[foltdan]

AslmAlkm.. hope u are all well.

well, i dont how to start it properly but im trying.
Im engaged n its going to be one year.. I used to talk to my fiance but nowadays that Excitement is not there whenever I recieve her call or text...

please help me out here. thanks

[Donadoni1809]

brother, may Allah guide you and bless you.

From my experience excitement fades away if you talk too often, that's natural. Therefore, when engaged one should either get married soon or keep communication to bare minimum. Boredom will set in no matter how exciting it was in the beginning. But if you think that it is not boredom but something else, like pressure or worry, then you need to make lots of dua asking for guidance. This is just my opinion, I was engaged for two years

[IACJdKfU]

In Islam, it is not permitted to converse with your fiance, as she is still your non-mahram (and Islam does not recognize relation by engagement), please see: http://www.askimam.org/fatwa/fatwa.p...ffe9c8b9e0eeda Parhaps that is the reason, InshaAllah if you stop all communication, and ask Allah Ta'ala for sincere forgiveness and turn to him, your marriage will be blessed. Wallahu A'alum.

[freddystone]

please help me out here. thanks

get married as soon as possible or stop being in contact with her. any haram activities may destory both of yours life.

[fil_nurser]

AslmAlkm.. hope u are all well.

well, i dont how to start it properly but im trying.
Im engaged n its going to be one year.. I used to talk to my fiance but nowadays that Excitement is not there whenever I recieve her call or text...

please help me out here. thanks

There is a very simple solution to your problem: stop talking to her for now and wait untill your wedding day. By then, all the excitement and anticiation will have returned.

[Thigmaswams]

Such is life. Its very natural. Its routine that should be expected down the road in my opinion. Thats why I think that expectations should be realistic and that after marriage husband and wife should give eachother their space. And they should learn how to kill routine every now and then, and how to deal with it wisely when there.

Expecting days in which they arent exactly excited should help overcome them. Giving eachother space gives them the chance to miss eachother too. Then they have children and that helps a lot because then the family revolves around them and you see life differently. Then the couple gets old and each would gather with friends and joke about what its like to be married lol.

Im Muslim alhamdulillah and understand how the institution affects society. Personally however, if I werent Muslim, id consider marriage to be impractical. Now I consider it a part of life that we have to go through.

Im not married so I may be wrong.

[gugamotina]

As-Salaamu 'alaykum

Courting and communication with one’s fiancé is not permissible in Islam.

The following is a quotation of Shaykh Yunus Patel (Rahmatullahi Alayh) :

"I always say don’t court before marriage. Most couples court, court and court, and after marriage, they end up in divorce courts."

Hazrat ‘Ali (RA) had said :

 Hasten your Salaah before the time expires.
 Hasten with Taubah, before death.
 Don’t delay the Janaza
 Don’t delay payment of debts.
 Don’t delay Nikah.

[Anavaralo]

"I always say don’t court before marriage. Most couples court, court and court, and after marriage, they end up in divorce courts."

That sister is a wonderful quote, I must remember this one. I think it really drives the message home.