[BoattyGonm]

Asalaam-u-alaikum...

i have this problem for the past few years,
i dont have control on my nafs, even by a thought which comes in my mind for a second spoils my Wudhuu.
sometimes i get those dirty thoughts while bathing,driving or even if im busy and I end up coming out na-pak, iv tried to avoid but
ITS HARD;
(someone told me avoid those dirty kind of pics,movies iv done that but, thought and even if someones talking about sex it spoils my wuzuu) IM SO WEAK
its a shame for me 22yr old man and im getting married soon...

iv been told to pray and to be in wudhuu all the time to get rid of these thoughts BUT, for that again I HAVE TO BE PAAK SAAF (clean)


my 2nd prblem is Fajr i always hv to miss it coz of the same problem at night its a must for me to get na-pak

its just difficult for me...


i would also like to know those stages of the men sperms.

[wsbizwsa]

Wa Alaikum Salam,

You should know that, there are shaytans for every single aspect of our lives. There is a specific shaytan that will try to cause confusion in you about your wudhu, so if you get dirty thoughts that doesn't make your wudhu spoiled. What breaks wudhu is known and they are few. Go buy a Hanafi fiqh book that covers some basics.
You mustn't miss Fajr, just sleep after you pray isha, go to the masjid and pray and come home and sleep. These are some simple stuff you have to be able to do, you have to learn to close your computer at times.

If you can't do that, find halal ways to punish your nafs after sinning each time. For example; pledge to yourself that if you sin again, each time you will give $100 in charity, or that you will fast for 10 days, or watch no TV and no computer for a week. Once you stop sinning for 40 days, the desire goes away.

Recite a lot of salawat during the day, as that keeps the shaytan away. And I would recommend that you read Imam Ghazali's book on "The remembrance of death and the afterlife" this book is a must if you want to stop sinning.

And finally, make since dua for yourself, this works, I've tried it. Wake up for tahajjud and pray 8-10 rakats in peace and tranquility, and once you are done, make dua, and this is how you make dua;

First you say; Alhamdulillah ir Rabbil Alamin; then you send blessings to the Prophet(saw); Allahumma salli ala sayyidina Muhammadin wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa sallim. Then you ask Allah(cc) whatever you want for and know that your prayers will be accepted and ask for guidance, and serenity, power and strength against your nafs, shaytan, dunya, and your hewa.


Follow this advice thoroughly for a week, and let me know.

[SantaClaus]

Read some of these books:
http://www.khanqah.org/books/en

[BoattyGonm]

i would also like to know what stages of sperms do we have..
once a friend told me after first stage of sperms comes out we cant stil wash that section n pray Namaz, ist true?

[wsbizwsa]

You should do ghusl according to Imam Abu Hanifa.

[intorkercet]

Bismillah
This illustrates the necessecities of being under the guidance of a spiritual guide / Shaikh of Tassawuf and not just under a guidance of scholar of shariah. Because these are condition pertaining to mind and heart. So my advice would be find a scholar of tassawuf who is strict adherent to Shariah and be under his guidance.
Allahualam