[jagxj12]

Salamu Aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

is it allowed in Islam to do Nikah and live after that seperately? She lives with her parents and I live with mine?
What are the rules and facts about this topic?

Barakallahu feekum.

[jagxj12]

Can anybody please tell something regarding this?

[Wluwsdtn]

If I am understanding the problem correctly, akhi, then please assert yourself a little bit. Marriage is for living together, it is halal. This is how you become her shield and this is how she becomes your shield. If one has to live separately then marriage was effectively a useless activity and this is not allowed. Once again I hope I have understood your problem correctly. May Allah(SWT) make it easy for you.

Wassalam

[jagxj12]

Barakallahu feek for your answer dear brother.

I mean in this kinda Situation:
You are about 20 years old. You want to get married but are still going to school and also dont have an own place to live.
You dont have enough money at the moment to take care of your wive financially.
Is it possible in this Situation to do Nikah but both live at their parents home?

[StoyaFanst]

http://www.askimam.org/fatwa/fatwa.p...cc568d4476b70a

[Wluwsdtn]

When you do not have the financial means to support your wife then the clear cut Qur'anic injunction is to be patient. Which means that you do not get married. To protect yourself from fitnah this entails keeping fast for long durations. This is a tough preposition but easiness is not guaranteed in life.

Then there is another peeve. The so called modern education system has expanded into decades that education which should be eight to ten years' duration. Then people give very strange advices to cope with this. Unfortunately yours truly too has not found a way around it. Anyway if the parents agree to support their son as well as their would be daughter-in-law then that is the best solution.

[elects]

www.askimam.org...for authentic response..

[maclaudser]

Salamu Aleykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

is it allowed in Islam to do Nikah and live after that seperately? She lives with her parents and I live with mine?
What are the rules and facts about this topic?

Barakallahu feekum.

Wa 'alaykumus salam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.

Yes, it is allowed. Rasulullah SAW himself did that with Lady Aisha RA.
They got married when Lady Aisha RA was 6. And they started to live together when Lady Aisha RA was 9.
This process is called nikah khitbah. Wallahu a'lam.

[Beragagnu]

yes..age was the criteria in hadratha Aisha's (r.a.) marriage ..that's why there was a waiting period.

but i don't think.. that is the case in OP's scenerio.

Why would such marriages not be allowed? Nothing in shari'ah is being violated here. A "regular" marriage wherein a wife who had been living with her husband for several years goes and lives with her ailing parents to support them is no different. The only condition is that the husband must have access to the wife whenever he desires. I would even say that this situation is better than where a husband leaves the wife at home for months to work abroad, and the wife is stuck in her house without a mahram to help her, because in this case, the wife would be with her father/brother/uncles/grandparents and would have the same protection that she would have had if she was living with her husband. The obligation of the husband is to support his wife but if such an agreement is set with the family of the wife, then there is nothing wrong with it. The fatwah linked earlier in the thread points this out and validates this sort of nikah based on these conditions.

This is actually a very ingenious way to accommodate for extensive schooling time and to have some sort of preventative measure from fitnah.

[LoloLibia]

However, if both spouses agree to spend time apart from one another or sleep separately and be together occasionally in order that they maintain their passion for one another and the spark and excitement in their sexual relations, then there seems no reason why this would not be permitted, provided it is mutually agreed.

In fact, the renowned scholar of Hadith and Hanbali jurist, Imam Abu’l Faraj ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) suggests that it may be healthy for the marriage if both spouses slept separately and only united when they were fully prepared for intimacy.

He states in his work, Sayd al-Khatir:

“A woman should not be intimate [sexually] with her husband too often since he may become bored, and she should not become too distant from him [also] since he may forget her.” (Sayd al-Khatir, p: 605)

He further states:

“The wife should have her own bed (firash) and the husband should have his own bed. They should not engage in intimacy except in a state of [physical] perfection.” (Sayd al-Khatir, p: 606)

What Imam al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) is implying here is that both spouses should avoid being intimate with one another when they are physically in an undesirable state such as them being in their filthy work-clothes. This can be a “turn off” for one’s spouse and thus result in detrimental consequences.

As such, he states in another place in the same book that couples should fix a certain time of the day or night for sexual relations in order that both spouses are prepared physically and psychologically. Not only will this increase and enhance their pleasure, it will also eliminate the possibility of any one of them being in an undesirable or unprepared state of the mind or body. (Sayd al-Khatir P: 280)

In conclusion, it is permitted for a married couple to see each other occasionally due to the reason outlined in the question, provided this is mutually agreed and the rights of one’s spouse are not violated

http://www.daruliftaa.com/question?t...nID=q-14420539