[PRengin]

spending maximum of my time in office and on tours within the city to select various locations... Most of the time, I have to eat outside food, though I was warned not to eat outside food by the doctor.. Many times I felt it would be good if I had my wife somewhere near our office, so that I could go and eat when ever I am hungry.. But my mom would never agree for us to stay separately in the city and after all I am the only one staying with her. If we left she would be completely alone..I know that i can hire a good cook, but i dont trust outsider.

Edit: I don't mean of only cooking food, she can also work with me and when I am at office, she will be like a guard () to me, where I have to meet many no. of girls for various reasons.

Will it be a valid reason for me to do a second marriage...I am seriously thinking about it.. Nothing is important than good emaan and health.

[didrexx]

Brother, have you considered moving your wife and mother to a place closer to your office?

[PRengin]

Brother, have you considered moving your wife and mother to a place closer to your office?

Yes.. but my mother will never move from our place..she has lot of sentiments, she will never move from our house to a new place. Though I have a good flat near to my office, where I spend my free time at office.. my mother will never allow my wife to move there.. I have discussed this once, but got a serious feedback from her.

Even in terms of my business.. I feel it will be a better move to have second wife who can look after some areas of business.

[Pete789]

Learn cooking.

[daasayse]

Yes.. but my mother will never move from our place..she has lot of sentiments, she will never move from our house to a new place. Though I have a good flat near to my office, where I spend my free time at office.. my mother will never allow my wife to move there.. I have discussed this once, but got a serious feedback from her.

Even in terms of my business.. I feel it will be a better move to have second wife who can look after some areas of business.

But your wife has the same needs you have don't you think trying to make her needs met is also your duty ? She must be practicing a lot of sabr staying on her own all this time away from you.

Allah make both of your lives easy for you .

[PRengin]

Learn cooking.

I know cooking.. infact there are few threads in brother section where I posted some newly invented dishes

But the problem is time...

[Pete789]

I know cooking.. infact there are few threads in brother section where I posted some newly invented dishes

But the problem is time...

Lolz I ve read them.


May Allah Ta'ala give you barakah in Time. Ameen.

[PRengin]

But your wife has the same needs you have don't you think trying to make her needs met is also your duty ? She must be practicing a lot of sabr staying on her own all this time away from you.

Allah make both of your lives easy for you .

Yes definitely, I spend good time with my wife..but the problem is when I am out to office and regarding the food (I need someone who can provide home cooked food as I am strictly warned from taking outside food. But every day I end up eating at least once in the hotels and I am seriously concerned about this). Neither of us have a problem with each other..

[opergolon]

Bismihee Ta'aala

Asalamualaikum.

If you believe that you will be fair to both your first and 2nd wife in terms of money and time, then go for it.

Get married a 2nd time if you think you will be fair to both. Don't let any-one on here discourage you.


May Allah (SWT) put barakah in whatever you decide. And if you decide to get married again, then let Allah (SWT) put this in the hearts of more brothers to get married a second time if they can treat both fairly insha Allah.

[uwJzsM8t]

Pray istikharah about it. But we aware that in today's world it is much more difficult than in the past, even in Saudi Arabia. It may also lead to serious strain in your relationship with your first wife. I have seen families torn apart by this, with siblings from different mothers having animosity and resentment. Also, it is difficult to find a woman willing to be a second wife. You should be open with all concerned parties about your situation. Most men today that take other wives don't inform the women about the other women!

[PRengin]

Another case of obsessive mentle disorder.
Some manifest their obsession by being passive aggresive. Such people are fearful an the heart is not at ease with self. So they cause others to suffer. Relegon and culture is just a tool for them. I have seen such behaviour from so called practicing muslimah and parents. It is quiet difficult for the wife to cope with inlaws. Often the case for breakdown in family. In one way his wife is suffering and the brother is suggesting second marriage to add salt to the wound. Amazing!!. There has to be some compromise between all. Why not employ someone to cook for you on regualr basis.
Are you pakistani or bangali (sylheti) by any chance?


Allahualam

lol

Either you are confused with my post or I am confused with your post.

I don't see who is suffering here...And who has the inlaws ? There is no wound in the first place to add salt to it

[PRengin]

Pray istikharah about it. But we aware that in today's world it is much more difficult than in the past, even in Saudi Arabia. It may also lead to serious strain in your relationship with your first wife. I have seen families torn apart by this, with siblings from different mothers having animosity and resentment. Also, it is difficult to find a woman willing to be a second wife. You should be open with all concerned parties about your situation. Most men today that take other wives don't inform the women about the other women!

I have discussed this with my wife and she doesn't have any problem with it

and if I marry I will be marrying only a religious woman who fears Allah like my wife

[exschke]

Bismillah
Br.
If you follow what I have written, it is clear. It is rarely the case where one wife is happy with staying with in laws more so if the in law suffer from some kind of passive aggresive syndrome. Hence I deduced that your wife is suffering and being patient Mashallah
Second your notion of second marriage will be viewed negatively by your wife.
third, you can employ a cook and hence no need for second wife.
I have seen too many so called people thinking of second marriage without giving it a due consideration.
I support second marriage but not at the expence of breaking the first one or making the first wife suffer for no reason.
Allahualam

[Necedofer]

I have discussed this with my wife and she doesn't have any problem with it

and if I marry I will be marrying only a religious woman who fears Allah like my wife

If your first wife is ok with a second wife & you can be fair to both then go for it brother. Inshallah one day my wife would accept a second wife...

[PRengin]

If your first wife is ok with a second wife & you can be fair to both then go for it brother. Inshallah one day my wife would accept a second wife...

ameen

[BritneySpearsFun@@@]

Bro, you don't need to have a 'valid reason'. As long as you can keep the rights of both wives, then you can marry. And your wife doesn't mind , very pious on her behalf. So just make sure you know the rights of both wives, make sure you can keep them and go for it bro. I expect some halwa at the walima

[GalasaKoll]

spending maximum of my time in office and on tours within the city to select various locations... Most of the time, I have to eat outside food, though I was warned not to eat outside food by the doctor.. Many times I felt it would be good if I had my wife somewhere near our office, so that I could go and eat when ever I am hungry.. But my mom would never agree for us to stay separately in the city and after all I am the only one staying with her. If we left she would be completely alone..I know that i can hire a good cook, but i dont trust outsider.

Will it be a valid reason for me to do a second marriage...I am seriously thinking about it.. Nothing is important than good emaan and health.

Employ a cook or pay someone to cook home made food for you.

[PRengin]

Employ a cook or pay someone to cook home made food for you.

Employing a cook or paying someone is not all a big deal...i pay salaries to more than 40 people..but considering my situation I can't trust outsiders.

But correct food is very important health concern for me. I don't mean I am marrying only for cooking food, I was also thinking like I can get a good partner in my business as my first wife also helps me with business. But the more number of own people the better

[Tauntenue]

May Allah give you Barakah in Your second nikah. Go for it.

[PRengin]

May Allah give you Barakah in Your second nikah. Go for it.

ameen and also please do dua that I find a pious muslimah