[Anteneprorid]

Salaams all..
I have many different types of emotions running high especially anger and I have felt like this for a long time and I have nobody to talk to about them as I believe theres nobody within my family or friends circle who I trust enough to talk to and feel comftarble enough with.

I had anger management counciling a couple of years ago but not for long as my councilor thought I was absoloutley fine.. but I understand why he thought this because I didnt open up too him or show any sort of irregular type of emotion. Im the sort of person who trys to keep all my feelings too my self and dont like telling anybody!

Now im thinking.. I think I need to take the step and get in touch with my old councilor or a psychyatrist etc and open up too them and just be honest because I need help. But I still feel so weird and dont want to.. but I know that sooner or later something bad is going to happen if I dont take the appropriate measures.

I am trying to do my daily 5 prayers.. and dhikr etc and making dua and have full faith in ALLAH paak 100% and Im just thinking should I leave the counciling and just rely on ALLAH paak ? it should be like that though should'nt it? Iv'e made an attempt to write a diary of my feelings and emotions but it just didnt work.. iv'e tried this forum but theres only so much it can give me or do for me.

I am also concerned about getting counciling from a non beliver.. if this makes sense? Also are there any Muslim councilors? I really really feel uncomftarble and I mean really really uncomftarble about talking too someone about my life and emotions. I dont know why.. I really dont want to but I think I'l go mental if I dont do anything about it.

Somedays I feel as if I should be locked up in a room like an animal-I feel so angry that I fear I may kill someone and I be bursting with rage.
This worrys me. I get suicidal thoughts sometimes..I struggle to sleep sometimes because I think alot.. I think alot about the past as I have been through a lot in my life etc..When people say things or do things.. I just think about it all day and think why did they say that or do that etc.. and try to figure them out. Just basically over think everything. Some days are great and somedays are awful but I really need help. Please remember me in your duas brothers and sisters.

Jazak'Allah

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[IvJlNwum]

ASWW
I apologise if i am forthcoming and sounding conclusive brother. But Maybe get married?

[Anteneprorid]

Brother its fine. I am not in the finacial state to get married.. I am the man of the house and I am only 18 years old.. My aim is too carry on with my education, get a good job and look after my mum Allah Paak willingly. Then can I think about marriage. Although I would lovee to get married. I really would. but this is not an option at this moment of time unfortunatley. But why do you mention marriage? someone to talk to etc?

ASWW
I apologise if i am forthcoming and sounding conclusive brother. But Maybe get married?

[xesvideo]

Well bro, who/what are you angry at exactly? Maybe try to remove that stress from your life. I know you were worried about your baby sister, but is there anything else? (sorry, didn't read through all of your other threads)

[Cheeniandab]

Well to be honest i feel kinda the same way with my own life, but im struggling to get over it, i may have a bad life experience on each day, but whats the point of giving up, i may be the worse guy to sheer you up, but trust me to heal up its like climbing a difficult mountain so my only advice for you start changing yourself, your mind, your daily life, go out, go to gym, meet new people, play video games, pray at mosque, ask your friends to go out whenever your alone, watch movies, do everything you want (as long as its not haram), because if you dont change your current state it will be even harder to heal up, trust me.

Nchallah you will look at your life at different angle.

[Anteneprorid]

Somedays.. I just get really really angry.. and want to have a fight or hit something or someone.. sometimes I walk around and look for trouble and try to find someone who wants to have a scrap so I can release this anger. Yes theres my sisters thing..but aswell as that things have happned in the past with my family that I cant forget.. somethings that still happen or are going to happen. I feel bitter about things. It's all a great big whirlwind If im honest. Naturally I am very aggressive at times and just loose it.. I dont know why.. when I was young I used to break everything in my house and outside that came in my way.. doors, people,family and friends.. I have come a long way from this temper but I feel it creeping back on my life. Brother there are many things ;(

Well bro, who/what are you angry at exactly? Maybe try to remove that stress from your life. I know you were worried about your baby sister, but is there anything else? (sorry, didn't read through all of your other threads)

[IvJlNwum]

Brother its fine. I am not in the finacial state to get married.. I am the man of the house and I am only 18 years old.. My aim is too carry on with my education, get a good job and look after my mum Allah Paak willingly. Then can I think about marriage. Although I would lovee to get married. I really would. but this is not an option at this moment of time unfortunatley. But why do you mention marriage? someone to talk to etc?

ASWW
Youll be surprised how much emotion is bottled up if you can have some sort of physical release and marriage does definitely help in this release. Also financial capability has no correlation with whether one must get married or not. Your lady will bring part of her "income" with her to you and InshaAllah and the floodgates will open up... Just a suggestion.

[DoctorDulitlBest]

I just noticed this link on a brother's blog: http://www.myh.org.uk/ perhaps it will be helpful for you.

[wllsqyuipknczx]

Here’s my advice little bro, hope you benefit ta’aala

1.Never think you won’t get past this because Allah SWT is with you. Your situation is like that of a child learning to walk. Its parents watch the child struggle and fall over and over again. They let this happen not because they can’t help but because it’s for the child’s own good. In the same way, Allah SWT desires for you to grow stronger and wiser because of this ordeal; He SWT knows that through your struggle you are learning to ‘walk’, ‘run’ and ‘leap high’. Wallahu a’lam

2.Get involved with an Islamic center. Not only will helping out with the projects take these problems off your mind, you’ll also find good company, true friends you can trust ta’aala.

3.Find an Imam you respect and seek counsel from them instead of returning to your psychiatrist. People judging you shouldn’t put you off from doing that because it really should not matter in the tiniest bit what people think of us as long as we are pleasing Allah SWT. Barak Allah ta’aala

4.Buy a punching bag but do thikr as you punch. Resist visualizing those who angered you (that’d be sinful) and be angry at yourself instead, imagine it’s your ego you’re beating up. IMO, whenever disputes occur, we ought to feel responsible regardless of our innocence at times because even then we could’ve shown more patience and forgiveness to better the situation. Besides, it’s useless isn't it to get angry at someone when they're powerless to help or harm us anyway.

Barak Allah ta’aala little brother. Truly, you cannot fail if you try your best especially when Allah SWT loves and cares for us so much. Don’t give up, you’ll make it through this ta’aala.

[emily]

You should try and listen to the Ramadaan 1430/2009 talks (after Zuhr) of Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel (RA) on 'ANGER MANAGEMENT'.
Insha-Allah, you will find them to be extremely beneficial.


WEBSITE : http://yunuspatel.co.za