[Blellurgews]

Assalamoalaikum.
I am a teenage boy who has moved from the place of my birth to another country, a totally different country. Though we have moved here 12 years ago, i still feel that i have not melded properly into the new society.
In school, i have this language problem that makes communication very difficult. In our schools, 2 languages are taught and i am weak in that language which is generally spoken by all the children. When i speak, i use really poor grammar and therefore i don't feel very confident to use it. I do no speak a lot in my school and i don't even have any good friends. I had a few in the past but all of them betrayed me in one way or the other. Now i spend most of my recess alone. I really cannot trust anyone. I have also been the subject of mockery because students think i am a study geek, whereas i am not. But people just don't seem to understand.
In my house, i am the only one who performs all the religious duties . I am completely different from my other family members. I am very silent in my house too. None of my family appreciates me the way i should be. They always point out my faults, compare me to other boys and tell me how they're better than me, they disapprove of my sports, and they never agree on my ideas and suggestions and they take all my good qualities for granted.
The point of all this is just to say that i fell extremely lonely at many times. I feel as though i don't belong to this world and fallen into a wrong planet where no one is good and pious and trustworthy. I know a man is never alone if he has Allah with him at all times and he can be friends with Him if he adopts Taqwa and remembers Allah but the feeling of emptiness is still there. I perform all my daily prayers with all the rakaats but i still fell depressed many a times. I am just seeking some bit of an advice from you guys. Looking forward to your replies. Thank you.

[juptVatoSoito]

bro.

You worry too much. Perhaps you are looking at the negatives too much. In everybody's life there are lot of problems. Its a test from Allah Ta'ala. But don't worry facing these problems comes with a reward- forgiving of our sins.

Our beloved Rasoolullah has taught us: "No calamity befalls a Muslim but that Allah expiates some of his sins because of it, even though it were the prick he receives from a thorn." (Bukhari)

Remember the Mercy of Allah Ta'ala, He never over burdens anyone, Allah Ta'ala says in the Quran: "On no soul do We place a burden greater than it can bear: before Us is a record which clearly shows the truth: they will never be wronged." (23:62)

Also don't forget : Fainna maAAa alAAusri yusran (5) Inna maAAa alAAusri yusran (6)
For indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. (5) Indeed, with hardship [will be] ease. (6) (Surah Ash-Sharah)

So raise your hands and make sincere Dua with the following in your heart 'La hawla wala Quwwata illah billah' -
" There is no power and strength except with Allah"

Bro also keep on thinking about the poor people in other parts of the world, they don't even have a roof over their heads. On the other hand we have our own room, we get good food 4 times a day, internet, tv, education. etc etc.

[Gozmand]

Waalaikumussalam:

Just to add to what brother Amr123 has listed for you:

If you have access to a community mosque or perhaps you can find the phone number in your local directory for one and try to connect with other like-minded youth. We often feel lonely and isolated because not everything is immediately visible to us but when we do something about it (put in effort through dua and actively seek it) and by Allah's (SWT) will, we can find good and honest help and companionship.

That said... masha'Allah brother. May Allah (SWT) keep you strong and steadfast, and may He reward your patience and perseverence greatly. Ameen.

[RG3rGWcA]

ASWW
Practice Practice and more practice in front of a mirror.. brother!!

[ServiceColas]

Don't be too serious and silent. Serious and silent people seem intimidating and are no fun at all. Maybe you should try loosening up a bit to expand your social circle. Also try not to behave too saintly. Of course its good to be pious - VERY good, but its better to be pious AND easy going with those around you!

[DoctorDulitlBest]

Assalam alikum wa rahmat Allah,

in such a young age you have so much piety and wisdom. May Allah swt bless you. I wish I had that wisdom when I was at your age (even now!). Don't try to adjust to common norm it will corrupt your spritual gift. start your day with last ten surah of quran and ayat-ul-kursi. Allah swt will put angels for your protection. My brother it is a false idea that you have to overcome those problems. let Allah swt take care of them. All you have to do develop good adab I.E. dont think negative period. be busy counting your blessings and stop even looking at few weakness such as language etc thaty Allah swt has put upon you. bring your expectation from people and family to zeroand only expect from Allah with sabr. All problems is gift of Allah to you to teach you his love thank Allah for your difficulties as much for your blessings . they will make you man of Allah. other wise there is a danger of being man of this dunya (naudibillah).

[Mypepraipse]

Aslm bro...

...Moreover, at any time you have hundreds (imagine!) of amazing, caring and beautiful brothers and sisters on this forum...many of them would pray for you and genuinely try to be of help to anything you ask...!!!

may Allah swt bless you with a great life....you are in teenage yet, just wait up, things will surely get better, inshAllah. I experienced something similar during my own teens...and I laugh at those times now...moreover, steadfastness to islam pays amazingly pleasant and attractive dividends, leave alone the hereafter, in this very world!

[alecaf]

brother i didnt think i would be saying this but you should spend time on sunniforum, that will take over some of the feeling of lonliness.

[alecaf]

Solitude is better than bad company but good company is better than solitude.

[alecaf]

by the way your english looks good its probably the accent thats letting you down. Anyway the typical teenagers dont know anything just ignore them. They probably would get a shock if they look into a mirror.

