cannot be compared, just as salaah and zakaah cannot be compared. They're both the commands of the creator - something to be obeyed! You can't justify the omittance of one by claiming that ''the other is not fulfilled.''

A woman who doesn't find it important to please her creator and please HIM will not find it important to obey HIS creation and please them.... And if she does, then its worse than having a bad character and getting angry, much - because the creation CANNOT have preference over the CREATOR.

So pick and choose wisely.... Yes! Pick and choose wisely.

Salaam

Excellent answer

[Immampdah]

Don't be fooled by what you think. The hijaab is the divine command of the Most High.

How will a woman who disobeys her lord, obey her husband???

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

Sure, character is a very important aspect for all, but so is the hijaab.
The prophet never said that hijaab is not incumbant on those who lack good character. It may only take a second to wear the hijaab but it can be that second that takes you to jannah.

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

Yes, we all do sin, but thats not a ticket to sin further, neither is it a ticket to sin openly & nor is it a ticket to justify our sins.

A woman who obey's ALLAH by wearing the hijaab, is more likely to obey ALLAH by having a good character and controlling her anger.... Don't you think so?

And no body's perfect but we all have to try....

The hijaab is the identity of a muslim woman. It denotes the modesty of a female. It proclaims her obedience to her lord. It shows the world that as a muslima, her priorities are first and foremost to her lord. And anyway, hijaab and character cannot be compared, just as salaah and zakaah cannot be compared. They're both the commands of the creator - something to be obeyed! You can't justify the omittance of one by claiming that ''the other is not fulfilled.''

A woman who doesn't find it important to please her creator and please HIM will not find it important to obey HIS creation and please them.... And if she does, then its worse than having a bad character and getting angry, much - because the creation CANNOT have preference over the CREATOR.

So pick and choose wisely.... Yes! Pick and choose wisely.

Good points you make here my sis though I understand where bro UntoldTruth is coming from. barak Allah ta'aala

[unmalryAlalry]

I would rather have a girl who has good character and doesn't wear hijab, then a girl who wore hijab and has bad character.

I would rather have a girl who could control her angry and doesn't wear hijab, then a girl who wore hijab and couldn't control your angry.

Having good character and controlling one's angry is related to piety and so is wearing hijab....

No one is perfect, so pick and choose wisely where you prefer that piety to manifest.

It takes years to perfect character and controlling one's angry... Putting on hijab takes only a second...

Plus she only has to wear hijab when outside and in front of certain people... so you will only have to deal with the imperfection part of time, but if she is a person with bad character and gets angry quickly, you will always have to deal with the that imperfection no matter where you are with her...

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

We were designed to sin.... We all sin... So the real question which sins are more tolerable for you as a person, not what other may think of you, but what you can deal with as a person cause you have to live with her.

Ain't no body perfect..... NOT even you.... Believe that....

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

People want their spouse to be so pious as if they are so pious... We all sin to some degree.... And we all have piety to some degree....

What a filthy pack of sheer lies!

Untold Truth, it's high time you start telling the truth!

Did you ever stop to think, what made the rude lady wear hijaab in the first place? Wasn't it imaan to begin with???

If your lame excuse is that hijaab is cultural in certain circles, then take note that "good character" is equally, if not far more, cultural, esp in Western societies. (Why do think the salesgirls keep smiling and floating from side to side like a whore?)

You just want a "sweet and easy" wife who keeps you satisfied, whilst the Laws of Allah ta'aala can be swept under the rug.

Let every man beware: Any one who shows the slightest negligence in imparting Islamic virtues to his wife, and his wife gets doomed in the akhirat due to his laziness and "easy-going style", never will she leave him alone till he gets flung into the same Fire!

070.011 Though they will be given sight of them.
The guilty man will long to be able to ransom himself from the punishment of that day at the price of his children
070.012 And his spouse and his brother
070.013 And his kin that harboured him
070.014 And all that are in the earth, if then it might deliver him.
070.015 But nay! for lo! it is the fire of hell
070.016 Eager to roast;
070.017 It calleth him who turned and fled (from truth),
070.018 And hoarded (wealth) and withheld it.

Surah Al Ma'aarij Ayat 11-18

[LsrSRVxR]

Don't be fooled by what you think. The hijaab is the divine command of the Most High.

How will a woman who disobeys her lord, obey her husband???

So pick and choose wisely where you want the piety to manifest....

Sure, character is a very important aspect for all, but so is the hijaab.
The prophet never said that hijaab is not incumbant on those who lack good character. It may only take a second to wear the hijaab but it can be that second that takes you to jannah.

Be wise, we all sin.... which sins can you deal with???

Yes, we all do sin, but thats not a ticket to sin further, neither is it a ticket to sin openly & nor is it a ticket to justify our sins.

A woman who obey's ALLAH by wearing the hijaab, is more likely to obey ALLAH by having a good character and controlling her anger.... Don't you think so?

And no body's perfect but we all have to try....

The hijaab is the identity of a muslim woman. It denotes the modesty of a female. It proclaims her obedience to her lord. It shows the world that as a muslima, her priorities are first and foremost to her lord. And anyway, hijaab and character cannot be compared, just as salaah and zakaah cannot be compared. They're both the commands of the creator - something to be obeyed! You can't justify the omittance of one by claiming that ''the other is not fulfilled.''

A woman who doesn't find it important to please her creator and please HIM will not find it important to obey HIS creation and please them.... And if she does, then its worse than having a bad character and getting angry, much - because the creation CANNOT have preference over the CREATOR.

So pick and choose wisely.... Yes! Pick and choose wisely.

Sister,
Really liked this. It would be really helpful for me as I am searching a girl for me

[ReneCM]

Don't be fooled by what you think. The hijaab is the divine command of the Most High.

How will a woman who disobeys her lord, obey her husband???
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Hijab or no hijab, how many Muslim women these days actually believe in obeying their husbands let alone comply with that principle?

[Quonuttott]

Hijab or no hijab, how many Muslim women these days actually believe in obeying their husbands let alone comply with that principle?

Good Point...many pretend to be submissive and sweet until all hellava breaks loose...heee heeee

[puzobok]

Deen is constant and consistent work and having a partner to work with is extremely helpful. It is important that you and your wife-to-be are compatible in your deen and insha'Allah you will grow together in perfecting yourselves and your dealings with each other and those around you. You are entering into a union and I see nothing wrong with letting her know where you are in your deen and what you expect of her - perhaps you could write a letter to her and deliver it through her parents? And perhaps you could request that she do the same in return so you have a chance to connect with those answers.

[puzobok]

can impure men wanting to purify themself but just could't do so, can't get PURE women???

What is pure and what is impure? If you were at one point impure does that mean you can never be considered pure in the future? Who gets to say you've been pure or impure and what would the criteria be? What about impure people who act pure and people can not tell and a marriage to a pure person occurs?

In other words... are you 'pure' now? Will you accept a 'pure' partner even if she has been 'impure' in the past?

[puzobok]

You have to do talim and busy in relegious activity and get her involved. Get some relegious sister to be her friend.