[SDorothy28]

I'm boycotting all those marriages that goes against the din. You should also try your best to refrain with these Marriages/parties etc. Please do du'a for isteqamath for me as well .

[Nesskissabe]

It's pretty straight forward, no expression of views required here.

[SDorothy28]

It's pretty straight forward, no expression of views required here.

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[Olphander]

my parents never took us to mixed weddings. Sometimes it was such that even close family friends, their children's wedding we did not go to. Of course there was one family who decided they would put not only a purdah but actually hire two separate halls. They were very accommodating . Another time we drove two hours to a wedding, when we got there there was such loud music my parents just turned around and left. The family did not take it well, in fact they didn't talk to my parents for more than a year before getting over it.

One should simply stay away. And if it's hard, then make a white lie like "I am sick" like Ebrahim 'Alayhis Salaam did. Moulana Yunus Patel saheb Daamat Barakaatuhum mentioned of someone who actually took laxative to keep away from some function that would have haraam.

Allah knows best when we're going to die. Why put our final moments in jeopardy by going somewhere that is full of sin?

[Nesskissabe]

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I mean what you said is absolutely right, there's no need to express your views on it.

It's not difficult to boycott these kind of weddings once you set your mind to it. What will happen if you don't go? People will stop talking to you? Let them. Doesn't make a difference to your life. It's better they don't talk :P

When we were in Pakistan, we never went to these type of weddings. Then people started to do separate arrangements because of us. Only the ones who were very .... didnt do it otherwise most of the family did separate. I never went to weddings anyways even if separate. Then there were people who would tell my mother, well we've made a special room for you in the wedding hall, please come. My mother said, if i have to sit alone its better i sit at home....

Here in Saudi, it's always separate. Even if the people are not religious, they can't even imagine it being mixed.

[gydrorway]

Alhamdulillah I am boycotting all family marriages which includes

i - Music or Singing
ii - Mix Gathering of Men and Women
iii - Photography

[SDorothy28]

Today, there are very less people and families who are doing like this.
Alhumdulillah, I'm one of those , thanks to Ulema's lectures which brought me to this stage. But I attend those functions in which at least there are are no sins. Last marriage which I was attended was my own sister one and that too one was compelling one.
I don't care the hell what others say about this. Same like facebook, here also some people uses the so what call word "dawah" like You should go with the intention of making them on the right path
That's cool, I say to myself, Enjoy Biryani with different tastes and after burping ,go to them and say this is not correct brother/sisters...
BTW I'm famous in my family for not attending any marriages .

And if it's hard, then make a white lie like "I am sick" like Ebrahim 'Alayhis Salaam did.

Ulema have written a long tafseer on that Lie, Was it actually lie? or something?
Can we lie in some occassions ?

[Janarealiti]

I had to fight my parents to enforce basic things. The community I am from is not used to segregration. Many of the practicing brother simply give in due to family pressure. So people end up thinking it is all ok!
Allahualam

Totally agree with you My brother is getting married I have to be there. The family pressure is so really

[triardwonvada]

Asalam alaikum..6 months back my brother got married..we arranged byan of hazrat dr.Abdul Muqeem sahib damat brakatuhum(khalifa of Hazratwala damat brakatuhum)at walima..Alhamdullilah..ladies seperate arranged were organised ..Alhamdulilah all set up was accordance to sunnah...

[SDorothy28]

Asalam alaikum..6 months back my brother got married..we arranged byan of hazrat dr.Abdul Muqeem sahib damat brakatuhum(khalifa of Hazratwala damat brakatuhum)at walima..Alhamdullilah..ladies seperate arranged were organised ..Alhamdulilah all set up was accordance to sunnah...

Usually, people who do their dear one's marriage(according to sunnah), keep lectures of Scholars in Masajid in which only men can get benefit, but ladies get mahroom from that. Our ladies don't have a habit of listening lectures but only few of them, they should know how nikah should be done in a sunnah manner.

[Carfanate]

Today, there are very less people and families who are doing like this.
Alhumdulillah, I'm one of those , thanks to Ulema's lectures which brought me to this stage. But I attend those functions in which at least there are are no sins. Last marriage which I was attended was my own sister one and that too one was compelling one.
I don't care the hell what others say about this. Same like facebook, here also some people uses the so what call word "dawah" like You should go with the intention of making them on the right path
That's cool, I say to myself, Enjoy Biryani with different tastes and after burping ,go to them and say this is not correct brother/sisters...
BTW I'm famous in my family for not attending any marriages.. .. .

Salaam Brother,

Just attend the Nikah ceremony which people are usually organising in Masjid & later don't go to function hall, that's simple......

Note: Dont forget to carry umbrella as there will be dry fruit rain (Badam, Khajoor.etc..) after the completion of Nikah Qutba... ....... .....................

[SDorothy28]

Note: Dont forget to carry umbrella as there will be dry fruit rain (Badam, Khajoor.etc..) after the completion of Nikah Qutba... ....... .....................

BTW, how will you hold your umbrella? If it smash your face?

[Carfanate]

BTW, how will you hold your umbrella? If it smash your face?

Try this...........

[qikolax]

The first thing i inquire if someone asks me to come for marriage is about dowry. If they say that the person has taken it, then i do not attend. I didnt go to many of my cousins marriage too. I have never attended any rasams after marriage, even in my own sister marriage, i was sitting outside the function hall at that time. When she was leaving, i just saw her from a far away distance. Infact no one asked me to come there except some older women asking where is me. The reply they get is " he doesn't attend this kind of things which are not permissible in Islam". So i believe atleast i was able to give them the true message

[Quonuttott]

I don't necessarily agree with some of the things that go on in these weddings, BUT if you are invited, you should go. You don't have to actively participate in everything, but you should not cut off ties from everyone. If you have the guts to do it, talk to the people in private after the wedding, but don't say its better not to go. But you should go to at least give the congratulations to the couple at hand.

[SDorothy28]

What to answer those who kept on saying we should attend marriages as it is sunnah to accept Invitation from ones and with the intention of giving them dawah to remove to come on right things

Otherwise they will be sad with us..

[shiciapsisy]

what about attending dinner on nikah day given by the bride's father? Is it haram to eat there?
And what about attending lavishly decorated walimas with many many food items and lots of Israaf though there is no free mixing or music or videography etc.

[VioletttaJosetta]

Marriages are great. Seeing the bride and groom together is a beautiful sight.

Apart from all that, getting to know other people, the food and the atmosphere is great especially in Pakistani marriages. It's also great meeting new similar aged women dressed in traditional clothes.

lets hope you don't have any sisters! other guys probably have the same thoughts about them

[Ilaubuas]

Marriages are great. Seeing the bride and groom together is a beautiful sight.

Apart from all that, getting to know other people, the food and the atmosphere is great especially in Pakistani marriages. It's also great meeting new similar aged women dressed in traditional clothes.

Say to the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty- translation of Al Quran 24:30

[resegooredo]

lets hope you don't have any sisters! other guys probably have the same thoughts about them

Actually I have 3 younger sisters. They go to a girls only high school.

Regardless, both boys and girls have feelings for each other - its natural. For me, and for most that i know, talking and/or socialising with the opposite sex is perfectly normal.