[Wheegiabe]

Asalaam aleykum.


I am extremely perplexed and grieved concerning my present situation and Shaytan is also attacking me with various iman-endangering thoughts. Please can you answer my following question and put my mind at rest. I went to see her and everything was done the Islamic way. i.e. I did mashwarah (consultation) and istikharah etc...

First of all I'm not a convert and I come from generations of Muslims, Al hamdullillah I'm a practising muslim, educated , runs my own medium sized company. and alhamdullilah went Hajj last year and like everyone else I'm just trying to do what's right.

Now few weeks ago I had to send delegation to the sister's family and they were supposed to give back an answer in 2 weeks time.

I've know the sister for couple of years and I've been in touch with her and al hamdullilah she accepted the idea of us getting married according to deen.

He brothers,mother, and uncle were on borad except the father whose reasons were beyond my comprehension since he came across as a quite religious person as he reads alot of Qur'an indoors and prays.

The Girl's family is of mixed race ( African & Arab) and i happen to be black (African). Now the father has given out indication why I shouldn't marry her daughter and that is because I'm black and he continued that black people are more likely to be Kuffar's and he fears I will torture her daughter.

It's a devastating verdict from a fellow Muslim and as I write the sister is in shock and wants to proceed and see if we would be married by the Kadhi.

As far as I know, we two people marry it means we are joining families together and its her father who should have the right to marry her or not but I'm not sure if Islamic laws accepts the reasons he has mentioned as to why I shouldn't marry her daughter whom I'm prepared to love and cherish in both prosperity and adversity.

We are both confused and I fear she might do something to harm herself and I really need your input on this matter. Please reply soon and put my mind at rest, I am losing hope and Shaytan is playing with my mind and making me doubt the words of Allah and his Prophet. (na‘uzu billah) Please reply soon. Jazakallah. A distressed brother in need.

[Psymoussy]

There's no reason to despair. Allah always does what is in our best interests. If Allah wills it then this girl will be your wife. Period. No power on earth can stop the union. Conversely, if Allah, in his infinite wisdom, should decide that your union won't happen, then nobody can make it happen.

You've tried and done what you could. Now leave the rest with Allah. Don't stress over it dude. As for the evil whispers and machinations of Shaytaan, ignore them... immerse yourself in dua, zikr, etc. and cherish the fact that Allah is the best of planners!

[Hmwmzian]

As-Salaamu ‘alaikum

You should forward your question to a Mufti.
You can try ‘fatwa@darulihsan.com’


THE BEAUTY OF ISLAM :
Allah Ta’ala has stated in the Qur`aan Sharief :

“VERILY THE MOST HONOURED OF YOU IN THE SIGHT OF ALLAH IS (HE WHO IS) THE MOST RIGHTEOUS OF YOU...” .
[SURAH HUJURAT 49 : 13]

Rasulullah (Sallallaahu 'alayhi wa-Sallam) also said :

“VERILY ALLAH DOES NOT LOOK TOWARDS YOUR FACES, OR TOWARDS YOUR RICHES; BUT HE SEES (THE SINCERITY OF) YOUR HEARTS, AND THE NATURE OF YOUR DEEDS.”

Hazrat Abu Zarr (RA) narrated that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu alayhi wa-Sallam) had said to him : “Verily you are not better than a red-skinned person or a black-skinned person except that you excel him by Taqwa (piety and fear of Allah).”

[Wheegiabe]

There's no reason to despair. Allah always does what is in our best interests. If Allah wills it then this girl will be your wife. Period. No power on earth can stop the union. Conversely, if Allah, in his infinite wisdom, should decide that your union won't happen, then nobody can make it happen.

You've tried and done what you could. Now leave the rest with Allah. Don't stress over it dude. As for the evil whispers and machinations of Shaytaan, ignore them... immerse yourself in dua, zikr, etc. and cherish the fact that Allah is the best of planners!

Shukran Jazeellah. To be honest at this point my Iman was shattered and I've asked myself all sorts of questions as it wasn't my fault being created black and after all Allah knew best when we were created differently. But its even more disturbing that the girl's dad read's Quran (Mashaf) 2-3 times a day!

InshaAllah I'm just hoping for the best.

wasalaa'm

[irridgita]

Bismillah

Assalam-Alaikum Brother:

Like another sister advised, I would approach a Mufti with a question with regards to the marriage problem.

But I would like to clear your doubts (if Allah wills) in one regard. It does not matter if someone reads Quran 2-3 times a day or more or how righteous a person regards himself or is regarded by others, Islam has no place for racial or ethnic discrimination. The only way a believing person attains superiority is through worship of Allah and following the commands of his Prophet (SAW), whether a black, white, Arab, etc. So, Brother, I know you are facing a distressing situation but do not let Satan win against you in this matter of faith. You cannot let others, like the girl's father, define your relationship with the Creator. You are who you wish to be, not as someone who holds prejudice would define you.

Now, I brother ask you to choose whom you will believe, prejudicious man or Prophet (SAW) when our Noble Prophet (SAW) clearly said (as narrated in Musnad Ahmad, #22978):“O people! Your God is one and your forefather (Adam) is one. An Arab is not better than a non-Arab and a non-Arab is not better than an Arab, and a red (i.e. white tinged with red) person is not better than a black person and a black person is not better than a red person, except in piety.”

Brother, the world is filled with people who regard themselves superior for one reason or another; but truly intelligent people regard themselves as deficient and not others and hold fast to Islam.

So, at this moment when you feel distressed, make du'a to Allah for a person who supplicates in distress is close to Allah and has better chances of their supplication being answered should that person remain patient through the trial of the distressing business. The Quran urges, “O you who believe, seek assistance through patience and prayer; surely Allah is with the patient (2:153).”

Thank you for your question, Brother. Please have faith and do not be deceived by the evil-whisperer. And Allah knows best.

Alhamdullilah.

Anything that I have said that is good and true is from Allah and anything other than that is my own mistake.

[Nypbscao]

brother where are you from? Man there are plenty of girls around there is no need to stress. If the family is not accepting then just move on. We should not attach our hearts. Unfortunetely there are muslims who pray etc and are still racist. Big deal try and persuade the father but resign your fate to ALLAH. If it is meant to happen it will happen if not then there is nothing you can do to change it. Just pray to ALLAH and then accept what he decides. Please tell me which country you are from and have you heard of tableegh jamaat?

[Evoryboypoto]

Brother I have to agree with sister anybody & brother London.
There is no room in this deen for racism, for me if the father is racist now you will endure bigger problems with him later if you do marry.
Don't attach your heart, find another girl who's parents will appreciate you for your knowledge in deen, not how much money you have, what color your skin is or other pathetic things that we should never even think of let alone mention.
When you marry, you marry the family to a degree & this is something to consider.