[CAxrrAYN]

concentrate on sport.......if your good at sports, all the boys will like you and want to be friends .

[Shipsyspeepay]

Formula for Fantastic Confidence:

1. Fear only Allah SWT and no one else. Believe that no one can praise you, benefit you, insult you, or harm you, except by His SWT permission.

2. Expect nothing from others but only from Allah SWT. Only He SWT can make you happy or sad, laugh or cry, despair or have hope, grant or deprive you. No one else has any control whatsoever over your emotions, sustenance, or anything else.

2 and 1 are actually the same if you think about it.

May Allah SWT make you a strong, confident and beautifully humble, outstanding Muslim. Amin everyone! Barak Allah ta’aala my little bro.

[libertiespana]

Assalamoalaikum.
I am a teenage boy who has moved from the place of my birth to another country, a totally different country. Though we have moved here 12 years ago, i still feel that i have not melded properly into the new society.
In school, i have this language problem that makes communication very difficult. In our schools, 2 languages are taught and i am weak in that language which is generally spoken by all the children. When i speak, i use really poor grammar and therefore i don't feel very confident to use it. I do no speak a lot in my school and i don't even have any good friends. I had a few in the past but all of them betrayed me in one way or the other. Now i spend most of my recess alone. I really cannot trust anyone. I have also been the subject of mockery because students think i am a study geek, whereas i am not. But people just don't seem to understand.
In my house, i am the only one who performs all the religious duties . I am completely different from my other family members. I am very silent in my house too. None of my family appreciates me the way i should be. They always point out my faults, compare me to other boys and tell me how they're better than me, they disapprove of my sports, and they never agree on my ideas and suggestions and they take all my good qualities for granted.
The point of all this is just to say that i fell extremely lonely at many times. I feel as though i don't belong to this world and fallen into a wrong planet where no one is good and pious and trustworthy. I know a man is never alone if he has Allah with him at all times and he can be friends with Him if he adopts Taqwa and remembers Allah but the feeling of emptiness is still there. I perform all my daily prayers with all the rakaats but i still fell depressed many a times. I am just seeking some bit of an advice from you guys. Looking forward to your replies. Thank you.

Well then you will fit in just right here, welcome to Sunniforum, most of us have some or all of the above issues

You dont need friends. After completing his studies, where he lived in the Darul Uloom dorm, Moulana Masihullah Khan sahib (ra) could remember only the name of 1 fellow classmate. He studied something like 8 years there, lived in the dormitory, and could only recall the name of one other classmate (I am not going to reveal who that classmate was, you guess!) So just think about that.

[alecaf]

Well then you will fit in just right here, welcome to Sunniforum, most of us have some or all of the above issues

You dont need friends. After completing his studies, where he lived in the Darul Uloom dorm, Moulana Masihullah Khan sahib (ra) could remember only the name of 1 fellow classmate. He studied something like 8 years there, lived in the dormitory, and could only recall the name of one other classmate (I am not going to reveal who that classmate was, you guess!) So just think about that.

who was teh class mate

[CAxrrAYN]

Is it a custom for moderators to edit people's posts without notification on SF?

[NikitahDE]

Alhamdulillah, seems you have gotten a healthy dose of advices.

Don't worry much about being lonely, sometimes it just comes and goes. At times, bad company imposes itself and this is the worst fitnah, far worse than having a slight depression. So as much as you strive for pious friends, forget not to repel the rascals away...

Anyway, whatever happens, DO NOT FORGET TO SEEK THE FRIENDSHIP OF ALLAH TA'AALA!!!

This is the tremendous and supreme reward if one gets accepted by Allah ta'aala as His friend:

Lo! verily the friends of Allah are (those) on whom fear (comes) not, nor do they grieve! (Surah Yunus:62)

So, whatever your condition is, make pleasing Allah ta'aala your perpetual and constant aim of life. And trust me, that is sufficient to occupy ALL your time, for not a moment passses except that some commandment of Allah ta'aala becomes due...

MAy Allah ta'aala grant us steadfastness, ameen.

[libertiespana]

who was teh class mate

Mufti Mahmood who he had life long friendship with and Mufti Mahmood even took islah from him later in life.

[Prererularl]

Just keep fulfilling your religious duties, and remember Allah often and ask for His guidance.

Also, is there an MSA in your school? Is there is, try joining it. You'll make a lot of friends there, and you'll meet others who are religious and recognize you for who you are.

Also, fill up your free time by playing sports, reading, helping parent around the house (you'll get a lot of barakah for that).

A great way you can spend your free time is to memorize Qur'an. Set goals for yourself and recite it abundantly.

[Blellurgews]

Formula for Fantastic Confidence:

1. Fear only Allah SWT and no one else. Believe that no one can praise you, benefit you, insult you, or harm you, except by His SWT permission.

2. Expect nothing from others but only from Allah SWT. Only He SWT can make you happy or sad, laugh or cry, despair or have hope, grant or deprive you. No one else has any control whatsoever over your emotions, sustenance, or anything else.

2 and 1 are actually the same if you think about it.

May Allah SWT make you a strong, confident and beautifully humble, outstanding Muslim. Amin everyone! Barak Allah ta’aala my little bro.

I am good at maths and so i can use that formula to calculate results of my everyday actions And thanks everyone else for helping me out ..