[eFDMBwKH]

Hello,

I am a 19 y/o female originally from Bangladesh, but I've grown up in Australia. My parents have recently been pressuring me to find a husband =='. I don't want to get married or have children. I want to travel the world and get involved in social work (I'm doing a sociology degree). Is it compulsory for muslims to get married and have children? It's not like I want to substitute that life for one of partying! My intentions are good. How can I make my parents understand? I'm at my wits
end stressing about this and I'm only 19. Advice anyone?

Kindest regards

[lLianneForbess]

Sister, marriage is highly stressed in Islam. There are many blessings & rewards for it which a single , practising Muslim can not get . Islam does not promote celibacy as it is the cause of many evils in society. Also, marriage is a sunnah of our beloved Prophet . One hadith equates marriage to constituting half of one's deen. For a Muslim woman , pregnacy & raising good children are more rewarding that Jihad in the path of Allah .

Why would you deprive yourself of all these numerous virtues - both of the world & the hereafter for a little bit of duniya ?

Are you aware that the Shariah does not give permission to a woman to travel alone without any mehram for more than 3 days ?

If you're not ready for marriage currently, you can tell your parents not to look for you at the moment , but to look for you after 1 year..2 years...whenever. But , it's not easy to find a good marriage partner these days, so , I'd suggest you let them look, but explain to them gently that you will only get married after 2 years or whenever...

InshaAllah, when you get older your views on marriage & motherhood will change.

[JasminBerkova]

Hello,

I am a 19 y/o female originally from Bangladesh, but I've grown up in Australia. My parents have recently been pressuring me to find a husband =='. I don't want to get married or have children. I want to travel the world and get involved in social work (I'm doing a sociology degree). Is it compulsory for muslims to get married and have children? It's not like I want to substitute that life for one of partying! My intentions are good. How can I make my parents understand? I'm at my wits
end stressing about this and I'm only 19. Advice anyone?

Kindest regards

why can't you get married, have children, do social work and travel the world...? hmmm is that impossible...?

[eFDMBwKH]

Thanks for both of your answers. I'm not against marriage completely. It's more the 'having children' part. I don't understand why it would be such a terrible thing to not have children and actually help children that are in need. Isn't that also part of Islam? To help those in need? And I'm pretty sure it will be incredibly difficult to have children, travel and do social work. Having children alone means a LOT of money must be spent in order to take care of the child - not only money, but also time. I doubt anyone has the means to work, raise children AND travel AND help the needy. Unless you're Angelina Jolie and you have millions of dollars and a lot of free time. So many factors come into play when you have a child so to ask why I cant do all of these things is a bit naive (no offence).

[JasminBerkova]

Thanks for both of your answers. I'm not against marriage completely. It's more the 'having children' part. I don't understand why it would be such a terrible thing to not have children and actually help children that are in need. Isn't that also part of Islam? To help those in need? And I'm pretty sure it will be incredibly difficult to have children, travel and do social work. Having children alone means a LOT of money must be spent in order to take care of the child - not only money, but also time. I doubt anyone has the means to work, raise children AND travel AND help the needy. Unless you're Angelina Jolie and you have millions of dollars and a lot of free time. So many factors come into play when you have a child so to ask why I cant do all of these things is a bit naive (no offence).

lol! okay... i am naive. really! but what i meant is: get married, have children, then your kids get big right, (everyone's do). and when they're big enough you get them married, travel the world and do social work. !!!

btw its crazy to say its too expensive to have children ... Not even homeless people make that excuse!!! but just chill if you don't want to get married now, i bet you will one day.

[StincPriene]

help children that are in need. Isn't that also part of Islam? To help those in need?

There are lots and lots of children that are in need of help in bangladesh. And because the living expense in bangladesh is much cheaper than Australia you will save money. So w y dont you TRAVEL to bangladesh ? Explore , meet , socialize with the people of your country

[AlexClips]

It's looks like the mods deleted my post for no reason. Anyways heres what I said:

You are an adult now so your parents can't force you to get married and they should understand. Travel the world, do social work and enjoy your youth. And yes it's almost impossible raising kids and doing social work at home let alone abroad.

[JasminBerkova]

It's looks like the mods deleted my post for no reason. Anyways heres what I said:

You are an adult now so your parents can't force you to get married and they should understand. Travel the world, do social work and enjoy your youth. And yes it's almost impossible raising kids and doing social work at home let alone abroad.

tsssskkk. tssskk. what social work are you referring to? its not almost impossible to have kids and do social work.

[AlexClips]

tsssskkk. tssskk. what social work are you referring to? its not almost impossible to have kids and do social work.

@bolded: Lol?

FYI, trying to do social work while raising a kid and being a wife is extremely hard. This should be relatively easy to understand.