[Kayakeenemeds]

Significance of Nikkah

[Sahih Muslim: Volume 8, Book 'Kitab Al-Nikah', Number 3231]

'Alqama reported: While I was walking with 'Abdullah (Radi Allah Anhu) at Mina, 'Uthman (Radi Allah Anhu) happened to meet him. He stopped there and began to talk with him. Uthman (Radi Allah Anhu) said to him: Abu 'Abd al-Rahman (Radi Allah Anhu), should we not marry you to a young girl who may recall to you some of the past of your bygone days; thereupon he said: If you say so, Allah's Messenger (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said:
"0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes from casting (evil glances). and preserves one from immorality; but those who cannot should devote themselves to fasting for it is a means of controlling sexual desire."
[Sahih Muslim]



[Sahih Muslim: Volume 8, Book 'Kitab Al-Nikah', Number 3233]

Abdullah (b. Mas'ud) (Radi Allah Anhu) reported that Allah's Messenger (sal-allahu-alleihi-wasallam) said to us:
"0 young men, those among you who can support a wife should marry, for it restrains eyes (from casting evil glances) and preserves one from immorality; but he who cannot afford It should observe fast for it is a means of controlling the sexual desire."
[Sahih Muslim]


Quranic Supplication...
Transliteration: "Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A'yunin waj'alna lil-muttaqina imama."(25:74)

Meaning: "Our Lord! grant us in our mates and offspring the joy of our eyes and make us patterns for those who guard against evil." (25:74)

[sniskelsowwef]

so when is a good age to get married in todays western culture?
as im a teen/young adult

[galaktiusman]

As-Salam-o-aliekum,

Jazak Allah khair sister nameuser for posting; I pray that Allah swt may help us all to try to do what (little) we can for His sake.

Alhamdulillah, I've been with some Gnostic Christians*. Of course, the Ummah is indebted to Shaikh Ahmad Deedat ra, and also Dr. Naik.

* I wanted to try and post about spiritual garments

The following hadith deals with preservation of marriage, and I think it would be great to know in case there are questions concerning Ayatul Kursi:

Sahih Muslim. Version 1.03 - Translated by Abdul Hamid Siddiqui

Book 39, Number 6755:

Jabir reported that Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: Iblis places his throne upon water; he then sends detachments (for creating dissension); the nearer to him in tank* are those who are most notorious in creating dissension. One of them comes and says: I did so and so. And he says: You have done nothing. Then one amongst them comes and says: I did not spare so and so until I sowed the seed of discord between a husband and a wife. The Satan goes near him and says: 'You have done well. A'mash said: He then embraces him.

* don't know if this was an error; could have something to do with think tanks maybe?

[Kayakeenemeds]

so when is a good age to get married in todays western culture?
as im a teen/young adult

Inshaa'allah any scholar will reply you in detail regarding ur request.

[Kayakeenemeds]

very beneficial hadith...

[Aztegjpl]

so when is a good age to get married in todays western culture?
as im a teen/young adult

40 years for a male and 20 years for a female.

[O25YtQnn]

40 years for a male and 20 years for a female.

r u joking

[Aztegjpl]

r u joking

People only start getting wise at 40 :/

[Kayakeenemeds]

so when is a good age to get married in todays western culture?
as im a teen/young adult

Prophet got married at the age of 25..Prophet is the best example and role Model for muslims to follow.....

[anfuckinggs]

so when is a good age to get married in todays western culture?
as im a teen/young adult

I feel it should be between 22-25 yrs. Because according to the education system, many people can start earning by this age and should immediately marry. And it is very good period for marriage...

My first marriage took place when I was 24 yrs old (I still feel it was too late), and planning to do second marriage before 27-28 yrs

[Aztegjpl]

Prophet got married at the age of 25..Prophet is the best example and role Model for muslims to follow.....

Yes, I agree that this is the better option. 25 for the boy and 40 for the girl. in following the sunnah there will be lots of wisdom and barakah. Ameen.

[anfuckinggs]

40 years for a male and 20 years for a female.

When Umar asked for the hand of fatima . Prophet denied it saying there huge age gap. The idle age is

25 yrs male- 20 yrs female

30 yrs male - 25 yrs female

35 yrs male - 30 yrs female

40 yrs male - 35 yrs female

Hence a person can easily do marriage for 4 times by the time he reaches 40

[gDGwm8BC]

For a girl, when she becomes baaligh, as soon as a good proposal comes, she should get married.

[anfuckinggs]

For a girl, when she becomes baaligh, as soon as a good proposal comes, she should get married.

agree 100%

[karaburatoreror]

When you have the money to look after her and yourself, then get married. No, this doesn't mean when you complete a degree or have about 30, 000 dollars in your bank account. If you have 10, 000. You still can marry. In fact, if you are in the west and you have a hard time lowering your gaze, then marry with the right intention. Insha'Allah

[anfuckinggs]

When you have the money to look after her and yourself, then get married. No, this doesn't mean when you complete a degree or have about 30, 000 dollars in your bank account. If you have 10, 000. You still can marry. In fact, if you are in the west and you have a hard time lowering your gaze, then marry with the right intention. Insha'Allah

yes.. don't make intention to marry after "settling". Recently I met a guy who want to marry after settling in life and he is 31. I fired him from job before I came to know his reason of not marrying..With the attitude he has.. I wonder when he will settle..

[Aztegjpl]

Okayyyy. I agree with all that's been said. Still i would like to see one sunnah being practiced, recommended and encouraged (like how polygamy is)... and that's the sunnah of young people marrying 40 year old (meaning elderly) women.

[karaburatoreror]

yes.. don't make intention to marry after "settling". Recently I met a guy who want to marry after settling in life and he is 31. I fired him from job before I came to know his reason of not marrying..With the attitude he has.. I wonder when he will settle..

To be honest, I rather find peace in marrying during College years for many young adults rather than waiting till you're 26, recent graduate from University, making your mom find a girl/guy from back home.

Many young adults deny wanting to marry around 21. I think some of them don't want responsibilities or wanting to mature up.

As they say in the urdu language, 'bhai mazze karo'.

[Kayakeenemeds]

Prophet set both the example...both are sunnah which show the limits to muslim ummah to follow..
When he was 25young he married 40 year old Hadratha khadija r.a.
when he was 50year old he married young hadratha aisha r.a.


therefore.. it's a man's choice he can select any age of his life partner if he intend to marry her...

Btw...man should get married if he can afford at the age of 25 as per sunnah..

[Kayakeenemeds]

Prophet is the best example and the best role Model for muslims to follow..
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