[lrUyiva1]

Salam

[klubneras]

Sister don't worry, have patience and trust in Allah the Almighty. Don't lose hope even for a single second. Look at other people who have problems, most of the times our problems are very small compared to others, then we will thank Allah even in our troubles. Also don't forget that Trails and Tribulations are a part of expatiation of our sins in this world. Also Allah knows what is best for us.

"....perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you;
and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you.
And Allah Knows, while you know not."
(Al Baqarah: 216)

Also look up to the Prophets of Islam and how they treated their trials with patience and trust in Allah .
When Allah commanded Ibrahim (as) to sacrifice his son, He did not ask for any explaination, he just obeyed and in the end Allah rewarded him. So trust in Allah is very important. Make Dua as much as you can, and be patient, its a compulsory factor for a Dua to be accepted.

May Allah make it easy for you. Ameen.

[moredasers]

2:214 Or do ye think that ye shall enter the Garden (of bliss) without such (trials) as came to those who passed away before you? they encountered suffering and adversity, and were so shaken in spirit that even the Messenger and those of faith who were with him cried: "When (will come) the help of Allah." Ah! Verily, the help of Allah is (always) near!

3:135 And those who, having done something to be ashamed of, or wronged their own souls, earnestly bring Allah to mind, and ask for forgiveness for their sins,- and who can forgive sins except Allah.- and are never obstinate in persisting knowingly in (the wrong) they have done.

39:53 Say: "O my Servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the Mercy of Allah. for Allah forgives all sins: for He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.

12:87 ".....never give up hope of Allah's Soothing Mercy: truly no one despairs of Allah's Soothing Mercy, except those who have no faith."

[Woziwfaq]

The fact that you have regret indicates that Allah loves you, some people carry on sinning and their heart becomes so hard that they do not feel any regret

I don't believe that you were ever actually in love with this guy...i don't believe you know what love is as this person treated you very badly and didn't seem to have a character that deserves to be loved...i think it was more like a bad habit...it may take a while to overcome these feelings but trust me when i say with time these feelings will fade away. You need to find other things to occupy your time with. Look around in your area maybe there are Islamic classes going on? or pick up some other hobby or get involved in some charity work...try to stay busy all the time for when our mind is free that is when shaytan strikes the most

Concentrate on your relationship with Allah, make tawbah for the past and have firm belief that Allah is the most forgiving and will forgive you and will inshaAllah be pleased with the pain you are experiencing due to leaving a certain sin for His sake

Try not to think too much about this whole love thing and finding the perfect partner, your happyness should not be dependent on some guy. Make dua that Allah grants you a pious husband...in the mean time focus on trying to become a person who deserves a pious husband

May Allah make things easy for you...Aameen

[sueplydup]

Respected Sister

"...but still today My heart is so heavy and dull"

As people have already stated your regret over you mistake is a sure sign that tour tawbah has been accepted. But the scholars have suggested that once the Tawbah has been done sincerely forget the sin. Don’t even dwel on it and have the belief that The MOST merciful and wiped you sin clean inshallah

“...The feelings of regret over fornication and so called love have dwelled envy and exasperation inside me against the people whom i see happy and satisfied”

“....Sometimes i feel like why the people are happy and why i am not”

This is common when people are going through bad time and are only temporary. When you see people happy and you get these feeling make dua
“O Allah increase their happiness” and in return the angles will make the same dua for you.
Sister whether you like it or not you need to look at the positive side of this situation.

Allah has inshallah has forgiven your mistake but if YOU choose to think about it over and over again then the pain will go on. You have control over how you see the issue. It will be hard but you need to start looking at the positive side.

“....I pray and read Quran alot and do zikr but it seems that the Allah is angry with me and Allah should be because I crossed the limits and transgressed the limits of Islam”

Be sure that Allah accepts ALL duas. Allah accepts dua when he destines itnright not when we say its right. Remember HE is our lord and we are his slaves NOT the other way around.


“...it seems like that i wont ever find a loving man....it seems as that i wont be happy again and i would stay the same”

You have to change this attitude else nothing will change. You have to have a goal and work towards it. If we have accepted defeat at the 1st hurdle then we wont work towards our goal. Allah treats his slaves as they think of him. think well of ALLAH, and i swear by his Honour he will respond in the best of ways

“.,...even they are facing so problems regarding finding a perfect match”

Don’t worry about that. Let your parents deal with their responsibilities. you do you job and let them do theirs. Don’t take on extra responsibilities

Allah knows best

[sueplydup]

Have a listen to these talks:

Hardships and the Path to God
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z9xxInnDPs0

Keeping the Heart Alive
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7BLtk1DqOs

[Dr. Shon Thomson]

Sister, the fact that you are feeling remorse means there is hope and your heart is still alive, it inclines towards what is morally correct as a Muslim x

[lrUyiva1]

thank you so much for reading my post....

May Allah help me......

[JohnImamadviser]

Salaam,
Sister keep asking Allaah for forgiveness and guidance, and do not despair of Allah's mercy. Keep paitence because Allaah is with those who are patient. And sister from personal experience, only way to keep envy away is to think of yourself inferior to others. Allaah will raise you in rank only when you will truly think of yourself as true servant and slave of him, with carrying no pride in yourself.
Inshallaah this will help you.
salaam.