[Tainlyferfara]

Are you a Jannati Wife?

Rasullullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said
‘The deeds of a pious Mu’min lady is better than the deeds of seventy Siddiqeen.And
the deeds of an evil woman is worse than that of a thousand evil people’
1. Are you pleasant to your husband’s family – especially his parents?
2. Do you encourage him to maintain good ties with his family – even those whom you do not like?
3. Do you take pride (and at times go out of your way) in preparing meals for him?
4. Do you dress and beautify yourself only for him and in accordance to his taste?
5. When he is sick, do you show concern by attending to him personally? Do you speak in abundance to his children about Allah Ta’aala and his Rasul Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam and make Du’aa for them in his presence?
6. Do you refrain from making demands from him about shopping and visiting etc?
7. Are you careful about his wealth when the need for buying things arises?
8. Do you express pride in his accomplishments?
9. Instead of clinging to him all the time, do you give him free time to associate with others, especially in Deeni affairs?
10. Do you with kindness remind him of the Laws of Allah Ta’aala when he intends to break those laws?
11. Does his pleasure mean more to you than your entire family, even your parents?
12. Do you keep away from anyone whom he does not like?
13. Do you hide his faults from others?
14. Do you teach his children to respect him?
15. Do you keep his house neat and orderly?
16. Do you give preference to his likes over that of yours?
17. Do you remain silent if he is angry about something, though you may be right?
18. Do you express your gratitude to him at times for his kindness?
19. Do you defend him if anyone hurts him or annoys him?
20. Are you soft and kind in speech to him or abrupt and harsh?
21. When you sense that you have annoyed him, do you unreservedly ask him to forgive you?
22. Do you entertain his guests with a smile?
23. When he returns home at the end of the day, does he find a loving smiling wife, hot food, a clean house and children awaiting him?
Yes, Jannat has a price! If the answer to all these questions is yes, then, glad tidings be to you... for you are a person who, whilst walking on the surface of this dunyaa, is already in Jannat.
You will enter through any of the eight gates of Jannat!

Are you a Jannati Husband?

Rasullullah Sallullahu Alayhi Wasallam said
“The best amongst you are those who are best to their wives”
1. Do you provide clothing, food and shelter to your wife in accordance to your earnings?
2. Do you allow her to associate with her parents at least once a week?
3. Do you allow her to serve her parents when they are unwell?
4. Do you defend her against anyone who orders her around like a maid?
5. Do you express gratitude to her for the cooking etc, she does?
6. Do you at times take her for a holiday where there is no contravention of the Shariah?
7. Do you at times help with the cleaning of the house?
8. Do you give her a monthly allowance for her own personal needs?
9. Are you sensitive to her feelings of Happiness and pain?
10. Do you listen attentively when she speaks to you or requests items for the house?
11. Do you keep yourself neat and tidy for her pleasure?
12. Do you give preference to her likes in issues of the dunyaa (such as colour choices) over yours?
13. Do you warn her about being careful not to break the Divine Laws of Allah Ta’ala?
14. Do you make Sabr and contemplate over her favours when she annoys you?
15. Do you appreciate her possessiveness over you?
16. If she is unwell, do you hasten to see that she gets proper treatment?
17. Do you spend more time with your family than with your sporting and fishing friends?
18. Do you entertain her guests?
19. Do you insist that she does not cook etc, if she is unwell?
20. Do you speak to her about the Deeni Talks that you listened to during the week?
21. Do you assist with the Ta’leem of the children at home?
22. Do you avoid speaking roughly and harshly to her, especially if she points out a wrong to you?
23. Do you prevent her from speaking to and associating with Ghair-Mehram?
24. Do you take offence if she dresses up and beautifies herself for other people?
25. Do you avoid threatening her that you will get another wife whilst being fully aware that you cannot exercise justice and patience to one?
26. Do you observe the Sunnats just as you wish her to observe the Sunnats?
27. Do you observe Purdaah and avoid sweet talk with Ghair-Mehrams just as you expect her to observe Purdaah?
28. Do you ask her for forgiveness when you have wronged her?
If the answers to all of these questions is... “Yes”’, then make Shukr, for you are indeed a husband of Jannat

[Adiamant]

Yes

[wmirkru]

Yes

[Polopolop]

Mashallah.

I am getting married in a few weeks Inshallah.
Going to get this printed on a canvas and put in my room as a daily reminder for me and for her.

jAZAKaLLAH kHAIR.

[PrettyFifa12]

Alhamdulillah

[flopay]

Rasullullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said
‘The deeds of a pious Mu’min lady is better than the deeds of seventy Siddiqeen.And
the deeds of an evil woman is worse than that of a thousand evil people’ SubhanAllah !!!

Do you have the source of this hadith ?

[OpVJokl8]

...where did you get this list of obligations from??

[OpVJokl8]

Alhamdulillah

.... judging by what you gotta do to be a jannati according to the OP, you are a mujahid maulana

[Wetekemieluth]

No!
because I'm single , neither i wanna get married ever otherwise i have to deal with this much big list of obligations.. Oh My Allah! its hell difficult!

[Wetekemieluth]

This is so I love the book "العلماء*العزاب" by Abdul Fattah Abu Ghuddah :
You people also go through it.

[Britiobby]

Married Life *GOLDEN* Advice- Shaykh Hasan Ali [FULL]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-tjN-6W5AE


Q&A- Married Life Golden Advice- Shaykh Hasan Ali

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gR7nQeeBY0s


Nice lecture, funny and upto the point.

[DialOne]

We husbands also gotta do something to become Jannati?

[Teeppoodiug]

I must check

anyway they can influence each other a lot...

w salam

[Unergerah]

well, jannah wont be that much tough to win.... every body just need to follow Islam, Quran and whatever Allah have guided every Muslim for living life in this world. in case of wife and husband, the booth should have to respect each other,,follow islamic rules, which all about the rights of husband and wife, on each other,, they would have successful life inshAllah..

[Maphpseurse]

well, jannah wont be that much tough to win....

Bismillahi

No one is fit to enter Jannah unless through the mercy of Allah SWT and we should not take it lightly that we can enter Jannah easily. Even if we strive to the worst level, we don't deserve it or we can claim that we can enter Jannah now and so is saving oneself from Hell. Both are really tough unless Allah showers His SWt mercy. Allahu alam

[PrettyFifa12]

We husbands also gotta do something to become Jannati?

i didnt think so but then i read the list i said, oh well thats more or less my nature

[DialOne]

Bismillahi

No one is fit to enter Jannah unless through the mercy of Allah SWT and we should not take it lightly that we can enter Jannah easily. Even if we strive to the worst level, we don't deserve it or we can claim that we can enter Jannah now and so is saving oneself from Hell. Both are really tough unless Allah showers His SWt mercy. Allahu alam

[DialOne]

i didnt think so but then i read the list i said, oh well thats more or less my nature

Maulana.
What about those with a contrary nature?

[cemDrymnVem]

We husbands also gotta do something to become Jannati?

nope, u husbands need nthn to do, u ppl are paidaishi jannati. Becumin a husband is the greatest award, nd to b proud nd boost upon. I simply hate th term HUsbAnd. I was livin a smooth life before getn married, once i came across this husband menace, my life is a ruin.

[PrettyFifa12]

Maulana.
What about those with a contrary nature?

They should take it as a mujahada and conform to this nature.