[boffincash]

Salam to All

I don't know where to start from but I do have to take out my frustration 0r patience whatever it call.

I'm living in London and working - my wife and 2 daughters (3 and 1 year old )are on holidays to pakistan for few months, my wife always complain to me that my parents love more to my sister's kids but not my kids as they should do. But I always ignores it and move on.

All she says they don't show the love and effection towards my kids, but in some extend she is right as well, but I stay quiet.

I don't know what to do as off today I'm constantly thinking about it, I believe most of you should have or going through with the same situation.

Advice please what to do.

[Kennypor]

bro.

Sometimes Grandparents do have their favorites among their Grandchildren. Its not a big issue.

[Doncarlito]

brother. For what it is worth, I grew up distant from extended relatives and whenever we went for a visit we were always treated nicely however it was quite apparent that the treatment was different (not lacking in love and affection). the differences never really bothered me since everyone was kind and courteous and showered us with the all sorts of attention. My cousins who have lived near my grandparents all their lives have had a very different connection (and rightly so). Whereas we've been treated like visitors (in Turkish culture, visitors are treated like royalty - at least that has been my experience), my cousins have been treated like family (taking part in all sorts of chores and responsibilities). I have to jump in and help without asking or else they won't let me do anything. My cousins sometimes complain, not wanting to do more. I've been on the taking side more than the giving, whereas they've given and taken. All that to say: I'm not saying that is what could be going on with your daughters (still so very young) and your parents however, if your sister lives closer to your parents they may have had a chance to build a more familiar, different bond.

As long as they love, it shouldn't matter if it is more or less. Besides, do you really know what is going through their hearts? My advice is that it is best if you and your wife don't dwell too much on the differences and just focus on the love that is there. If you dwell on it, you might inadvertently encourage it through facial expressions of displeasure or minor remarks here and there. Just not a good thing.