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Asslamuwalaikum,

I am Irshad. I was a very frank person. Also my zodiac sign is Gemini and it is said that Gemini are talkative. But someone said silence is better according to Islam and I became very silent. Now I feel like speaking, doing masti with my collegues but I just stop myself for cause of Islam. I feel if I speak I might go beyond boundaries.This made me more reserved and I started going away from people. I don't like to share anything with them. My facial expressions also do not remain normal. It changes to something to which people feel I am rude but I am not. It may be because I don't laugh much as it is is said if we laugh loud our heart gets hard. So my facial musscles don't get exercised. Also I have become very emotional in this way. Leaving in this way is coming between me and my relationship and career. I do agree that Islam is important but I don't understand how far I should remain in this manner. I am unable to understand how to deal with this situations. Please help.
JazakAllah for your kindness.

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Asslamuwalaikum,

I am Irshad. I was a very frank person. Also my zodiac sign is Gemini and it is said that Gemini are talkative. But someone said silence is better according to Islam and I became very silent. Now I feel like speaking, doing masti with my collegues but I just stop myself for cause of Islam. I feel if I speak I might go beyond boundaries.This made me more reserved and I started going away from people. I don't like to share anything with them. My facial expressions also do not remain normal. It changes to something to which people feel I am rude but I am not. It may be because I don't laugh much as it is is said if we laugh loud our heart gets hard. So my facial musscles don't get exercised. Also I have become very emotional in this way. Leaving in this way is coming between me and my relationship and career. I do agree that Islam is important but I don't understand how far I should remain in this manner. I am unable to understand how to deal with this situations. Please help.
JazakAllah for your kindness.

brother.

First of all please refrain from looking at astrology under zodiac signs. Its clearly prohibited in Islam. Stars has nothing to do with our future or charecter.

Now to the main issue, being silent is a good thing, but timing is important. Don't stop interacting with people, its the word that come out of our mouth is important. Also Smiling is a good thing. Being silent doesn't mean one has to be rude, we have to behave with compassion. I won't advice much, because i myself am struggling with making my charecter good. I guess it takes time and effort to learn good behaviour. Keep up the good work bro, just remember to take the middle path. And don't forget to stop following horoscopes .

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Asslamuwalaikum,

I am Irshad. I was a very frank person. Also my zodiac sign is Gemini and it is said that Gemini are talkative. But someone said silence is better according to Islam and I became very silent. Now I feel like speaking, doing masti with my collegues but I just stop myself for cause of Islam. I feel if I speak I might go beyond boundaries.This made me more reserved and I started going away from people. I don't like to share anything with them. My facial expressions also do not remain normal. It changes to something to which people feel I am rude but I am not. It may be because I don't laugh much as it is is said if we laugh loud our heart gets hard. So my facial musscles don't get exercised. Also I have become very emotional in this way. Leaving in this way is coming between me and my relationship and career. I do agree that Islam is important but I don't understand how far I should remain in this manner. I am unable to understand how to deal with this situations. Please help.
JazakAllah for your kindness.

There is a surah Buruj in the Quran. Much of ilm of nujum is lost, its forbidden to use them to predict future and is often totally wrong. Using them to find out a persons quality or characteristics is useless because many factors shape a persons character and qualities aside from nujum. Not to mention, one would have to be highly skilled at it because the calculations have to be precise to the smallest degree or else it throws the entire calculation off. Like I said, much of the knowledge is lost and gone. Dont forget, nujum are in control of Allah swt

You should just keep conversation limited to work, especially with female coworkers. Remember the limits of shariah, try to keep your gaze down, dont stay alone in the company of the female, dont make any conversation outside of work related issues. As far as work, you should do the work of 2 people and try to excel at work. It should be that even if you want to resign your boss should not accept your resignation and try to keep you on board. To fire you should be the last idea on your boss mind, your boss should know that if he fires you he will have to hire 2 people to replace you. Remember that you are always representing Islam.

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Just talking itself isnt bad. For example, if you sold watermelons and all day long you said "watermelons, watermelons, get your watermelons!" this wouldnt be harmful for your spirituality at all. The talk we need to abstain from, directing this to myself first and foremost, is useless talk, talk that has no benefit to deen or dunya - that is harmful speech and its detrimental to spirituality. We have to abstain from useless, futile speech.

Laughing and joking itself isnt so bad, our buzrughs our pious elders, they were not sour faced. Laughing out of control makes a person forgetfull of the hereafter, a person should not laugh so much that it makes him forgetfull of hereafter. Joking and laughing with friends, especially with the intention to bring joy and happiness to their heart is actually a sign of a very healthy ruh, a healthy lively soul. However, the joking should not be of fahishah type, should not be immoral, or lies, slander, belitting people etc. As long as the joking and laughing is within the shariah limits then more power to you. Our pious elders were not sour faced and if you keep the company of a few mashaikh of this age you will find out that they are quite normal down to earth people they laugh and joke and talk about economy/politics/agriculture/all sorts of topics.

There is nothing wrong with keeping a smile on your face, do it with the niyyat, intention, of bringing happiness to the other person. To give you a personal example, I keep a smile on my face at work and Alhamdulillah many patients, many patient families, my coworkers, they all get cheered up by it, it brings a good positive attitude to the team. With a smile on my face I can deal with the most difficult type of family members, the most difficult patients - people respond well to a smile, they are more accepting to a smile rather than sour faced hard gaze demeanor. This should be incorporated in dawah also when going on tabligh gusht and such.

Remember one thing, listen attentively to people more than you talk to them. This is a big sunnah, listening attentively. Incorporate this sunnah to your work life and you will find work to be very smooth. Listen attentively to coworkers, clients, customers, patients, they take note of this. Also, think twice and open your mouth once, rather than not think at all and have to back pedal on your words later.

Always at work keep your mentality of sincere abdiyat, sincere servitude - whatever service you provide to your clients, customers, patients, whoever, always keep your abdiyat mentality in your approach. Your customers will become very loyal to your service, your clients wont leave you - if your boss should fire you then he will lose several big clients and lots of customers because they became more loyal to you than to his business.

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To cure this problem seek out the company of a kaamil shaikh and in his company observe how he talks what he talks about how he jokes how he laughs and adopt the same. This will help you understand directly by observation what the fine line is.

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Sheik Fusus.