[NumsAmenniams]

ASSALAMUALIKUM.
♥ W I T H O U T • A L L A H • I • A M • N O T H I N G ♥

am sohail..a new muslim....!!
last month to avoid a person in my life i said am not muslim......and now am feeling very bad
feeling guilty of what i did....he is a good person...very helpful...and very caring...but the main thing is he will take
more time of u and will call every time and trouble.....that was the main problem

anyways I want to meet him again and want to Apologize .....I dnt know how

can any one help me in this aspect???

[22CreessGah]

You should make tawbah and istighfar. You should also let this person know that you're a Muslim right away before they inadvertently tell others that you're a non-Muslim. May Allah make it easy for you.

[AlexBrith]

ASSALAMUALIKUM.
♥ W I T H O U T • A L L A H • I • A M • N O T H I N G ♥

am sohail..a new muslim....!!
last month to avoid a person in my life i said am not muslim......and now am feeling very bad
feeling guilty of what i did....he is a good person...very helpful...and very caring...but the main thing is he will take
more time of u and will call every time and trouble.....that was the main problem

anyways I want to meet him again and want to Apologize .....I dnt know how

can any one help me in this aspect???

Wa alaikum assalaam, bro. Long time no see.

As already mentioned repent and ask forgiveness to Allah. For the best Dua for Forgiveness, see the following thread: http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/show...-and-Magrib%29

Don't worry, make dua that you meet the person again. Also next time you meet him, tell him to call only during your free time.

[NumsAmenniams]

Thanks to brother abdul wahab and
aazar bhai....!!!
but how to approch him thats what my problem is....can u give me a solution?

[AlexBrith]

but how to approch him thats what my problem is....can u give me a solution?

Well next time you meet him tell him you are still a Muslim. Just keep things simple and don't complicate it.

[NumsAmenniams]

Well next time you meet him tell him you are still a Muslim. Just keep things simple and don't complicate it.

No bhai tings are complicated between us.....and now to get back to normal ::: i dnt think its going to happen

[invest7manager]

Dear brother,
May Allah forgive you and increase you in belief and piety!

When you say things are complicated between you, what does that mean? Is he an alim? Or a Dawah carrier?

Has he somehow complicated your practice and belief?

Or have you misunderstood him?

OR was there an incident between you which caused complicated and strained relations?

[NumsAmenniams]

actually the problem started on eid day....when I went to his house....there he insulted me....and major problem is when ever i go to near by masjid where he comes...he destroys my valuable time in unnecessary things....I was fed up with this non sense daily...... I had no option ...but to.. avoid him.....!!

[curcercanty]

you can call him and tell sorry that I told I was a non-muslim when you asked me last time as I had problem telling I was a mulsim that time. (you are not lying as you had the problem telling the truth that time and lying is indeed a problem). inshaaALlah it will go well. Sort it out soon lest it takes over your mind and keep you disturbed. Sometimes shaitans confuses and troubles us so much when things can be sorted easily inshaaAllah.
Yeah do istighfar as others suggested and keep us in your duas. Verily without Allah's help none can go any good deed nor abstain from any sin nor one can repent. The feel of guilt is the sign of eemaan. Allahu alam.

[curcercanty]

actually the problem started on eid day....when I went to his house....there he insulted me....and major problem is when ever i go to near by masjid where he comes...he destroys my valuable time in unnecessary things....I was fed up with this non sense daily...... I had no option ...but to.. avoid him.....!!

you can cut the conversation saying you have some work sorry. Then just move on. Allahu alam

[alecoplesosse]

things are complicated between us.....and now to get back to normal ::: i dnt think its going to happen

hmm..looks like ur friend has lost trust in you. To tell u the truth this task is very tough though..

but don't despair of Allah's mercy..keep on trying by making lots of duas...

[NumsAmenniams]

you can cut the conversation saying you have some work sorry. Then just move on. Allahu alam

Ya i tried the same but no use.....if I go to that masjid.....4 Hours lost.....!!!
and this went to an extent that i have deleted my islamic blog also.....:-(

[curcercanty]

Ya i tried the same but no use.....if I go to that masjid.....4 Hours lost.....!!!
and this went to an extent that i have deleted my islamic blog also.....:-(

4 hrs i think it is too much. Sometimes we should not be too polite to the extent that it affects us. He is supposed to understand when you say you have work but it depends on you too to make him understand. Allahu alam. Khair no problem, next time just say you have work and you are wasting too much of time and you are very guilty about it, then apologize and move on. That would be horrible to spend 4 hrs when one is not interested and then feel guilty of wasting that much of time later.

[NumsAmenniams]

Yes I think that prompted me to avoid him completely.....but he is good at heart.....am in a position of do or die.....!!!either i should leave him or loose my time....

[curcercanty]

Yes I think that prompted me to avoid him completely.....but he is good at heart.....am in a position of do or die.....!!!either i should leave him or loose my time....

hmm but dont be too tough that next time you meet like enemies but dont be this polite too. Just take care of your precious time and have control over it at the best of your ability. If he thinks bad that you dont spend that much of time with him as before, i think it is his problem as he is supposed to understand. Be poilte and firm. Allahu alam

[#[SoftAzerZx]]

Brother, you have deleted your blog but failed to have that quality time within your reach. It seems that you are not aware of the ill effects of keeping bad company.

Quran says:

"And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur'an) after it had come to me."
[25:27-29].

"Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqoon (i.e. those who have Taqwah)."
[43:67]

we are suppose to select friends and enemies not for our sake but for the sake of Allah. being a Muslim, you are to prove yourself best among your friends and your family. Don't avoid him as he will feel it and probably will throw on you your face the quality time of yours. You will hear a bad sound again and will not be satisfied with expected situation. Be with him for some time, have some healthy discussion and then leave him with smile by making him aware of your tight routine each time (that must not be Lie) so that he find it hard himself to talk or meet to you again.

May Allah make it easy for you and give us companions who will take us away from His wrath and lead us to His pleasure.


Allahu A'lam.

[Peterli]

Some Muftis may regard his statement as kufr

[curcercanty]

yes take care to spend little time with him so he wont feel abandoned totally even be it a smile and greetings and little more if you can but be sure you dont waste much time. Allahu alam

[zueqhbyhp]

Suhail you have the advantage of youth on your side. You fall then you get up. You fall again and then you get up again. And so on. I'll tell you my personal example-when I meet my old friends it so happens invariably that old negative feeling are completely wiped out and only pleasant things come to mind. This after some time these negative things that are bothering you, and it is good that they weigh heavy on your conscience, they simply disappear. Finally I have a suggestion that you use your next summer vacation to go in Jama-at by telling your parents that you are going in search of spirituality. Wallahu'alam.

[NumsAmenniams]

Brother, you have deleted your blog but failed to have that quality time within your reach. It seems that you are not aware of the ill effects of keeping bad company.

I have deleted my blog.....as i had no option at that time......And ALLHAMDULILLAH started my new blog....!!!!